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Do you fight back tears of pain?

Do you fight back tears of pain?

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melan

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I'm a fighter. I hate to look weak in front of anybody and I do my best to hold tears back when the pain is excruciating or, at least, I try to hide them.
But I not always manage: especially sharp and sudden strokes with a cane on the top of my thighs are very difficult to bear and sometimes, in spite of my efforts, I burst into tears.
What about you? Are you a fighter as well? What kind of pain might bring tears on your eyes?

Thanks for your answers,

Melan
 
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This is an all too rare problem for me in scene play but in everything I fight tears. I really truly hate them. I rarely want to admit how hurt I am in any way at all.

In the context of scene play, it's wrong and possibly dangerous to try to hide emotions or pain I believe but I'm human and I make mistakes, try to be tough and so on.

Fury :rose:
 
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It's a 'non-issue' for me.
i rarely cry.
When i do, it's not likely to occur as a response to physical pain.
In my case, it's never about 'holding back'.
The tears don't come ...
 
sinn0cent1 said:
It's a 'non-issue' for me.
i rarely cry.
When i do, it's not likely to occur as a response to physical pain.
In my case, it's never about 'holding back'.
The tears don't come ...
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I'm the same way. Now I'll admit, I'm still new to all of this, but so far the clostest I've gotten to tears was the last session I had with a friend. He got my eyes to water but only after 2 hours of beating me and then dripping hot wax on my beaten flesh and it was more cause I nearly choked on the tie he was using for a gag than anything else. Though I know he's really proud of the fact that he made my eyes water up, so I haven't said anything about it being from me choking on the gag. And there are two reasons I won't tell him: 1) cause I really don't want to burst his bubble after he's been strutting around, and 2) cause he'd just try that much harder the next time to get me to cry. *giggles*
 
I hurt myself a lot in my everyday life (you should see the burn I somehow managed to get on my upper arm today) and like pain a lot during play, but no physical pain usually brings any tears to my eyes. Just doesn't come.

If they did come, I don't think I'd be afraid to show them. I'm pretty open/honest about how I'm feeling 99% of the time, and just don't feel that I have anything to hide with tears.

Things that do make me cry are emotional. Feeling that I've been abandoned or betrayed, those things make me cry. Feeling like I'm truly alone...
 
I live with physical pain 24/7 so I am a fighter. I rarely cry from physical pain and if I do, it means it is totally off the scale and out of control (and I must be tired to boot). Now pain from crops/whips/canes are a different story since it is a different type of pain for me. Love it, ride it out and rarely shed a tear - although the cane can definitely bring tears to my eyes, I believe it's more of exquisite/ecstatic type of tears.
 
I cry rather easy. But I really don't want to in play, because I'm afraid he'll stop.
 
Not that I've done much..... but I've never cried.

I think it is my ultimate fantasy to be beaten/abused until I am broken, with the tears flowing freely. Then just a few more minutes of pain being inflicted upon me, before it all stops....... until the next time.

J.
 
I don't mind showing him how much it hurts (most of the time) but I do try to keep from crying because my silly body has convinced itself that crying = sad. So even though I would just start crying from nothing but physical pain, once the tears start rolling I actually start to feel depressed and that usually leads to the end of our session. Stoopid backwards Pavlovian response!
 
I try very hard not to cry and most of the time i succeed. If and when i do cry it is usually over something emotional rather than pain induced. I get in trouble for keeping my feelings bottled up.

I was taught early on in life that crying wasn't acceptable and was a sign of weakness. It has been extremely hard to try to overcome it.

Bull's lil girl
 
AngelicAssassin said:
i cry freely.

Keeps the dust out of my eyes.
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I love this answer.

Tears are a lubricant for the emotions and keeps them from creaking.

Great endorphins too.
 
Chicklet said:
I hurt myself a lot in my everyday life (you should see the burn I somehow managed to get on my upper arm today) and like pain a lot during play, but no physical pain usually brings any tears to my eyes. Just doesn't come.

If they did come, I don't think I'd be afraid to show them. I'm pretty open/honest about how I'm feeling 99% of the time, and just don't feel that I have anything to hide with tears.

Things that do make me cry are emotional. Feeling that I've been abandoned or betrayed, those things make me cry. Feeling like I'm truly alone...
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I can fight back tears with physical pain. Its with emotional pain that I rarely succeed. I hate to appear weak especially in front of a man. I hate for any man to think that I am weak or an easy target. Alas I tend to prove over and over again that I am naive and weak. I let people get too close and I get hurt. I do better keeping them at a distance - arm's length. I can better protect myself that way.
 
thewantonscribe said:
I can fight back tears with physical pain. Its with emotional pain that I rarely succeed. I hate to appear weak especially in front of a man. I hate for any man to think that I am weak or an easy target. Alas I tend to prove over and over again that I am naive and weak. I let people get too close and I get hurt. I do better keeping them at a distance - arm's length. I can better protect myself that way.
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I love for a man or a woman to think that tears make me weak.

Being underestimated is a great tactical advantage.
 
I am sappy and sentimental. I have bawled my fool head off over everything from the oreo commercial with the two old people sharing a cookie (course I was pregnant... that excuses a lot) to each and every concert/play whatever my kids have performed in.

Physical pain doesn't bring me to tears. It just doesn't. I don't know, maybe I just have an over developed pain tolerance. I had true natural childbirth... no drugs. I didn't cry.

It's just how I am wired. Or maybe I just haven't had the "right" physical pain yet...
 
Kierae said:
I live with physical pain 24/7 so I am a fighter. I rarely cry from physical pain and if I do, it means it is totally off the scale and out of control (and I must be tired to boot).
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You sound ALOT like me, I think I've only cried out of pain maybe 5 times in my adult life although I can't recall more than 1 instance and that was from a 14 hour gall stone attack, and it was 3 tears.
 
Do spankees develope a higher pain tolerance?

Amazing: 30% of the people on this forum claim that physical pain doesn't produce tears.
Normal people generally cry when pain is too much, at least this is my experience after many years passed playing basket and taking care of many team mates injured.
Do you think that people involved in spanking activities develope a special pain tolerance, or that they generally have a higher pain threshold?
 
melan said:
Amazing: 30% of the people on this forum claim that physical pain doesn't produce tears.
Normal people generally cry when pain is too much, at least this is my experience after many years passed playing basket and taking care of many team mates injured.
Do you think that people involved in spanking activities develope a special pain tolerance, or that they generally have a higher pain threshold?
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Could be... I have a bizarre laugh reaction that happens when the pain gets too much. Thankfully, after several years of being with the same Dom this doesn't get me in as much trouble as it used to...

Nothing freaks a sadist out like someone laughing at their best efforts.
 
Red Sonja said:
Could be... I have a bizarre laugh reaction that happens when the pain gets too much. Thankfully, after several years of being with the same Dom this doesn't get me in as much trouble as it used to...

Nothing freaks a sadist out like someone laughing at their best efforts.
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Laughter is actually the second most common reaction to pain, after crying . Ask any dentist :cool:
 
m wisdom said:
Laughter is actually the second most common reaction to pain, after crying . Ask any dentist :cool:
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I've never laughed at the dentist. I cry even if they aren't hurting me. I start crying the second I sit in that evil chair and I don't stop till I'm leaving. I freak dentists out.
 
graceanne said:
I've never laughed at the dentist. I cry even if they aren't hurting me. I start crying the second I sit in that evil chair and I don't stop till I'm leaving. I freak dentists out.
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I definitely do not laugh at the dentist. Way too much stress in that chair. i zone out to CNN.
 
Red Sonja said:
I definitely do not laugh at the dentist. Way too much stress in that chair. i zone out to CNN.
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I dont' have insurance, so I'm always at the cheapest dentists, and let me tell you - they don't have tv or anything like that.
 
I love seeing tears but that doesn't mean I strive to bring them out. They are like small gifts to me. It means I have reached deep enough to break through a barrier whether through pain or emotions within them.

I do not see it as a weakness in them but just the opposite. They were strong enough to allow me to take them that far inside of themselves and bring it to the surface.

It can make me emotional in the process, stirring a vast array of powerful emotions with me.

I also like the salty taste of them.

If a girl is prone to the waterworks I find it does not even come close to giving me the same effect or feelings.
 
I try to fight the tears but I don't always succeed My master hits me harder If I whine or show any sign of weakness
 
Joe Schmoe said:
I love seeing tears but that doesn't mean I strive to bring them out. They are like small gifts to me. It means I have reached deep enough to break through a barrier whether through pain or emotions within them.

I do not see it as a weakness in them but just the opposite. They were strong enough to allow me to take them that far inside of themselves and bring it to the surface.

It can make me emotional in the process, stirring a vast array of powerful emotions with me.

I also like the salty taste of them.

If a girl is prone to the waterworks I find it does not even come close to giving me the same effect or feelings.
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Thank you, Joe - this is the closest description to the reason I fight tears during a scene. My tears really are a gift - to both of us: to my Top for being astute and in tune enough to make the journey into my deeply restricted emotions ... and me for unlocking the door so They might enter.

IMO, a Dom/me worth their salt knows/understands this dynamic and doesn't push for the "waterworks". If disbursing pain just to see someone cry is what a Dom/me wants to do, I'm not sure They have a good handle on Their responsibilities to a submissive. On the other hand, if that is what works for both of T/them - more power to T/them. I just believe they are missing out on depth in the relationship.

Of course, if depth is not what T/they are looking for, the gift of fighting the tears is a moot point, anyway. ;)

Esclava :rose:

Thank you for listening. Slipping back into lurk mode ...
 
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