I would like to talk to married men about something really naughty.

[KatieDoes]

We are going to talk about getting you on the Nice list, but I knew that Naughty would get your attention. It worked.

Is there any sort of Christmas tradition in your home that involves stockings filled with gifts?
Does your wife fill stockings for everyone in the family?
Does she have to fill her own? Or is hers empty? Or does her daughter fill it?


Thats a thing that you should be doing. If she laughs off her empty stocking or the fact that she has to fill it herself, she doesn’t really think it’s funny.

** If you are the worlds best husband and annually fill your wife’s Christmas stocking with gifts, real estate deeds, and overflowing with diamonds, then this thread is not about you and it’s perfectly ok to not post and make it about you **

To the rest of you, some tips. If you havent been doing it because you don’t know what to get, I’m here to help. (Perhaps other lit ladies will also chime in with ideas)

1. go look at where she gets ready for the day. Does she wear makeup/nail polish, etc? Look for the items that are less than half full to nearly empty. Take a picture of the item, and a pic of the label that shows the color name and number. Show the pics to someone working at Ulta or Sephora, and ask them to help you find it.

2. when she runs errands all day alone, where does she stop for lunch/coffee? When she doesn’t have to consider anyone’s else’s wants. Get her a gift card for that place.

3. if you have access to her Amazon account, go look at her cart, then scroll down to ‘saved for later’. She wants all of that stuff, she’s just waiting till she has some extra money for it. Get all the stuff that’s small enough to fit in a stocking

4 jewelry? maybe. the stocking doesn’t have to be super expensive to fill, but if you have the means, put the jewelry in the very bottom. You know those commercials from the big chain jewelers with the heart shaped necklace that the woman in the commercial swoons over? Unless your wife has pointed unprompted directly at the tv during that commercial and said that she would specifically love that…. She doesn’t want that. Look at the jewelry that she has chosen for herself and get something similar in style. Does she like delicate neutrals? Bold chunky colors? Get her something to her taste, not from a commercial.

5. go to Bath and Body Works (not Walmart or Walgreens or 7-11) and get 2-3 mini hand creams and mini hand sanitizer in matching scents.

6. this time you can go to Walgreens or Walmart or 7-11… get a couple tubes of Burt’s Bees lip balm

7. her favorite candy or snack

Wrap stuff if stocking gifts are typically wrapped. It doesn’t have to be perfect or pretty.


There ya go. Don’t drop the ball. If youve never filled her stocking before and she asks why you decided to this time, don’t tell her that you got the idea from a woman on a porn site.

You’ve got 3 weeks. You can do this.

 

[cdstefi]

My wife's got me well trained for this! To the point I think she finds stocking fillers more important than big presents

 

[One_ping_only]

We are going to talk about getting you on the Nice list, but I knew that Naughty would get your attention. It worked.

Is there any sort of Christmas tradition in your home that involves stockings filled with gifts?
Does your wife fill stockings for everyone in the family?
Does she have to fill her own? Or is hers empty? Or does her daughter fill it?


Thats a thing that you should be doing. If she laughs off her empty stocking or the fact that she has to fill it herself, she doesn’t really think it’s funny.

** If you are the worlds best husband and annually fill your wife’s Christmas stocking with gifts, real estate deeds, and overflowing with diamonds, then this thread is not about you and it’s perfectly ok to not post and make it about you **

To the rest of you, some tips. If you havent been doing it because you don’t know what to get, I’m here to help. (Perhaps other lit ladies will also chime in with ideas)

1. go look at where she gets ready for the day. Does she wear makeup/nail polish, etc? Look for the items that are less than half full to nearly empty. Take a picture of the item, and a pic of the label that shows the color name and number. Show the pics to someone working at Ulta or Sephora, and ask them to help you find it.

2. when she runs errands all day alone, where does she stop for lunch/coffee? When she doesn’t have to consider anyone’s else’s wants. Get her a gift card for that place.

3. if you have access to her Amazon account, go look at her cart, then scroll down to ‘saved for later’. She wants all of that stuff, she’s just waiting till she has some extra money for it. Get all the stuff that’s small enough to fit in a stocking

4 jewelry? maybe. the stocking doesn’t have to be super expensive to fill, but if you have the means, put the jewelry in the very bottom. You know those commercials from the big chain jewelers with the heart shaped necklace that the woman in the commercial swoons over? Unless your wife has pointed directly at the tv during that commercial and said that she would love that…. She doesn’t want that. Look at the jewelry that she has chosen for herself and get something similar in style. Does she like delicate neutrals? Bold chunky colors? Get her something to her taste, not from a commercial.

5. go to Bath and Body Works (not Walmart or Walgreens or 7-11) and get 2 mini hand creams and mini hand sanitizer in matching scents.

6. this time you can go to Walgreens or Walmart or 7-11… get a couple tubes of Burt’s Bees lip balm

7. her favorite candy or snack

Wrap stuff if stocking gifts are typically wrapped. It doesn’t have to be perfect or pretty.


There ya go. Don’t drop the ball. If youve never filled her stocking before and she asks why you decided to this time, don’t tell her that you got the idea from a woman on a porn site.

You’ve got 3 weeks. You can do this.

Not all heroes wear capes ......... thaaaank you!!

 

[Casey1982]

Great post, agreed.

 

[kathyisgr65]

I love this thread..it might quite possibly be my new favorite thanks for sharing

 

[vibes]

Is there any sort of Christmas tradition in your home that involves stockings filled with gifts?

In my country that tradition goes for the Epiphany: January 6th

Thanks for the helpful tips

 

[Lily13]

I’ve often thought this. You just need to look at what she does and wears. The little things. Be observant Great idea Katie!

 

[Mr_bogey]

Socks and underwear fit in there nicely as well.*


*I finally did something right! But this is a great public service reminder.

P.S. Don't be this guy:

 

[KatieDoes]

Socks and underwear fit in there nicely as well.*


*I finally did something right! But this is a great public service reminder.

P.S. Don't be this guy:

Yes! I totally meant to include soft fuzzy socks in that list.

 

[KatieDoes]

My wife's got me well trained for this! To the point I think she finds stocking fillers more important than big presents

I would 100% rather just exchange filled stockings than big expensive gifts. Spend the big $$ on something for the house or a trip and do a thoughtful inexpensive stocking

 

[eric_erosfan]

Same thing every year.

 

[KatieDoes]

Same thing every year. View attachment 2293278

It’s nice that she enjoys small gifts like that.

 

[eric_erosfan]

It’s nice that she enjoys small gifts like that.

Hahaha ouch.

 

[TalkToMeInSB]

My go to for years are gift certificates to her favorite nail salon. This way she doesn't worry about money when she wants her nails done. Win-win for both of us as I very much enjoy seeing a nice mani/pedi... If I'm lucky, she'll let me worship her hands and feet! And I'm usually lucky...

 

[MedicalMuse]

It’s nice that she enjoys small gifts like that.

This. Gold star! ️

 

[KatieDoes]

Not all heroes wear capes ......... thaaaank you!!

I’m wearing a cape! It’s purple and covered in rhinestones

 

[TheMarksman]

We are going to talk about getting you on the Nice list, but I knew that Naughty would get your attention. It worked.

Is there any sort of Christmas tradition in your home that involves stockings filled with gifts?
Does your wife fill stockings for everyone in the family?
Does she have to fill her own? Or is hers empty? Or does her daughter fill it?


Thats a thing that you should be doing. If she laughs off her empty stocking or the fact that she has to fill it herself, she doesn’t really think it’s funny.

** If you are the worlds best husband and annually fill your wife’s Christmas stocking with gifts, real estate deeds, and overflowing with diamonds, then this thread is not about you and it’s perfectly ok to not post and make it about you **

To the rest of you, some tips. If you havent been doing it because you don’t know what to get, I’m here to help. (Perhaps other lit ladies will also chime in with ideas)

1. go look at where she gets ready for the day. Does she wear makeup/nail polish, etc? Look for the items that are less than half full to nearly empty. Take a picture of the item, and a pic of the label that shows the color name and number. Show the pics to someone working at Ulta or Sephora, and ask them to help you find it.

2. when she runs errands all day alone, where does she stop for lunch/coffee? When she doesn’t have to consider anyone’s else’s wants. Get her a gift card for that place.

3. if you have access to her Amazon account, go look at her cart, then scroll down to ‘saved for later’. She wants all of that stuff, she’s just waiting till she has some extra money for it. Get all the stuff that’s small enough to fit in a stocking

4 jewelry? maybe. the stocking doesn’t have to be super expensive to fill, but if you have the means, put the jewelry in the very bottom. You know those commercials from the big chain jewelers with the heart shaped necklace that the woman in the commercial swoons over? Unless your wife has pointed unprompted directly at the tv during that commercial and said that she would specifically love that…. She doesn’t want that. Look at the jewelry that she has chosen for herself and get something similar in style. Does she like delicate neutrals? Bold chunky colors? Get her something to her taste, not from a commercial.

5. go to Bath and Body Works (not Walmart or Walgreens or 7-11) and get 2-3 mini hand creams and mini hand sanitizer in matching scents.

6. this time you can go to Walgreens or Walmart or 7-11… get a couple tubes of Burt’s Bees lip balm

7. her favorite candy or snack

Wrap stuff if stocking gifts are typically wrapped. It doesn’t have to be perfect or pretty.


There ya go. Don’t drop the ball. If youve never filled her stocking before and she asks why you decided to this time, don’t tell her that you got the idea from a woman on a porn site.

You’ve got 3 weeks. You can do this.

Guys (and possibly gals),

If you only read one post this December, make it this one!

M

 

[Cat]

I would 100% rather just exchange filled stockings than big expensive gifts. Spend the big $$ on something for the house or a trip and do a thoughtful inexpensive stocking

Definitely!!

For filled stockings - small inexpensive surprises, that let's me know that I am seen, appreciated and understood.
And that my small quirks, habits and routines are valued and respected for what they are (it is so easy to forget this in the daily life)

- Do I need some more drawing pencils?
- Have I run out of my favourite shampoo?
- That chocolate I really love.. but never buy, because I think it is too expensive (more likely: I eat it too fast?) Maybe small individually wrapped gifts?
- Is it getting colder, maybe some new running gloves?
The big things.. well, it is not that I dislike receiving bigger presents.
It is that I need a reason!! Otherwise I do feel more than a bit uncomfortable.

But with the right reason, I would love the right present.

 

[KatieDoes]

Definitely!!

For filled stockings - small inexpensive surprises, that let's me know that I am seen, appreciated and understood.
And that my small quirks, habits and routines are valued and respected for what they are (it is so easy to forget this in the daily life)

- Do I need some more drawing pencils?
- Have I run out of my favourite shampoo?
- That chocolate I really love.. but never buy, because I think it is too expensive (more likely: I eat it too fast?) Maybe small individually wrapped gifts?
- Is it getting colder, maybe some new running gloves?
The big things.. well, it is not that I dislike receiving bigger presents.
It is that I need a reason!! Otherwise I do feel more than a bit uncomfortable.

But with the right reason, I would love the right present.

That’s really it, isn’t it? Just pay a bit of attention and put in some effort.

 

[Bbl87]

*Insert crass joke about filling her stocking here*

That out of the way, I appreciate you posting this. It's something that I think alot of guys forget about just because (at least in my experience) their wives tend to be the ones that are in charge of most Christmas shopping and prep. But its something seemingly small that can mean alot.

This year, by agreement on her suggestion, our "gift" to each other was a new set of kitchen knives, and after years of cheaping out on them we footed for a decent quality set. She also made a career change for the sake of her mental health and is making less than half as much as she was, so we need to tighten the purse strings a bit. I did get her to agree to still exchange some cheaper ($20ish) gifts so we still have something to give each other.

(Before anyone thinks the kitchen knife thing is akin to buying her a vacuum, with her new schedule I'm doing more of the cooking, if you want to call it that, haha, so it really is a gift we both use.)

But you posting this reminded me, I'll have about an hour while I'm getting my tires replaced to walk around and do some shopping, good opportunity to pick up some stocking stuffers without her around.

 

[KatieDoes]

*Insert crass joke about filling her stocking here*

That out of the way, I appreciate you posting this. It's something that I think alot of guys forget about just because (at least in my experience) their wives tend to be the ones that are in charge of most Christmas shopping and prep. But its something seemingly small that can mean alot.

This year, by agreement on her suggestion, our "gift" to each other was a new set of kitchen knives, and after years of cheaping out on them we footed for a decent quality set. She also made a career change for the sake of her mental health and is making less than half as much as she was, so we need to tighten the purse strings a bit. I did get her to agree to still exchange some cheaper ($20ish) gifts so we still have something to give each other.

(Before anyone thinks the kitchen knife thing is akin to buying her a vacuum, with her new schedule I'm doing more of the cooking, if you want to call it that, haha, so it really is a gift we both use.)

But you posting this reminded me, I'll have about an hour while I'm getting my tires replaced to walk around and do some shopping, good opportunity to pick up some stocking stuffers without her around.

That’s a legit great gift. I enjoy cooking as a hobby (though I hate having to decide what everyone is going to eat for every meal for forever or until I die) so splurging on high quality knives would be a fun indulgence. As long as she ASKS FOR THEM then kitchen or even cleaning stuff makes a good gift.


Let’s add a recommendation to the thread that cooking, cleaning, and exercise equipment should only be given as gifts if the recipient has specifically requested that gift. If you aren’t certain, don’t do it.

 

[StillRain]

Oh and no matter what the latest catalogue says, do not buy her a cleaning appliance of any kind.

 

[StillRain]

Oh and if her kids are too little or just shit at gifting or writing cards, make them do it so she at least gets a card from them after ruining her vagina for them and sacrificing daily.

 

[hopeful_wife]

I love that this thread exists!

My wife's got me well trained for this! To the point I think she finds stocking fillers more important than big presents

It's because these little things have the potential to show an awful lot of care and consideration.

Socks and underwear fit in there nicely as well.*

Make sure they're the kind she likes and not just the kind you like.

Same thing every year.

Do you have the talents of either Sandberg or Timberlake? If so, this is acceptable. And if it's Sandberg you emulate, then I'd even say it's appreciated. (I have a thing for a goofy kind of charming.)

small inexpensive surprises, that let's me know that I am seen, appreciated and understood.

Absolutely. The husband in my house is bad at this part. He doesn't pay enough attention to what I actually like and does too much trying to compensate. Can't remember which vegan chocolate I like, so he buys me twelve different bars.

*Insert crass joke about filling her stocking here*

if her kids are too little or just shit at gifting or writing cards, make them do it

A meaningful note will always be my favorite gift.

 

[Bbl87]

That’s a legit great gift. I enjoy cooking as a hobby (though I hate having to decide what everyone is going to eat for every meal for forever or until I die) so splurging on high quality knives would be a fun indulgence. As long as she ASKS FOR THEM then kitchen or even cleaning stuff makes a good gift.


Let’s add a recommendation to the thread that cooking, cleaning, and exercise equipment should only be given as gifts if the recipient has specifically requested that gift. If you aren’t certain, don’t do it.

Thanks. The knives were something I'd brought up that we needed seperate from Christmas stuff. Old set was starting to get rust spots, getting pretty dull, etc.. She agreed we needed new ones, and that's when she suggested it be our Christmas present.

We're both very happy with them, so it's been a good gift so far . Didn't go super crazy, bought a Cold Steel Kitchen Classics set which while it isn't professional quality or anything is way above the quality of anything we've gotten in the past. I like their hunting/pocket knives, so hopefully the quality of their kitchen set is similarly up to snuff!