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[Glorygirl78]

If it scares you it isn’t good sex. There are lots of great emotions during hot sex but fear is a red flag. You go in knowing or leave

 

[Invisibleman1970]

That's why my husband was a couple of decades older than me because my besties dated teens and they had bad experiences, so i avoided teen boys until now (my date's 19). Maybe if i dated somebody my age (23) it would be better. Just dumb lick that my date was 19 though, he just was talking a lot to me at tennis so hard to refuse....

I love fishing because the first time you meet a guy its exciting

True i did not feel respected when he grabbed inside, whereas in the 2nd date he stroked outside my top and i loved it

Wow that would be strange if his orgasm was caused by my scream, but its true i did scream before all the shaking happened i think

Maybe a little consent because my bum was on his lap without my skirt covering it so i knew sitting like that might cause sex.

Yup he did not seem worried when i screamed he said i was cute. But i hardly ever scream so it was a serious scream. I don't enjoy it so will just stick to caressing hands

Ok i will

Maybe i consented accidentally because my bum/undies were on his lap, but i was wearing a skirt but my skirt did not cover my undies so i guess it was not consent! At least i wore undies and hubby said to always wear undies if in a room with men

Okay dokay.

I won't do a 4th date then. We still ate dinner just after the drama because it happened while dinner was cooking but my eyes were teary so hard to enjoy.

It doesn't matter if you were naked on his lap, he doesn't get to say you have consent because of the lack of clothing. The only consent comes from you and your scream was NOT CONSENT it was telling him to stop. He laughed at your scream proving he doesn't respect you as a woman nor sexually. I'd say do a suggested above, block him, don't feel sorry for him and don't let him fool you with the I won't do it again. He may be 19, and immature still, but do not give him another chance, this is one way violent people enter our lives and they are hard to get rid of safely.

 

[darkelf9]

I'm an old dude these days so seen a lot. My advice to you is that if the sex doesn't come with respect then it's not something you can grow into. If you are not getting off on it and especially if it generates fear then it's the wrong type of sex for you. Try going for a less aggressive guy. You'd be surprised on the more reserved guys giving you the pleasure you want. Try the guy who isn't in your face all the time. Women choose men as lovers. Men just think it was their idea. You always have the power.

The guy sounds like he wants it his way which is not acceptable. Probably watches lots of porn where men dominate women so has lots to learn when it comes to women. His age is not an excuse. He will never grow out of his behaviour. I've seen lots of women who think that. It doesn't happen. Only have sex on your terms. In short find a guy who respects you. They are out there you just need to look.

 

[BigBallsCanuck]

That's why my husband was a couple of decades older than me because my besties dated teens and they had bad experiences, so i avoided teen boys until now (my date's 19). Maybe if i dated somebody my age (23) it would be better. Just dumb lick that my date was 19 though, he just was talking a lot to me at tennis so hard to refuse....

I love fishing because the first time you meet a guy its exciting

True i did not feel respected when he grabbed inside, whereas in the 2nd date he stroked outside my top and i loved it

Wow that would be strange if his orgasm was caused by my scream, but its true i did scream before all the shaking happened i think

Maybe a little consent because my bum was on his lap without my skirt covering it so i knew sitting like that might cause sex.

Yup he did not seem worried when i screamed he said i was cute. But i hardly ever scream so it was a serious scream. I don't enjoy it so will just stick to caressing hands

Ok i will

Maybe i consented accidentally because my bum/undies were on his lap, but i was wearing a skirt but my skirt did not cover my undies so i guess it was not consent! At least i wore undies and hubby said to always wear undies if in a room with men

Okay dokay.

I won't do a 4th date then. We still ate dinner just after the drama because it happened while dinner was cooking but my eyes were teary so hard to enjoy.

You didn't consent, there was no asking and no agreement beforehand. Find someone who does respect you, then rough sex can be great, IF it's with consent, agreement, communication, and lots of loving aftercare too!!

Older men MAY be better bet, but we aren't all lol.

 

[BigBallsCanuck]

I'm attracted to older and married men i end up talking a lot to married men but i'm shy with unmmaried men.

May I PM you and talk with you some more? I'm waaaaaay older and married.

 

[The_spirit_of_oz]

Our first 2 dates were good because i telled him i wanted it slow so not to touch inside my clothes but on the 3rd date we were kissing on the couch and i got onto his lap (and we were both clothed) and he put his hand inside my top and he squeezed really hard on my boob and i had no idea why he was so rough and i started screaming and i realised my bottom was shaking because he was having orgasm while he was squeezing! My boob hurt so much and i didn't wanna kiss after that, so will i always feel this way or can i like it?

Glad to hear you found someone more suited, the first guy sounded awful, not sure if he was rough, sounds like he just cum in his pants from being over excited. Hope your next date is more fun, go at your own pace