Why I hate bi-curious men.

[Love_To_Be_Sleazy]

I don't mess with bi curious guys anymore , most are just looking for the blowjob their wives or girlfriends won't give them and most times there is no reciprocation from them and I WANT RECIPROCATION!

 

[Bi4Older84]

I don't mess with bi curious guys anymore , most are just looking for the blowjob their wives or girlfriends won't give them and most times there is no reciprocation from them and I WANT RECIPROCATION!

The good thing is that there are plenty of guys who really enjoy giving without reciprocation. I'm with you-I like giving AND receiving, but I have a buddy who prefers to just suck me off and save up his load and all that pent up sexual energy for his gf. I have had times when I wanted to reciprocate, but I'm not gonna turn down a good blowjob lol

 

[J1biboi]

As others have said, not everyone wants the first time to be random. I finally found someone who I felt I could trust with the deepest secret I have who can also be a friend and had my first experience yesterday. It is hard to take that leap living in small town, rural America where everyone knows everyone and seems to find out everything. I will say I am no longer just curious and look forward to continuing my journey.

I know your situation all too well. I wish you well in your journey.

 

[ByteMe13]

I don't mess with bi curious guys anymore , most are just looking for the blowjob their wives or girlfriends won't give them and most times there is no reciprocation from them and I WANT RECIPROCATION!

I’d love to find guys that just want to get sucked off. I love sucking cock I’m ok with getting sucked too but much prefer to do the sucking.

 

[SPARTAN047]

The good thing is that there are plenty of guys who really enjoy giving without reciprocation. I'm with you-I like giving AND receiving, but I have a buddy who prefers to just suck me off and save up his load and all that pent up sexual energy for his gf. I have had times when I wanted to reciprocate, but I'm not gonna turn down a good blowjob lol

Agreed, plenty of guys can be selfish when it comes to blowjobs. I don't mind just sucking and being fucked, but at least offer to suck my clitty! I don't mind if you don't bottom though it would be nice to offer. I get that it changes the dynamics between you a lot, who's in charge and who's not, so I don't expect you to bend over for my clitty. But sucking a sissy clitty or even your bottom to excite them enough so you can fuck them should be a given. I've only received one offer to bottom so far IRL but a few guys and TVs sucked me without asking. I'm fine with that since I do fuck but not that well and I prefer being on all fours with my ass in the air getting pounded like a whore.

I’d love to find guys that just want to get sucked off. I love sucking cock I’m ok with getting sucked too but much prefer to do the sucking.

I'm the same, I prefer sucking but I love having my clitty sucked and my asshole licked. I'm very willing to do it too, it's hard to find reciprocating tops. I normally prefer other sissies and bottoms to mutually suck.

 

[DickandDoof]

I can understand how people have difficulty reconciling their sexual desires with how they see their own sexual orientations.

I, myself, used a Get Out of Gay Jail free card by claiming that the cock I was sucking and fucking was on a trans woman and therefore it didn't count. So much denial.

If you know it's denial then why keep denying? I've pretty much gone all the way over to the gay side. When I need cock, I need cock, no point in pretending otherwise. No shame in fucking or sucking a real man -- or at least fantasising and having cyber sex with one.

 

[Hotshots44]

I am married and bi curious and i won't hesitate to suck a cock, but....
...I have to like the cock. I'm not into kissing or other forms of caressing, but when I take a cock into my mouth, it should be well-groomed, (as i am) the balls should be as cleanly shaved as possible, large, preferably curvy and veiny with a bulging glans....as I said, I wouldn't hesitate.

 

[Toddski]

If you're fucking trans women (or men come to that) maybe the label 'pansexual' is more suited to you. I consider myself pan now because I'll play with anyone regardless of gender identity (as long as there is mutual attraction of course).

If you fetishise trans people (I fucking hate the label 'shemale' as do all my trans friends) that's a whole different ballpark and not a 100% pleasant one (in my very humble opinion, of course). I'd love to look inside the head of those people.

If you're cross-dressing, it doesn't change your gender. You're still a cock in a frock.

Thank you I now understand and will drop the bi. It has been hurting my chances to meet my partner

 

[Toddski]

I am married and bi curious and i won't hesitate to suck a cock, but....
...I have to like the cock. I'm not into kissing or other forms of carssing, but when I take a cock into my mouth, it should be well-groomed, (as i am) the balls should be as cleanly shaved as possible, large, preferably curvy and veiny with a bulging glans....as I said, I wouldn't hesitate.

I agree. A well trimmed cock and clean partner.

 

[Toddski]

Agreed, plenty of guys can be selfish when it comes to blowjobs. I don't mind just sucking and being fucked, but at least offer to suck my clitty! I don't mind if you don't bottom though it would be nice to offer. I get that it changes the dynamics between you a lot, who's in charge and who's not, so I don't expect you to bend over for my clitty. But sucking a sissy clitty or even your bottom to excite them enough so you can fuck them should be a given. I've only received one offer to bottom so far IRL but a few guys and TVs sucked me without asking. I'm fine with that since I do fuck but not that well and I prefer being on all fours with my ass in the air getting pounded like a whore.

I'm the same, I prefer sucking but I love having my clitty sucked and my asshole licked. I'm very willing to do it too, it's hard to find reciprocating tops. I normally prefer other sissies and bottoms to mutually suck.

I wish I could find a TG or full time Sissy in Iowa. I would lick her hole have her pump my mouth or ass full of her love juice. I no longer describe myself as bi but pan. I had an excellent gurl who taught me to appreciate a trans woman for her sex drive and powerful clitty.

 

[SPARTAN047]

I wish I could find a TG or full time Sissy in Iowa. I would lick her hole have her pump my mouth or ass full of her love juice. I no longer describe myself as bi but pan. I had an excellent gurl who taught me to appreciate a trans woman for her sex drive and powerful clitty.

Sounds really hot and that's why I love trans girls.

 

[smoothwiener]

From when I was a teenager I've known I was bi (revised to pan now). And I found that getting your hands (or mouth) on a cock is about the easiest thing on earth to do, so much easier than finding a willing woman at short notice.

On swinging sites there's a thousand and one guys with 'bi-curious' on their profiles. Bearing in mind it only takes about 5 minutes to satisfy that curiosity, why?

A lot of the time it feels like it's just a box some guys feel they have to tick, or they're looking to play with a couple and think it might be an extra enticement, but when it comes down to it a lot of guys are just like "You can suck my cock, I guess, maybe, but I'm not sucking yours".

Come on guys, overcome that curiosity and get the fuck out of that closet.

First off it's not that easy. For me to make that jump I literally need to check off certain boxes that I like, then you need to find someone that meets them, Mine are shaved down there and larger than average, that's got my interest, I absolutely can't do it to a furball because I hate public hair.

Am I trying, absolutely, at least in my area it's hard to find a shaver, then to find one interested in you.

And it might take more than once to decide how you feel because that first time you will be nervous and might take another couple times to decide how you feel about it when you aren't nervous.

 

[Mike302]

I'm married and bi, wife and I happily bang.

I'd love to have a regular feeder. He wouldn't have to suck me at all, ever, if he didn't want to.

 

[Bearkat14]

Yeah me too but I want us to do everything

 

[GentlemanJedi63]

Totally understand that desire. I have come to accept my desire to have a regular feeder and top. I would relish the role of being the “man” who could provide a real man his well deserved sexual gratification.

 

[Britva415]

I'm no longer curious, I've been confirmed bi since I was 18.

 

[friendlyoldman]

Why would you hate them? They're not struggling with the technique of sucking a cock, but with feelings that they are told to be wrong. Hate won't help you nor them. They need support. If you can't give that, then just ignore their profiles.

 

[Britva415]

They need support. If you can't give that, then just ignore their profiles.

This doesn't match the context of the original post.

The original post was about:
Men who are actively advertising for other sexual partners, and misrepresenting what they really want.

How can you ignore a profile before you find out that the person writing it isn't being honest?

 

[One_ping_only]

I think that there are a LOT of guys who are bi-curious until the moment after they cum-that's when the guilt kicks in.

I didn't become curious about bi until 25 or start exploring m2m until 35. I had to overcome a lot of internalized homophobia, and once that was done, it was more difficult for me to find the right scenario (safe, discreet, mutual attraction, chemistry, etc) to take the dive.

I agree that there are plenty of guys who will receive a blowjob or touch another cock in a group scenario, but won't reciprocate-and that does feel pretty selfish. There are also a lot of guys (married/involved) who don't feel the freedom to really explore. I wish more people realized that bisexuality isn't just "diet gay" and that a man can enjoy both without having to identify as something he doesn't feel comfortable. That's why I like the ideas of "heteroflexible" or "bisexual, but heteroromantic." Lots of guys are attracted to cocks or man on man sex, but not to men in any sort of romantic sense.

When said guilty kicks in ........ that's when Pre Nut Clarity clears there head of all horniness and that's when they say to themselves " fuck I can't believe I just did that "

Probably best if they just jerk off really quick so they won't do something they'll regret later?? That goes for bi, fat and even hetro males ofc haaaaa!?!?

 

[friendlyoldman]

This doesn't match the context of the original post.

The original post was about:
Men who are actively advertising for other sexual partners, and misrepresenting what they really want.

How can you ignore a profile before you find out that the person writing it isn't being honest?

That would change my comment indeed. But I don't read it that way in the first post.

 

[Phatfeet]

From when I was a teenager I've known I was bi (revised to pan now). And I found that getting your hands (or mouth) on a cock is about the easiest thing on earth to do, so much easier than finding a willing woman at short notice.

On swinging sites there's a thousand and one guys with 'bi-curious' on their profiles. Bearing in mind it only takes about 5 minutes to satisfy that curiosity, why?

A lot of the time it feels like it's just a box some guys feel they have to tick, or they're looking to play with a couple and think it might be an extra enticement, but when it comes down to it a lot of guys are just like "You can suck my cock, I guess, maybe, but I'm not sucking yours".

Come on guys, overcome that curiosity and get the fuck out of that closet.

I think a lot of this statement only holds true for certain personality types, in certain locations, and certainly childhood influences.

While I can easily see where a person who is assertive in personality, is from an urban setting, and was brought up in an inclusive environment might think this; and to be fair, accurate from their particular perspective, for others it is a little more challenging to fully cross over.

As many fugitives have found out, living in rural settings means less people see what you are doing, but what few there are comes under the microscope intensely. And the very few gay men there are in small towns, often like to boast to whom they have slept with. Like the superintendent from the local school who is married and sleeps with my gay friend on occasion. If I know, a lot of people know. This makes it very challenging for bi-men in rural areas to experiment. And while religion may not be something one person holds too dearly, for some men overcoming those long held beliefs is nearly impossible; its been preached to them since they were a kid. Add in a more reserved personality and it can be a real challenge to get over some long-held fears and experiment with another man.

And when they do, is it not hard to understand they are suddenly confronted with reality? It is ANOTHER MAN that is asking him to suck his cock. That can be hugely intimidating, but to just have his sucked, well it feels good, the man's wife does not give good blowjobs, and he can just close his eyes after all.

This is NOT me at all by the way, but I can understand the totality of the situation.

But it is understandable that giving such a man that blowjob and not have it reciprocated a person feels used after several times of the same thing happening. I truly get that and I feel sorry anyone feels used. But I am not sure it should be viewed that way. Life is a journey and so is someone's sex life. While there may be hopes for reciprocation, just know you have at least helped the man to at least progress to the next level. A lot of men hope for even that, but cannot get past their fears. Maybe it is not your role to have him take it further though, but someone else, years later? That is just fine; enjoy the moment you two did share and not dwell on what could have happened.

 

[saintcero]

I was in my late 60’s when opportunity, horniness, my growing submissive nature and curiosity all merged and I had my first M2M. I went to get a BJ performed on me but decided that I wanted to suck his cock too. I immediately love it.

SilverDaddies and Lit showed me that my new desires were not unusual. Knowledge and support helped give me confidence. Getting a few gay massages allowed me to dabble in M2M without having to fully commit.

A nice SilverDaddies member offered to be my first Top and I eagerly gave him my virginity. I loved having him fuck my all over his house.

Like others here, I have no desired to kiss, cuddle or bond to another male. This is all about his cock and my submission to it.

Where will all this go? No idea but there is so much more for me to experience.

 

[Nicenashguy615]

From when I was a teenager I've known I was bi (revised to pan now). And I found that getting your hands (or mouth) on a cock is about the easiest thing on earth to do, so much easier than finding a willing woman at short notice.

On swinging sites there's a thousand and one guys with 'bi-curious' on their profiles. Bearing in mind it only takes about 5 minutes to satisfy that curiosity, why?

A lot of the time it feels like it's just a box some guys feel they have to tick, or they're looking to play with a couple and think it might be an extra enticement, but when it comes down to it a lot of guys are just like "You can suck my cock, I guess, maybe, but I'm not sucking yours".

Come on guys, overcome that curiosity and get the fuck out of that closet.

Not sure how old you are but I’m guessing much younger than me (55). If that’s the case, you gotta consider that for those of us from older generations, we’ve been programmed by society all our lives to reject anything outside a ‘normal’ heterosexual relationship. Even cheating was heavily frowned on.

It’s a lie, yes, but calling myself curious rather than bi is an easier pill to swallow.

The last 10-20 years has opened all that up but you can’t unprogram a person so easily. And as mentioned, most of us have been married to women for thirty years who generally can’t or won’t accept this. Not to mention lifelong friendships that will also end. I marvel at the elasticity of younger generations but for me to just be out with it means my entire world goes upside down and I’m not sure I want that. Not when I can have my cake and eat it too.

 

[SPARTAN047]

Not sure how old you are but I’m guessing much younger than me (55). If that’s the case, you gotta consider that for those of us from older generations, we’ve been programmed by society all our lives to reject anything outside a ‘normal’ heterosexual relationship. Even cheating was heavily frowned on.

It’s a lie, yes, but calling myself curious rather than bi is an easier pill to swallow.

The last 10-20 years has opened all that up but you can’t unprogram a person so easily. And as mentioned, most of us have been married to women for thirty years who generally can’t or won’t accept this. Not to mention lifelong friendships that will also end. I marvel at the elasticity of younger generations but for me to just be out with it means my entire world goes upside down and I’m not sure I want that. Not when I can have my cake and eat it too.

That's kind of true. I'm almost in the same generation.

I have traditional views on cheating and staying faithful. Enough generation Y and Z people do. But I believe it's fine to cheat back.

 

[Northwind75]

Not sure how old you are but I’m guessing much younger than me (55). If that’s the case, you gotta consider that for those of us from older generations, we’ve been programmed by society all our lives to reject anything outside a ‘normal’ heterosexual relationship. Even cheating was heavily frowned on.

It’s a lie, yes, but calling myself curious rather than bi is an easier pill to swallow.

The last 10-20 years has opened all that up but you can’t unprogram a person so easily. And as mentioned, most of us have been married to women for thirty years who generally can’t or won’t accept this. Not to mention lifelong friendships that will also end. I marvel at the elasticity of younger generations but for me to just be out with it means my entire world goes upside down and I’m not sure I want that. Not when I can have my cake and eat it too.

This extremely accurate. I agree with you 100%