yorkshireitie
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You must be too popular...I couldn't respond to your message because your mailbox is full. I look forward to more messages.im in a similar situation. I get w bam thank you mam every 6 weeks or so. I think the wam bam is worse than celibacy. It becomes like a chore. It's like oh yeah we'll have to find time to do it. Kind of like mopping the kitchen floor
im in a similar situation. I get w bam thank you mam every 6 weeks or so. I think the wam bam is worse than celibacy. It becomes like a chore. It's like oh yeah we'll have to find time to do it. Kind of like mopping the kitchen floor
sorry to hear that mouse
the very last time my ex and i had sex i tried masturbating for him....he said he was bored....the remaining 2.5 years of our marriage involved nothing intimate, not even hugs or kisses.
sorry to hear that mouse
the very last time my ex and i had sex i tried masturbating for him....he said he was bored....the remaining 2.5 years of our marriage involved nothing intimate, not even hugs or kisses.
Wow, that sucks.
How could a guy be bored watching a woman masturbate. If you are not into watching, no worries...then join in right
There has been nothing here, no hugs or kisses even for over year and half. Not going to count up the months or will get mad
You haven't had sex with your husband in 3 years. You mentioned you have had affairs; short term and long term. Do you think that might be part of the problem? Do you think he doesn't know about them? Do you think he is happy about them? Maybe he too is in silent agony staying with a cheating wife for the sake of the kid? Time to come clean and straighten out your life and your marriage. They both sound fucked up. If you want LOVE, you have to know what it is and you have to make it yourself and give it to another person. Cheating on your husband is not loving your husband. It is not even showing respect or courtesy towards him. You are only interested in what you can get for yourself. As such, you will always be chasing a fantasy.Please do not judge me. I am 35, healthy, attractive and in a sexless marriage. My husband and I have not been intimate in over 3 years.
He has zero desire - you may speculate all you want but no I do not think he is gay, no he will not go to marriage counseling. I have gone on my own but it is hard to fix a marriage from one side. We otherwise get along, and yes there is a child which makes leaving very hard - especially since we otherwise function very well as a family!
That said, should I be complacent with with a life of celibacy? We are friends, get along but it is platonic? Maybe, maybe there is nothing really wrong with that?
I have has affairs - both long term and short and was left feeling empty, more alone than before.
Truly I want to LOVE(!!!) - hard, unabashedly, passionately, devotedly, endlessly. And I want to be so loved in return.
But maybe that isn't what marriage is about? Maybe what I have is as close to good as it gets?
Sorry for my late night and tipsy ramble ... I have had a few glasses of Pinot Grigio and I am waxing philosophic.
You haven't had sex with your husband in 3 years. You mentioned you have had affairs; short term and long term. Do you think that might be part of the problem? Do you think he doesn't know about them? Do you think he is happy about them? Maybe he too is in silent agony staying with a cheating wife for the sake of the kid? Time to come clean and straighten out your life and your marriage. They both sound fucked up. If you want LOVE, you have to know what it is and you have to make it yourself and give it to another person. Cheating on your husband is not loving your husband. It is not even showing respect or courtesy towards him. You are only interested in what you can get for yourself. As such, you will always be chasing a fantasy.
So much for asking someone to not be judgmental.
Seriously, this is what you choose as your first post on Lit? Go back under your bridge, troll, and let the real people here deal with their own realities. Nice try with your attempt to look moral and just--now you simply look ridiculous.
SG
This is not about morality. This is about sanity. It is irrational to complain about a sexless marriage if you are cheating on your spouse. You don't have a spouse, you don't have a marriage if you are cheating. Marriage is nothing more than a list of promises. These promises are only as good as your word. If you break the promises, you have broken the marriage - it is that simple. So, believe it or not I am not trying to troll you or anyone else. I am actually trying to help this sad lady see the truth. Her marriage is shot. Either because her husband's sex drive died before she went out cheating on him or because it died when he found out about her cheating. Either way, no one was willing to do their job in this marriage and they have let it go to ruin. Get over it and get a divorce. No judgement here, I am just trying to point out the 800 lbs elephant in the room that no one is willing to mention out of "political correctness", manners, fear or whatever.
im in a similar situation. I get w bam thank you mam every 6 weeks or so. I think the wam bam is worse than celibacy. It becomes like a chore. It's like oh yeah we'll have to find time to do it. Kind of like mopping the kitchen floor
im in a similar situation. I get w bam thank you mam every 6 weeks or so. I think the wam bam is worse than celibacy. It becomes like a chore. It's like oh yeah we'll have to find time to do it. Kind of like mopping the kitchen floor
I feel for you! When did it stop? Did you notice a gradual stopping of sex before it just stopped all together, or was it just sudden? If you want, we can chat.Please do not judge me. I am 35, healthy, attractive and in a sexless marriage. My husband and I have not been intimate in over 3 years.
He has zero desire - you may speculate all you want but no I do not think he is gay, no he will not go to marriage counseling. I have gone on my own but it is hard to fix a marriage from one side. We otherwise get along, and yes there is a child which makes leaving very hard - especially since we otherwise function very well as a family!
That said, should I be complacent with with a life of celibacy? We are friends, get along but it is platonic? Maybe, maybe there is nothing really wrong with that?
I have has affairs - both long term and short and was left feeling empty, more alone than before.
Truly I want to LOVE(!!!) - hard, unabashedly, passionately, devotedly, endlessly. And I want to be so loved in return.
But maybe that isn't what marriage is about? Maybe what I have is as close to good as it gets?
Sorry for my late night and tipsy ramble ... I have had a few glasses of Pinot Grigio and I am waxing philosophic.
Please do not judge me. I am 35, healthy, attractive and in a sexless marriage. My husband and I have not been intimate in over 3 years.
He has zero desire - you may speculate all you want but no I do not think he is gay, no he will not go to marriage counseling. I have gone on my own but it is hard to fix a marriage from one side. We otherwise get along, and yes there is a child which makes leaving very hard - especially since we otherwise function very well as a family!
That said, should I be complacent with with a life of celibacy? We are friends, get along but it is platonic? Maybe, maybe there is nothing really wrong with that?
I have has affairs - both long term and short and was left feeling empty, more alone than before.
Truly I want to LOVE(!!!) - hard, unabashedly, passionately, devotedly, endlessly. And I want to be so loved in return.
But maybe that isn't what marriage is about? Maybe what I have is as close to good as it gets?
Sorry for my late night and tipsy ramble ... I have had a few glasses of Pinot Grigio and I am waxing philosophic.
Well once in the last 5 years sounds sexless to me...How sexless is sexless???
My understanding of a sexless marriage is anywhere from 10 times per year or less.
Woah, lots of trolls in here. smh.. Both ladies and gentlemen that have come to this thread to share your burdens, just wanted to say how sorry I am for your situation. I can't imagine how it must feel to be in love with someone, wanting to show them that you love them, and have that rejected time and time again. /ehugs for everyone.
Please do not judge me. I am 35, healthy, attractive and in a sexless marriage. My husband and I have not been intimate in over 3 years.
He has zero desire - you may speculate all you want but no I do not think he is gay, no he will not go to marriage counseling. I have gone on my own but it is hard to fix a marriage from one side. We otherwise get along, and yes there is a child which makes leaving very hard - especially since we otherwise function very well as a family!
That said, should I be complacent with with a life of celibacy? We are friends, get along but it is platonic? Maybe, maybe there is nothing really wrong with that?
I have has affairs - both long term and short and was left feeling empty, more alone than before.
Truly I want to LOVE(!!!) - hard, unabashedly, passionately, devotedly, endlessly. And I want to be so loved in return.
But maybe that isn't what marriage is about? Maybe what I have is as close to good as it gets?
Sorry for my late night and tipsy ramble ... I have had a few glasses of Pinot Grigio and I am waxing philosophic.