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Public sex clubs seems unlikely. Most responsible adults wouldn’t allow any rando. I’d hope a real swingers/sex club would require STI testing and some background check to protect members from abuse.

Closest thing you seem to be curious about is dogging. Where adults meet up in isolated spots outdoors for random sex - unoccupied parks, side of abandoned roads, or car parks
As a fantasy, it sounds exciting to go dogging. In reality, wouldn’t touch it with a ten foot pole. There’s a lot of things I enjoy fantasy of that I wouldn’t do in reality.

In a dogging fantasy. It would be exciting to hear about a dogging spot from a work friend at the top level of an airport parking garage. Checking it out of curiosity. Walking up to see all the people surrounding three cars. Shocked when I recognize one of the cars. The car of a relative - mother, sister, or daughter (18+).
No one there knows who we are.
 
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Apparently, they are also easy to find on Fetlife. I've talked to a few locals and found out there are a few sex clubs nearby. You need to be a member or a guest of a member. There is also a list of dogging places nearby. Who knew!!
 
I’ve been to lots of parties, but no clubs per se here in states. And they’re a lot of fun. We’ve seen a couple of people we recognized there, played a little with them too.
 
If you read the forums on the largest swing lifestyle site on the Internet, you will see people talking about public places to meet. Usually it is in the bar area of a restaurant. Of course, you can't have sex there, but you can meet other interested couples. I haven't been in the forums in ages, but it's pretty common in most major cities, at least, I am aware of it in the southeast, Vegas, Portland, LA, NYC. When it comes to the quality of couples, Vegas, Savannah, and Miami outshined every place we've ever been. You'll have to join the site, create a profile, etc to gain access to the forums. Please do not send me a PM asking where. I won't say, and besides, it's been years, and these places tend to move around. If you have questions about "what it's like," you may send me a PM about that.

For a newbie couple, this is a much less intimidating introduction to the lifestyle than a full-blown swing club. For all anyone knows, you're just another couple enjoying a meal or drinks. Many of the patrons have now clue that they are surrounded by swing couples. So if you meet a friendly couple, don't assume they are swingers, but usually it isn't too difficult to figure it out.
 
littlecordelera said:
If you read the forums on the largest swing lifestyle site on the Internet, you will see people talking about public places to meet. Usually it is in the bar area of a restaurant. Of course, you can't have sex there, but you can meet other interested couples. I haven't been in the forums in ages, but it's pretty common in most major cities, at least, I am aware of it in the southeast, Vegas, Portland, LA, NYC. When it comes to the quality of couples, Vegas, Savannah, and Miami outshined every place we've ever been. You'll have to join the site, create a profile, etc to gain access to the forums. Please do not send me a PM asking where. I won't say, and besides, it's been years, and these places tend to move around. If you have questions about "what it's like," you may send me a PM about that.

For a newbie couple, this is a much less intimidating introduction to the lifestyle than a full-blown swing club. For all anyone knows, you're just another couple enjoying a meal or drinks. Many of the patrons have now clue that they are surrounded by swing couples. So if you meet a friendly couple, don't assume they are swingers, but usually it isn't too difficult to figure it out.
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I stand corrected. My husband says he doesn't recall any forums. He says people put the name of the place in their profile, something like, "Is anybody going to..." So scan the profiles in your area.
 
We used to visit 2 in the Jersey area. They were chill. Could be as modest or as crazy as you wanted to be. Usually you had to register. I think it was more of a safety thing and alcohol thing cause it was byob
 
I'm curious about the draw of sex clubs. Is it mainly to find others, or could it be the exhibitionist aspect? Maybe a little of each?
 
Hipshot1554 said:
I'm curious about the draw of sex clubs. Is it mainly to find others, or could it be the exhibitionist aspect? Maybe a little of each?
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It can be both. Or just curiosity.

I went to one in South America years ago with a partner. We were curious but not ready for the jump. So we mostly just watched. It was wild - a lot of activity.

I also went to one alone recently in Europe. As a single male I was more restricted but could watch. Definitely better to be there with a partner. Anyway I was hoping to be recruited as a third but that didn't happen. :)

My current partner and I may go to one soon. We did have a foursome w/people we met via an app. It was all right.
 
The dynamics of it intrigue me. It's the true meaning of sex with strangers. Seems shallow to me, but then, I'm from a different time.
 
The whole idea of finding and going to a "sex club" covers an extremely wide range of issues, fetishes, and locations. It all depends on which country, state, or city you are in, and what you are looking for or expecting. Different localities have laws which treat such sexual activities differently.

If you expect to just walk into a "sex club" and fuck someone, then you're looking for a brothel, whorehouse, or prostitutes (female or male), because you are expecting someone there to fuck you. Sorry to disappoint you, but unless you're paying for it, your desired sex partner has their own desires and turn-offs, and YOU might not be it. So, a free-for-all "sex club" could be an ego killer, because you know everyone there is looking for sex, and they're not taking YOU. So, be careful what you wish for.

Another aspect is whether you are looking for straight sex, Bi, gay/lesbian, interracial, BDSM, anal, voyeurism, etc types of sex, those activities can be contentious when mixed in a larger crowd. Some people (or you) might be turned off and find other people's desires offensive. You might go to some "sex club" and find your chosen (and even willing) partner likes to be watched (by her husband even), while you might find that intimidating. Or you might find the woman who is picking you up and suggesting you two go to a room together might not have the "equipment down there" which you expected. So, be aware of the variations and rules of the club you find, and MOST IMPORTANTLY, don't overreact (you might be just as much a disappointment to your partner)! Nobody likes drama when they're expecting to get excited (in a good way.)

As for finding clubs or groups and actually having sex with someone else, the issues of potential pregnancies, STD's, or local legalities is all on you and your partners. You might find some swinger parties with a wife willing to have unprotected sex with a new guy, or they might require condoms. A woman might find a guy and want unprotected sex with him and find his wife standing nearby saying "Not unless he wears a condom!" (she's protecting her naive husband and the cock she expects to enter her later).

That said, look online for terms like "swinger" or "lifestyle" or "fetish". There are websites which cater to more open sexual activities between consenting adults. Some of them have lists of groups and can even show you which groups are in your country, state, or city, and help define what those groups entails (ie. "Interracial house parties", or "Meet and Greets").

So, as I said, unless you're willing to pay for sex, it takes two (or more) with all of their personal fetishes and desires to mesh to have a really good time. But it can happen. Go forth, do some web searches for those terms, and start exploring!

Have fun!

EDIT: Also, depending upon your own age, family, friends, and neighbor's judgmental attitudes, and any need for secrecy/discretion, you might need to consider whether you WANT to find a very local club/group, or you might decide to travel some distance from your neighborhood. It might be awkward going to a local swinger house party with fifteen couples or a commercial club (they do exist in some areas) and find your 21-year-old daughter and her husband in one of the rooms with your daughter enjoying a gangbang.
 
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Hipshot1554 said:
I'm curious about the draw of sex clubs. Is it mainly to find others, or could it be the exhibitionist aspect? Maybe a little of each?
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It all depends on your age, sex, desires, your spouse's desires and fantasies, how long you've been in a monogamous relationship, whether you or your spouse are fertile (risk of pregnancy or impregnating another), how much you trust each other, how much you're willing to give to see your spouse enjoying himself/herself, your own tolerance for potential emotional issues, and how your spouse might react afterwards.

You might be a long-time married couple watching porn together, with the wife occasionally saying, "I wonder what it's like taking two guys at the same time?"

Does the wife really want to? Is it just an off-handed comment or a real secret desire? Could the husband handle allowing his wife to fulfill one of her "bucket list" fantasies? Or could the wife tolerate watching her husband fuck another woman or even just knowing he did in another room?

So, you go to some "club" or swinger house party, where your spouse gets to fulfill their fantasy ... while you watch? or go off on your own with someone else? Afterwards, does the husband call his wife a slut? Or does the wife regret fucking another guy? Maybe she enjoyed it so much she wants to do it again? Maybe the husband just gets angry inside and holds it in while smiling, then weeks/months/years later blurts it out during an argument.

Be careful what you wish for. Some people might not be able to handle it, even though they think they can.

But the draw is like wanting to go sky diving. Who the fuck would want to jump out of an airplane and risk it? You just might land on your feet basking in the thrill, or as an emotional wreck with a constant feeling of terror of falling. You'll never know until you try it.
 
My wife is a hostess for swingers parties. Mostly in Vegas. She was a hostess for swingraw.com before playboytv bought them.

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ashkitten said:
Nervous about asking this question, buuuut:

I have herpes (both types) and there's a sex club in my town. I'd like to try going, but obvs disclosure in that environment seems difficult. I'd read some advice columns that are like "look, if you're having group sex as an adult, esp in anonymous situations, you should just assume you're gonna get it sooner or later" and that seems reasonable. But maybe I'm just trying to make it okay to go? I always disclose in individual encounters and mostly use online dating to make this easier, but public, anonymous sex is appealing.

Sooo, is it okay if I go and don't disclose because that's just a risk we're all taking? Or are sex clubs a non-option?
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I don't think it would be ok not to disclose. I can't imagine anyone considering intentionally spreading any disease.
 
Before I moved to Australia, I frequented a huge club called Miami Velvet. It was technically a private club, but you could buy a membership at the door. Lots of fun and always crowded. I haven't been there since late 2014 so I'm not sure what it's like now, but back then it was the hottest club in South Florida.

I haven't tried any of the sex clubs in Sydney, but there are a few, including one that specifically caters to gay and bisexuals. I have tried most of the gay saunas (pre-covid) and enjoyed them all.
 
BiDrew42 said:
Before I moved to Australia, I frequented a huge club called Miami Velvet. It was technically a private club, but you could buy a membership at the door. Lots of fun and always crowded. I haven't been there since late 2014 so I'm not sure what it's like now, but back then it was the hottest club in South Florida.

I haven't tried any of the sex clubs in Sydney, but there are a few, including one that specifically caters to gay and bisexuals. I have tried most of the gay saunas (pre-covid) and enjoyed them all.
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Wife and I went there many times. We had membership there for several years. It was huge. I believe it's still there. We're out of the lifestyle now, but had many good times there, some of which I have described on this forum.
 
soflabbwlvr said:
Unless the club is a private membership club, sexual activity on the premises is illegal. You can be arrested for indecent exposure, public indecency, or other similar crimes. I'm not saying it doesn't happen at some establishments like theaters and strip clubs, but if you engage in sexual activity you are doing so at your own risk. And the risk of the proprietors.
Private membership clubs can make their own rules because they are not open to the public.
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That is not entirely true, you are referring to specific areas that would have such regulations (without naming the location).

But that doesn’t extrapolate to everywhere, as sex clubs that are simply a brick and mortar venue that are licensed and you can attend without ‘memberships’ do exists in perfect legality.
 
In NJ where I’m from we frequented 2 clubs. One in Philadelphia and one in Atlantic City. Both were great on certain nights. Both BYOB. As a single woman you would be very popular. Each had private rooms you could peak into or a big orgy room. They both had something for everyone
 
Leglover1234 said:
In NJ where I’m from we frequented 2 clubs. One in Philadelphia and one in Atlantic City. Both were great on certain nights. Both BYOB. As a single woman you would be very popular. Each had private rooms you could peak into or a big orgy room. They both had something for everyone
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They were open to the public but you had to become a member or you weren’t allowed inside the club itself Try sls com. They give you a list of clubs around the country
 
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