And I can't wait to get married. :]I've been married for 21 years. It suits me perfectly, as it does my wife. We can do things together and be recognised as "Mr & Mrs [MF]", but we also have individual interests that we pursue separately. We take an ongoing interest in each other's passions, and we give each other time and space to pursue them. We enjoy each other's company, but we're not dependent on it all of the time. We have friends in common and friends that we've each made separately, and we welcome the latter becoming the former. We don't appear to have jealousy issues, and we don't check up on each other, not so much because we trust each other (although obviously we do), but rather because we each trust ourselves.
In short, marriage provides us with a legitimate framework, but it doesn't provide all of the answers. Many things still have to be worked out between the partners in the relationship whatever its formal status.
That's how it works for us, anyway. Obviously, your mileage may vary.
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Thank you!I have to admit that reading this was refreshing.
Thank you!
I didn't intend to come across as preachy, or to imply that everything's perfect. Marriage works for some people and not others: it's the quality of a relationship that really counts, regardless of what trappings one puts around it. I just wanted to pitch in with a positive experience, and perhaps encourage cynics to think again.
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Been there done that and got to keep the Just Divorced Tee shirt after court!
