DarkWhispers2U
Really Experienced
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- Jan 30, 2019
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My fellow human beings, this is a complaint, but not over the site or anyone posting here. I just have to get this off my chest. It's a personal problem. You see, my uncle has been in dialysis for kidney failure for 2+ years now, and I am his driver. Three times a week (more if he has other doctor appointments too) I put 40+ miles a day on my vehicle. I help him because I care for him and there is no one else who can do it. He pays me $6 a day to cover fuel, if that matters.
He is my late mother's youngest sibling. Their family (and mine) were raised to be early or on time for all appointments. It's a mindset I'm used to, but today my uncle went too far. I am supposed to be there at 2:40 to pick him up. Most days, I get there by 2:30 and sit and wait until he comes out (sometimes waiting as long as 3:30 if complications arise.) Well, today I got there at 2:35, and surprisingly, he was done earlier than that.
He did not like having to wait. He accused me of being late, even though I was five minutes earlier than our agreed pick up time. Despite his nasty tone, I tried to play it off, reminding him that 2:40 was the agreed time, even if I usually arrive ten minutes before that. He did not appreciate me pointing that out.
"You don't sound sorry at all that I had to sit out here in the cold wind with dust blowing in my eyes," he whined. (He had eye surgery a few weeks ago.)
I shut up, didn't bother to respond because he'd had time to get angry and choose his words while I didn't. After seeing him safely home, I verified that I'd be back Thursday to drive him again. Then I just left, no goodbye or anything.
My husband thinks I should have gotten nasty, told him he was being unreasonable, blah, blah, blah... but the uncle's not one to back down or really listen when he's on a tirade. Sometimes, rarely, he will realize his own shortcomings or mistakes if given time away from the situation. I don't know. Just didn't feel like a winnable situation.
Anyway, would appreciate any kind advice or sharing of similar situations and what was done to help resolve them. Thank you.
He is my late mother's youngest sibling. Their family (and mine) were raised to be early or on time for all appointments. It's a mindset I'm used to, but today my uncle went too far. I am supposed to be there at 2:40 to pick him up. Most days, I get there by 2:30 and sit and wait until he comes out (sometimes waiting as long as 3:30 if complications arise.) Well, today I got there at 2:35, and surprisingly, he was done earlier than that.
He did not like having to wait. He accused me of being late, even though I was five minutes earlier than our agreed pick up time. Despite his nasty tone, I tried to play it off, reminding him that 2:40 was the agreed time, even if I usually arrive ten minutes before that. He did not appreciate me pointing that out.
"You don't sound sorry at all that I had to sit out here in the cold wind with dust blowing in my eyes," he whined. (He had eye surgery a few weeks ago.)
I shut up, didn't bother to respond because he'd had time to get angry and choose his words while I didn't. After seeing him safely home, I verified that I'd be back Thursday to drive him again. Then I just left, no goodbye or anything.
My husband thinks I should have gotten nasty, told him he was being unreasonable, blah, blah, blah... but the uncle's not one to back down or really listen when he's on a tirade. Sometimes, rarely, he will realize his own shortcomings or mistakes if given time away from the situation. I don't know. Just didn't feel like a winnable situation.
Anyway, would appreciate any kind advice or sharing of similar situations and what was done to help resolve them. Thank you.