Submissive "Thought of the Day" Calendar

Here you go, MissT.

I read Mr. Blonde's thread, and liked it so much I thought I would grant MissT her wish.


JANUARY 1ST
Anything is a big word. I don't think i've ever said or felt that i would do anything to please my Dom/me. I have limits. We all have limits. Even those who so earnestly proclaim themselves limit-free, a species of sub found mostly in chat rooms, in my experience, have limits.

Cymbidia

Life without limits

To me it would seem that to have no limits would also mean to have no ability to think or feel fear. Everyone fears something and that something will determine limits in your life. I believe limits can be pushed, but I do agree that by virtue of being human we all have some limits. jmho

misunderstood the point of the thread....deleted original post

Ok, guys... this is not meant to be only a rehashing of the quote... you are supposed to post words of wisdom yourselves. If you don't have any, borrow someone elses.

Ok, let's try to get this straightened out.

January 4th

. . . I agree that humiliation is a reminder that I'm not special, or perfect, or super sub. It's an ego-buster. I NEED it to get me out of myself, take me off that pedestal of self that I've got in my head and knock me down to sub size. No matter HOW great a submissive I think I am, how wonderful the service I'm giving, I've still got a little place of ego I'm operating from in there somewhere...hiding out...waiting. A good dose of humiliation is just the right thing to take me down, and put me in . my . place .

Degradation, on the other hand, is something that scares the living daylights out of me. Mainly because it's something I've done to myself in the past. Yes, I've degraded myself. Not in this relationship, but in another....note I said degraded myself. I didn't allow it to happen, I abused myself with that relationship in a way that was degrading and abusive to me. It wasn't embarrassing, or mildly uncomfortable--it debased me, dishonored me, and disgraced me. I was nothing after it was over. A shell.

Where I a woman of great pride, and unending arrogance, perhaps that line between humiliation and degradation would be fuzzier. Perhaps it SHOULD be fuzzier. Perhaps I would need more degradation...a few less rungs on the ladder down towards the scum of pond scum to use OSG's analogy. However, I have expended a great deal of time, and effort dealing with the vagaries and whims of my ego, and work daily on staying out of myself, and remaining focused on others, rather than me. It's not the easiest work in the world, but I'd rather work at that, than spend time being degraded.

AnelizeDarkEyes


https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=203983



*edited for link*

Thanks Red

Jan. 6,

"One person's "abuse" is another person's consensual nonconsensuality, and part and parcel of their no-limits TPE, and something you can never hope to completely understand, unless you are living it day to day. We can just try to embrace what they live and be open-minded enough not to call down the heavens upon them in the name of saving them from the devil of "abuse" and let them live their reality the way they and their Master choose to live it, if they aren't directly asking for our help."

AnelizeDarkEyes

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=216573

January 7th--Something about Service

January 7th

"It also emphasizews that though a slave looks for a Master/Mistress who will fulfil their image of what suits them, the slave is there to serve, not to live in pleasure according to what they think appropriate. Is as many said in the other thread, be careful before committing as if you commit to someone who plays for keeps and you don't, or expects service you have no intention of delivering, it is not going to go well for either of the parties. Of course, if both Master/Mistress and slave enter into an agreement acknowledging a time frame or an agreement where there are terms by which the relationship is cancelled, there may be points on which a slave can walk free. Where the agreement exists as in my relationship, there is no walking out any doors permitted. Awareness is the key to safety and contentment long term, and part of that awareness being the parameters of the relationship each person expects and commits to."

-Catalina

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=113719

Jan. 8

By Caitlynne,

"Even after all the steps needed to build that trust and confidence are taken, the first time or the first relationship is like falling backwards into the arms of a stranger........ like falling backwards over a cliff... I had to ask myself, where will I land, how will I land, that first initial surrender is a very frightening moment and it can be complicated further if those fears are not acknowledged and dealt with. (by the sub, the Dom, both actually)"

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=128492

January 9

"Pain makes me wet. So does fear. Fear arouses me more than pleasure. I've realized that this is because I get pleasure all the time; it's expected, even ordinary. But I only allow myself to be afraid with him. It's a safe environment; it's like being on a rollercoaster. You know you aren't really in danger but there is still that thrill of "what if?" That's what I get off on. People who go to amusement parks aren't sick bastards either. "

~Quint

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=158665

January 10th

"Submission is a freely made choice, one based on trust. Part of that trust is the total faith that you (Dom/me) will stop if they (Sub) need you to; violate that bond, and the relationship is over in all the ways that matter."

~RisiaSkye

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=39661

Janurary 11th

I don't know where I first heard it, if someone important said it say so but ...

" The difference between pain and pleasure is perception. "

~added by Jackie Blue

Jan 12th

"Here is my take..and ONLY how i see things. A dominant need not ever have to show his control over his submissive in any way physically, including raising his voice. As for not needing to exert control...i kind of think they are totally controlling the situation at all times but dont feel the need to pound their chest like tarzan lol. That to me is a true Dominant, and the type that i feel comfortable submitting to. A Dom who feels the need to forever prove his/her dominance is not a dom at all."

Kajira Callista

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=217124

January 13th - Desdemona

"In most of the D/s literature, we talk about the need for a strong healthy sub; inherent in that is psychological health. It means that the sub is able to give or retract consent for his/her situation and to set limits or accept the limits of the dominant partner with full knowledge/understanding of the risks and benefits of their actions. It means that the sub/slave wants to be in this situation. That is fundamentally different than being dependant on another for survival, unhappy with the circumstances, and unable to escape. Again, this is not D/s."

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&postid=7131288#post7131288


Catalina

January 14

I guess I see a Dominant as the teacher, guider, controller, liberator, and the bearer of tremendous responsibility. I mean the Dominant is taking on the responsibility for both themselves and the submissive. I guess I have a hard time seperating the physical from the emotional.

In my mind I see this entire aspect of life as a physical, mental, and emotional journey. A path to enlightenment and self-discovery and freedom and in a bizarre way, peace.

Limbhugger

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=216573&perpage=25&pagenumber=2

January 15th - words of s'lara

"i don't really know. Pain clears the senses, provides relief from self-induced/outside pressures and is sexually arousing all by itself. Whatever pain is (for those who enjoy it) it certainly is very personal to the masochist. i find it is more often a need than a want in terms of pain. But that's me and how pain relates to me ... a masosub."


https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=217905

Catalina

January 16th

my Master is very much like my God...i adore and worship him, and His ways and the guidelines he sets down for my life are my only religion. i think probably everyone needs something (or someone) to believe in...to have an unconditional faith in...Daddy is what/who i believe in. it doesn't mean that i think he's flawless and faultless, my idea of a God doesn't equate to perfection.

ownedsubgal https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=210795&perpage=25&pagenumber=3


Catalina

January 17

By Desdemona

I think maybe the dance changes as the relationship evolves and also as outside influences impact the dancers. Sometimes, the dance is playful, sometimes a passionate Tango, sometimes sweet and slow with the partners clinging together, slowly swaying to music only they can hear. Sometimes one partner performs a dance for the other's entertainment.

As in a dance, one partner leads, the other follows. If both attempt to lead at once, somebody's feet are going to get stepped on, thus making the dance much less pleasurable and perhaps causing the dance to end.

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=221157

January 18th

By Limbhugger

"Well I suppose do as your told, but I find the whole capitalization thing boring and over done. There's nothing wrong with it but it my mind it is uneccessary.

In casual chats it can be different than in posts. I can assure you, if I do not capitalize "dominant" in referrence to Wife or say Shadowsdream, it in now way means I'm taking away from their stature.

But then I've never understood OL play so what do I know."



https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&postid=7181051#post7181051

January 19th - posted by raindancer

The Bondage, discipline, along with the S&M part of BDSM does not have to be present within a D/s relationship. Submission is much, much more than receiving pain for a Dom/me's pleasure.

( https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=75863&perpage=25&pagenumber=1 )

Catalina

January 20th

words of wisdom from cymbidia : https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=82875

Body size is totally irrelevant as far as one's BDSM nature goes. Whoever led you to believe differently is inhabiting some alternate universe.




Catalina

catalina_francisco said:

January 20th

words of wisdom from cymbidia : https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=82875

Body size is totally irrelevant as far as one's BDSM nature goes. Whoever led you to believe differently is inhabiting some alternate universe.




Catalina

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I like that one... thanks

Re: Jan 12th

niteshade said:

"Here is my take..and ONLY how i see things. A dominant need not ever have to show his control over his submissive in any way physically, including raising his voice. As for not needing to exert control...i kind of think they are totally controlling the situation at all times but dont feel the need to pound their chest like tarzan lol. That to me is a true Dominant, and the type that i feel comfortable submitting to. A Dom who feels the need to forever prove his/her dominance is not a dom at all."

Kajira Callista

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=217124

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I agree with you on this, niteshade, and also with this:

I think much of the common practice is superficial at best and a farce otherwise. Making someone jump through hoops just because you can is ridiculous. I would never behave that way. I don't need to exercise my power to prove that I have it. I know it. you know it. Who else needs to know?

Re: Re: Jan 12th

Radagast said:

I agree with you on this, niteshade, and also with this:

I think much of the common practice is superficial at best and a farce otherwise. Making someone jump through hoops just because you can is ridiculous. I would never behave that way. I don't need to exercise my power to prove that I have it. I know it. you know it. Who else needs to know?

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Thanks Radagast, but I didn't really say that... Kajira Callista did. I just thought it made sense

January 21st - words from SexyChele

Exploring an online relationship can provide a bit of fun and spice - but maintaining them can take a lot of energy and effort. I know there are some who manage to do it, but it would rightly fall under the heading "long distance relationship", as they have eventually met. (I realize that some fall outside of this parameter as well)

https://forum.literotica.com/showthread.php?s=&threadid=146734

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