celticbtrfly
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- Jan 12, 2008
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I understand the guilt you feel. I feel that, too, at times. My husband is very sexual, and so am I, but the problem is that I get bored at times being with the same person. I don't only fantasize about women. Sometimes it's other men, but I would never, ever pursue another man as long as we are married. I deal with my attraction toward other men through erotic writing and fantasy. A woman, however, feels different to me. And he knows that.
He was enthusiastic about the threesome idea for a long time, until I told him I just wanted to put away the idea for now. I don't think he understands my feelings about this and why I don't want him involved. Sex with a woman would only be good for me if it's just the woman and me, and that's all there is to it.
Looking forward to talking to other women here.
Your situation sounds very familiar to mine...I've also found myself attracted to other men, and yes, I've dealt with that in writing.
I also feel guilt because I've been having trouble with my libido lately with my husband. I just can't seem to get going for him. But I have been when talking to other women. I don't think it's that I'm not attracted to men, or him, but just a situational stress situation with him that I don't have with other people.