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Could someone explain to me the differences between a dom and a daddy? hope thats not a stupid question.
Could someone explain to me the differences between a dom and a daddy? hope thats not a stupid question.
Well first of all, dominate is a verb, dominant is the descriptor. Please don't write an entire story's worth of that mistake!I have a question about BDSM. I'm working on a story with a submissive couple that gives themselves to a dominate man.
Is it a "norm" for submissive men to be used? I was talking to a man who is from Korea and he enjoyed taking submissive anally and didn't mater if they were female or male. He also didn't consider himself bi.
Is this normal? in my story, this is what happens, with the submissive couple they both are pets and surrender their bodies to the dominates
Thanks!
Well, I don't know if anyone else has been there, but I am in a position to tell just about nobody in my life about the fact that I am in a relationship that includes BDSM in its dynamic. I can only think of one or two people I'd even think about telling (and one is SUPER prudish), so I was wondering, who have you told? What was their reaction? How did you decide if they'd be okay with you telling them?
It feels somewhat like I'm hiding my true self from the world, and I would like to tell one person in my life other than my Dom that I am how I am. I just don't know how people would react to this side of me, especially since one person I'm thinking of telling is a Sociology/Psychology major.
Congrats on having a hubby that will slap you even though he doesn't feel right doing it! There have been many discussions in this forum about spanking, why it feels good and how to explain that to your partner-- look through the "library' thread for links to some of them. AI don't know where to begin my question cuz I'm not sure if I fit into this category, still curious but here goes.
Within the last year I have been admitting to my husband that I want to be spanked, tits, ass, pussy you name it. He is very loving and doesn't believe in hitting a woman so he has a hard time with this, no pun intended, but he has done some spanking to make me happy.
I also like it when he's on the computer and i suck his cock , like under the desk sort of thing while he totally ignores me watching porn. I feel used but so happy i can't tell you. This can last over an hour as i bring him to the brink and he stops me several times, when he caresses my cheek i feel he is saying "good girl". I want to be ordered to suck his cock and made to feel like a slut (at home not in public) i want these things to be private.
I think i am totally weird to like being used and ignored. My husband would never actually consent to any sort of bondage for me although i think about it, so as far as he is concerned this is as far as he will go.
Am i into this stuff? Where do i fit in? or am i just kinky?
I have a question about BDSM. I'm working on a story with a submissive couple that gives themselves to a dominate man.
Is it a "norm" for submissive men to be used? I was talking to a man who is from Korea and he enjoyed taking submissive anally and didn't mater if they were female or male. He also didn't consider himself bi.
Is this normal? in my story, this is what happens, with the submissive couple they both are pets and surrender their bodies to the dominates
Thanks!
Yeah, I was a bit hostile about safewords. My bad. I was projecting on you an attitude we've seen all too many times here. However, even though you've "yet to need one," I think it would be a good idea to have one set up *before* it's needed so it will be there at that time. Better to have it and not need it, etc., etc., blah blah...
As a sadist rather than masochist or other pyl-type, I can't offer any experience in using safewords in a pain (or other) context, but I can tell you that I've been royally pissed on a couple of occasions when someone who should have used a safeword at a play party refused to do so, feeling they would be letting their PYL down. Fortunately, those people weren't my partners (or even play partners), because that's pretty much a deal-breaker for me. If you need to use a safeword, use it. If you need it and don't use it, you're breaking trust with me.
Since you quoted one of my posts as the precursor to this query, I'll presume that you're asking *me* specifically.Hello.
I was wondering when you realized that you were interested in BDSM? And when did you know what did you wanted? And how your life changed when you knew what you wanted next?
I am sorry if my question is to personal and if it is you don't have to answer.
Been there, done that-- twiceI dont know enough about whips to argue that point, apart from having broken a flogger by using it "improperly," due to structural differences between it and another flogger I had used previously.
Thanks a lot Stella Omega......There's no 'name' for any special ball whip. Whips are all-purpose, like screwdrivers-- little ones, big ones, soft rabbit fur ones, harsh heavy chain. Figure out what you want the whip to do for you, then look for something that fits that description.
you might try "Genital flogger" or something like that.
I call my toy bag "my toybag." Everyone I know calls their stuff "toys" to the point where we snicker by reflex when we see ads for toy stores.Any subs and dom/mes want to share what their favorite tools and toys are? What'sin your arsenal?
I'm writing stories with a Dominatrix, slaver type Domme (one who is not really by the book, which is my loophole for the pitfalls) and I'm kinda way out of my element.
These questions are pretty subjective, but that's perfect.
What would a Domme call her collection of tools/toys?
What kinds of clothes are your favorite to wear as a Domme, why?
How do your clothes and gear express you as a Domme?
What do different specific items of clothing, tools, and toys symbolize to a sub and to a Domme?
Thanks for all the education and help in advance!
Why would you choose to write about something that's "way out of [your] element?" While "Write what you know" is actually more about writing about emotional knowledge rather than experiential knowledge, to me, "way out of my element" means something at which I have neither experience nor an emotional connection..... I'm ... way out of my element.