Applying pain to a cock

I have a new lover (thank the gods!) and he's into pain. His experience is limited in receiving, though he knows he likes it, and my experience is limited in giving, though I know I'll love it! What kind of pain can I apply using household stuff? I'm thinking clothespins. Help?

Boy, don't all answer at once! lol It was suggested to me that I go very easy the first time and I agree this is a fabulous idea. I was thinking of some painful things that aren't too extreme, something like duct tape down his sides or on the inside of his thighs, then ripped off at some point. Good idea? Dumb? I have a dressage whip which would make a perfect cane. I think they're made of the same materials. Could I apply this to parts of his body along the way? Which parts?

He wants clothespins on his nipples. I'm giddy!!!

A ridiing crop offers good visual stimulation and at the same time is quite painful when applied too th eerect member...Ben Gay rub...will get his attention as will needles..I always found needles really make men enthusiastic about performing all kind of acts..

I'd start with just (insert evil grin ) slapping, flicking your fingers, pinching the cock, tugging on it and pulling, massaging balls mixed with stronger squeeze and tug every so often, mixed with a lot of stroking, kissing and sucking- a mixture of pleasure layered with pain. Make sure to observe his reactions and start with minimum, building up over a period of time. Also if you're going to rub and stroke roughly make sure to lubricate well, after all you'd want his cock to be usable later
You can use pegs, use your nails and scratch the skin, use sharper objects like pin wheel or plastic fork and rake the skin- again layer it up, pleasure and pain- you can't go wrong this way!

MrsBrownEyes said:

I'd start with just (insert evil grin ) slapping, flicking your fingers, pinching the cock, tugging on it and pulling, massaging balls mixed with stronger squeeze and tug every so often, mixed with a lot of stroking, kissing and sucking- a mixture of pleasure layered with pain. Make sure to observe his reactions and start with minimum, building up over a period of time. Also if you're going to rub and stroke roughly make sure to lubricate well, after all you'd want his cock to be usable later
You can use pegs, use your nails and scratch the skin, use sharper objects like pin wheel or plastic fork and rake the skin- again layer it up, pleasure and pain- you can't go wrong this way!

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Pegs. Pegs?? I love all of this. I'm going to start with the hand manipulation thingies this week. Practice makes perfect, yanno.

Luvinit said:

Pegs. Pegs?? I love all of this. I'm going to start with the hand manipulation thingies this week. Practice makes perfect, yanno.

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Have fun

I plan on having loads of fun! What are these pegs you speak of? And when pinching the cock, where do I want to do this? My biggest fear is of harming him in the most sensitive parts. Don't wanna do that! So, if I'm pinching, do I avoid the skin of the testicles and stick with the head of the cock? The sides? What?

Clothespegs. Possibly known as clothespins, I know they're known by different names in different places but not who calls them what. Can be found in wooden or plastic varieties. I believe the plastic ones are generally less painful than the wooden ones.

MisterSir said:

Clothespegs. Possibly known as clothespins, I know they're known by different names in different places but not who calls them what. Can be found in wooden or plastic varieties. I believe the plastic ones are generally less painful than the wooden ones.

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I only have wooden. Go me!

Luvinit said:

I plan on having loads of fun! What are these pegs you speak of? And when pinching the cock, where do I want to do this? My biggest fear is of harming him in the most sensitive parts. Don't wanna do that! So, if I'm pinching, do I avoid the skin of the testicles and stick with the head of the cock? The sides? What?

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Pinch all over! Start gently and see how it goes.

Luvinit said:

I only have wooden. Go me!

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I, personally, prefer wood- its much better, doesn't stick to skin like plastic.

MisterSir said:

Clothespegs. Possibly known as clothespins, I know they're known by different names in different places but not who calls them what. Can be found in wooden or plastic varieties. I believe the plastic ones are generally less painful than the wooden ones.

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Aye!
I think it's the personal thing, platic or wood, I prefer working with wooden ones.



Tho if you're going to use it on different people, plastic is easier to sterilize.

You can put pegs on sack of his balls, pull the skin of his cock and peg it, inner side of his thighs, belly line, perineum, etc. you could pull them off insted of taking them off traditional way, or tie one end of a string to the peg and other to his toes- when he'd wiggle he'd hurt himself!
Try out on other areas of his bofy too - nipples, those must not be forgotten! Tognue, lips, cheeks, throat... Peg him well, spread the joy! I mean pain

EEEeeeeeeee! I'm loving all of this. I feel like such a virgin.

Luvinit said:

EEEeeeeeeee! I'm loving all of this. I feel like such a virgin.

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hey, learning and exploring new things is SO much fun

MrsBrownEyes said:

Aye!
I think it's the personal thing, platic or wood, I prefer working with wooden ones.

Tho if you're going to use it on different people, plastic is easier to sterilize.

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Oh, I gave the right information? Excellent!

In my experience, plastic clothespins are far more painful than wooden ones. They have harsher edges, and stick to the skin.

00Syd said:

In my experience, plastic clothespins are far more painful than wooden ones. They have harsher edges, and stick to the skin.

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Mine, too.

As for cock pain, trampling is a good option. Doesn't have to be like those crappy Femdom porn vids where a fat bitch in 6 inch stilettos parades around on top of guy's cock and balls like she's trying to stomp out roaches. Some pressure applied with a bare foot can be enough. Though don't let me discourage you from roach-stomping if that's what you desire.

Try chopsticks and rubber bands. Get the rubber bands nice and tight either side of the cock and then gently twist the chopsticks until he starts to squeal.

Oh, I should of added hot wax of course. The fun you can have with a simple candle. Start high up at first until you get the range of what he can take.

I've had a great deal of fun with a Whartonberg wheel. Oh my yes.

But if you want to start a little less intense, here's an easily modified way to get a clothespin-like effect while being able to sculpt it nicely to what your partner can handle. Call it Notes from the Frugal/ Practical Domme.

I have long hair, and so I have lots of hair toys around and have discovered that a few of them make EXCELLENT equipment for CBT.

Go to any store that has a hair-care section and check out the selection of little alligator-style hair clips. They look like this: link and they come in every possible size and strength, from large enough to clamp around the entire cock to the little tiny and EXTREMELY MEAN ones that are only about 3/4" long. Buy an assortment of sizes and styles. Be sure to make note of whether they have little spikes along the inside; you can nip those off with pliers if you want to be nice. Try them on yourself first so you get an idea of how harsh they are. In general, the smaller they are, the tighter and more intense they will be.

I'd stay away from metal and just stick to the plastic type. As a bonus, they make pretty effective nipple clamps, and you can wear them in public and only your sub will know why you're carrying them. These days every time I get a few out to pin my hair back I get a nice little response from the Toy... heh.

One other thing I've liked that you might have fun with: make HIM slap his own cock. Then say, 'now slap it twice, and harder. Now harder.' And so on. It's pain AND a bit of a mind fuck. Two great tastes...

Have fun. I'm glad you're so excited. Do start slowly; it's better to be begged for more than to have to be anguished that you accidentally went too far.

Speaking of being frugal with your pain fun, binder clips (such as these) are an inexpensive pain toy. A with any type of clip, remember that the wider the clip, the more the pain is spread out across the skin. Narrower clamps are more painful, in other words.

Oh, and the single most painful thing I've ever heard of by way of pain to a cock was a full on caning of a guy's erect member. That. Surely. Hurt. Like. Hell.

You guys are the best! I love the hair clip idea. I have a bunch of these!! *rubs hands together with evil glee*

I find th epain issue is for me associated with a form of humiliation...the supposed stronger male is required to present the member to the weak lady for her to punish in different ways...He may beg for mercy an doffer all sorts of antics ..if she wuill please stop..That he must place it on the table for her to torment...is part of the role play

Here's an update for you. I had exactly ONE clothespin with me. Don't ask....

Anyway, I stuck it on the side of his cock and he was like "ho-hum." I put it on his perineum and he jumped a little, but it was a non-event. I pulled on his cock and he took my hand and had me pull with a good 20 pounds of pressure. Again, non-event.

I flicked the tip of his cock with my fingers as hard as I could and he liked it, but it was like an appetizer. I put the clothespin on a nipple, then flicked the part of the nipple that was sticking out. Bingo! He kept telling me that was more sensitive and we finally reached a point where he couldn't take much more.

So, I'm thinking pins? His hard limits do NOT include blood play or shock. Isn't there some kind of wand that will shock a person? I think I want one.

So, now I need other ideas that are more painful. Help?

P.S. This is so fucking awesome!!!!!