What are your biggest turn offs? In reading, writing or real life.

Turn off - Stories that have a great build up and then end TOO fast...

Turn on - plot twist you NEVER suspected...

Turn ons - Feedback. Verbal, physical, whatever. Anything that shows me whether I'm hitting the mark or not. If I am, it's so fucking hot to feel that success (ok yeah a little bit of ego stroking), and if I'm not, I want to know so I can adjust. As I wrong that I was talking about sex, but I guess it's the same for my writing. Complimenting my writing is almost as good as complimenting my fucking... Almost.

Turn offs - Blank faces in porn. Doesn't matter if it's the best produced or the lowest budget homemade vid, if either or both participants are clearly not into it I just can't stand it. Wasted lines in writing (nothing wrong with background, character and plot development, but you can just tell some writers are trying to fill space. I'm guilty of it myself). No laughter after sex.

PaxNurgle said:

A question about that last thing: Is there a balance where it is okay to delve into the characters' back story?

When I create a story, I try to give the characters and the story a little context: Make them more "filled out" so to speak, as real people rather than cardboard cutout cookie cutter porn stars. Also, I like having a little back story, and a plot with some twists and developments, to go with the sex scenes. Is this good or bad? I have already had one commentator say no; focus on the sex and go easier on the story.

I suppose it depends on the reader preference- some may wish for pure sex scenes- and to be honest, in some of what I have written, the sex scenes are not the main focus of the story.

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You'll never be able to please every reader on a platform as large and diverse as Literotica. It's futile to try. In general, our best stories are the ones we tell because we, the author, like them and they turn us on. The idea of writing what we have inside wanting to come out is, in my view, the best way to go.

A perfect example: I won't read more than a few paragraphs of a story that is merely descriptions of the physical acts of sex. But info dumps right up front are also very amateurish. The best way to show the backstory and paint the portrait of the characters is by dropping crumbs of information as the events of the story are unfolding. For me, a balance between the physical and the inner emotions offer the fullest picture of erotica.

PaxNurgle said:

A question about that last thing: Is there a balance where it is okay to delve into the characters' back story?

When I create a story, I try to give the characters and the story a little context: Make them more "filled out" so to speak, as real people rather than cardboard cutout cookie cutter porn stars. Also, I like having a little back story, and a plot with some twists and developments, to go with the sex scenes. Is this good or bad? I have already had one commentator say no; focus on the sex and go easier on the story.

I suppose it depends on the reader preference- some may wish for pure sex scenes- and to be honest, in some of what I have written, the sex scenes are not the main focus of the story.

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I’m demisexual, and I literally get nothing at all from reading one-off stories that are all sex. Personally, I need the buildup, backstory, character development, plot, etc. to get anything from a story. Because of that, I usually stick to story series, because they’re way more likely to spend time developing their characters’ relationships before sex happens, which is the only way I’m even getting aroused from the sex scenes, much less getting off. There have been two or three exceptions over the years, and the common theme in all of those exceptions was that the authors focused almost entirely on the sex acts themselves and left the characters vague enough that I could just input people I was attracted to into the fantasy. And plus, all of those stories were almost perfectly in line with my kinks, which is relatively rare.

In my personal opinion, if you write series, include the non-sexual story elements. If you write mostly one-offs, maybe don’t include as much.

I'll go back to the original topic:
Biggest turn offs:

In real life: lack of communication and response. I need verbal and visual cues that all is more than well. Asking me to be anyone other than me. I don't do roleplay really, it isn't for me. I don't want to be with someone else, and I don't want my partner to want me to be someone else. No thanks. Degradation. interruptions from outside parties (phone, tv, person, etc)

In writing: unbelievable jumps (ex a girl who was not into a thing then hot guy is like HEY let's do *thing* "OKAY!" no.
No backstory or no plot just sexytimes.
Anything including hard limits of mine.

I don't watch porn so.. mmk.

In pictures: I don't know. I'll have to think on this one.

Innocentyoungvirgin said:

My biggest turn off is when a person, who I fancy contacting with a personal message, includes a whole bunch of petty dislikes in their profile. I just ignore such people. If they are so closed minded and intolerant, then they are not worth knowing.

Does this attitude make me as bad as them??

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Not at all. You listed one very informative dislike. Lay on, Macduff.

Reading: poor grammar or use of words. This is a real pet peeve of mine. Shutter vs. shudder quickly comes to mind. Please, please, please! have a real person proofread your work and don't rely soley on autocorrect!

Writing: getting bogged down in details when I can't seem to accurately portray the picture in my head.

RL: don't touching my fucking ears again!


Um, sorry guys...that last one kinda slipped out.

I agree with much said here over the past year. Some are quite interesting to ponder.

I have a problem when role playing with a woman.

I write long, detailed role play, which I enjoy. Then I get a reply like "I love it - tell me more" or something similar. I think if you want to role play it should be like talking in real life with a close friend. Sharing each others thoughts

Use some imagination.

I dislike when you write to a person whose looking to create a roleplay scenario.

You discuss the topic and start the story. You go into great detail, wanting to make that person feel as if they're actually there experiencing it first hand. He send it off and they send back a line ot two. You respond with another couple of paragraphs and they send back a line or two.

I would love to meet women who enjoy writing stories in detail.

I agree

I totally agree with Libra stud. You write an amaizing story, hoping they will contribute,... only to get. Tell me more.

As A Reader

The word "cunny" bothers me. When I'm reading it pulls me out of the story every time. In real life it makes me cringe and cross my legs. Not saying someone couldn't get me to change my mind but yeah, not my favorite word.

PaxNurgle said:

A question about that last thing: Is there a balance where it is okay to delve into the characters' back story?

When I create a story, I try to give the characters and the story a little context: Make them more "filled out" so to speak, as real people rather than cardboard cutout cookie cutter porn stars. Also, I like having a little back story, and a plot with some twists and developments, to go with the sex scenes. Is this good or bad? I have already had one commentator say no; focus on the sex and go easier on the story.

I suppose it depends on the reader preference- some may wish for pure sex scenes- and to be honest, in some of what I have written, the sex scenes are not the main focus of the story.

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There is no right answer to this question. Literotica has a huge audience of readers that fit every type. Many come to Literotica looking for a short, to-the-point stroke experience. They do not want to waste time with buildup.

Many others, like me, insist on some buildup and character development. I find a story that jumps right into sex boring, because for me is is the context and characters that make an erotic story erotic, not just the mechanics of inserting A into B.

But a key point re development: Don't stuff the beginning of your story with a long introduction and data dump. Instead, jump right into the action of the story, and use a variety of techniques, including narrative but also dialogue, to reveal the backstory and character.

In no particular order. Age play, shaved pussy, a woman who just lays there.