Mismatched Libidos, What to do?

60 Years old, been married for 30 years. Throughout the marriage, our lack of sexual activity has always been an issue.

Not totally without a sex life, otherwise I obviously would have left awhile ago. However, once a week or less isn't very satisfying.

And yes, I do my best to satisfy my wife however I can. When I go down on her she always has 3-5 orgasms. I'd give her more, but she gets too sensitive at some point and asks me to stop.

I tried Craigslist Personals with very limited success. In fact only 1 actual sexual encounter, and 2 frustrating meetings for drinks.

I live in NYC, and ideally would find a woman in a similar situation who'd like to meet on a continuing basis.

I realize that I should probably post this in the personals, but as I'm new to the site, I couldn't quite figure out how to post such a "Vanilla" thing. Although my experience has been only one on one with a woman, and largely not kinky, FWIW I'm open to exploring other elements of the human sexuality spectrum. And as I've said previously in other forums: I might be White, but I'm not uptight, so I'd be open to checking you out.

I feel your pain. We're 40/39, but my wife has almost no sex drive and mine is always redlining at 6000RPMs.

I have suffered through 16 years of 1x/week (when I'm lucky). I've tried everything.

So I seek gratification through others And keep it on the DL.

Good luck!

You guys aren't alone. There are plenty of women in the same situation.

anneas said:

You guys aren't alone. There are plenty of women in the same situation.

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I wish I could find 1 or 2 around here.

Over 3 years for me with NO SEX from my spouse, however we are in love, kisses, touches, just no sex. I have "wandered...found a gal 24 years younger who fucks like a mink... always ready, small women with a decent body, shaved, loves oral... gives great head, BUT, no intellectual connection, she can't communicate on my level... comments???

junk_yard said:

Over 3 years for me with NO SEX from my spouse, however we are in love, kisses, touches, just no sex. I have "wandered...found a gal 24 years younger who fucks like a mink... always ready, small women with a decent body, shaved, loves oral... gives great head, BUT, no intellectual connection, she can't communicate on my level... comments???

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Comments?

I wish I had your problem...

Indeed. Finding people is hard...even on here.