Cheaters and Liars - How do you deal?

[SinnCitySinner]

What do you do when you find out that the man you are in love with for the last 4 years has repeatedly cheated? Worst part is, no matter what evidence I provide (and I have evidence!), he will deny it to the death. The narcissistic sociopath and him will never ever ever let him admit to any wrong doing. Even if that means he has to blatantly insult my intelligence.

So who is up for helping me exact some sweet revenge? Open for advice on handling this situation and/or ready get a little dirty myself.

 

[Fala]

What do you do when you find out that the man you are in love with for the last 4 years has repeatedly cheated? Worst part is, no matter what evidence I provide (and I have evidence!), he will deny it to the death. The narcissistic sociopath and him will never ever ever let him admit to any wrong doing. Even if that means he has to blatantly insult my intelligence.

So who is up for helping me exact some sweet revenge? Open for advice on handling this situation and/or ready get a little dirty myself.

Revenge is beneath you, doll. Just leave the SOB and sail yourself off into a sweet future!

 

[SinnCitySinner]

Revenge is absolutely beneath me, but sometimes you have to get a little dirty...and have a little fun.

 

[Fala]

Oh, I just noticed this is your first post.

At this point, if I were you, you'd better hope nothing nefarious happens to your "Cheater" as you are going to be straight up suspect.

Yano, how smart do you think it is to log into a site looking for somebody you don't even know to jack up your ex.

Get the fuck outta here.

 

[SinnCitySinner]

Whoa whoa whoa! Calm down turbo!
I wasn't talking about THAT kind of dirty. Geez! I'm no monster. Lol! I was talking about the fucking kind of dirty....

 

[Fala]

Whoa whoa whoa! Calm down turbo!
I wasn't talking about THAT kind of dirty. Geez! I'm no monster. Lol! I was talking about the fucking kind of dirty....

Well, why didn't you just come out and say you are a prostitute looking for a hookup?

The sob story about your cheater boyfriend now looks kinda pathetic.

You are in Vegas? Check out the local Craigslist.

This is a porn board...please do not denigrate it.

 

[Debbie]

IMO revenge doesn't fix the problem, get you payback or help you deal with the betrayal.

 

[hashtag34]

There are always two sides of the story, but assuming that the OP was right and he is a SOB:

I think that (Constructive) revenge is important.
If you lie down and take it upon yourself "I shouldn't be revengeful because it's not nice" or whatever, you just disempower yourself.

But it depends on revenge: Constructive revenge that empowers you and puts you in a position of moral superiority is the best.. The other type could be easily turned around by the SOB as to make you look petty.

Like getting a good money settlement upon separation, and getting a gorgeous makeover, or achieve something so that
would show how poor he is at judging people.
No need to hide the fact that you were hurt by the betrayal, (you're human not a robot afterall) but just show that there's more to yourself than the asshole thought. And that you have the resources to go on without him.

 

[SinnCitySinner]

Well, why didn't you just come out and say you are a prostitute looking for a hookup?

The sob story about your cheater boyfriend now looks kinda pathetic.

You are in Vegas? Check out the local Craigslist.

This is a porn board...please do not denigrate it.

Awesome, well thank you Fala for not judging. But I can definitely see where you would think that having my world ripped apart and looking for a little porn from your fucking porn board would make me a prostitute. Thanks for being so heartless. I hope you never experience such heartbreak. Done with this board.

 

[Debbie]

Awesome, well thank you Fala for not judging. But I can definitely see where you would think that having my world ripped apart and looking for a little porn from your fucking porn board would make me a prostitute. Thanks for being so heartless. I hope you never experience such heartbreak. Done with this board.

This place can be a rough and tough zone but for the most part you'll get peoples honest opinions.


Sometimes when life shit happens we're so vulnerable and sometimes self destructive.

I'm sorry you are heart broken and no amount of kind words here will help but I hope you will take care and look after yourself.

 

[SinnCitySinner]

There are always two sides of the story, but assuming that the OP was right and he is a SOB:

I think that (Constructive) revenge is important.
If you lie down and take it upon yourself "I shouldn't be revengeful because it's not nice" or whatever, you just disempower yourself.

But it depends on revenge: Constructive revenge that empowers you and puts you in a position of moral superiority is the best.. The other type could be easily turned around by the SOB as to make you look petty.

Like getting a good money settlement upon separation, and getting a gorgeous makeover, or achieve something so that
would show how poor he is at judging people.
No need to hide the fact that you were hurt by the betrayal, (you're human not a robot afterall) but just show that there's more to yourself than the asshole thought. And that you have the resources to go on without him.

Thank you. I honestly wasn't trying to make it a sob story. I'm not interested in getting money from him or taking anything from him. :Sigh: to be completely honest, I don't even want to cheat on him. Idk what the fuck I'm doing here. Guess I just needed to be heard. I keep it off social media and I don't want to tell anyone we know because I don't want them to judge him. Lol! How stupid that I want to protect him even after all this. The good news is that tomorrow is a new day.

Thanks for reading. Sorry if I "denigrated your porn board".

 

[SinnCitySinner]

This place can be a rough and tough zone but for the most part you'll get peoples honest opinions.


Sometimes when life shit happens we're so vulnerable and sometimes self destructive.

I'm sorry you are heart broken and no amount of kind words here will help but I hope you will take care and look after yourself.

I appreciate your kindness. I've been a big fan of this site for several years. Thanks again for responding.

 

[Lancecastor]

Thank you. I honestly wasn't trying to make it a sob story. I'm not interested in getting money from him or taking anything from him. :Sigh: to be completely honest, I don't even want to cheat on him. Idk what the fuck I'm doing here. Guess I just needed to be heard. I keep it off social media and I don't want to tell anyone we know because I don't want them to judge him. Lol! How stupid that I want to protect him even after all this. The good news is that tomorrow is a new day.

Thanks for reading. Sorry if I "denigrated your porn board".

Find some random guy to take pics while fucking you and post them here.

That'll fix his wagon.

Unless you're ugly.

Are you?

( see why we need pics?)

 

[SinnCitySinner]

Find some random guy to take pics while fucking you and post them here.

That'll fix his wagon.

Unless you're ugly.

Are you?

( see why we need pics?)

Beauty is subjective, but the answer is no, I'm not ugly. And I'd be happy to post a pic...as soon as I figure out how...

 

[hashtag34]

1.Thank you. I honestly wasn't trying to make it a sob story. I'm not interested in getting money from him or taking anything from him. :Sigh: to be completely honest, I don't even want to cheat on him. Idk what the fuck I'm doing here. Guess I just needed to be heard. I keep it off social media and I don't want to tell anyone we know because I don't want them to judge him. Lol! How stupid that I want to protect him even after all this. The good news is that tomorrow is a new day.

2.Thanks for reading. Sorry if I "denigrated your porn board".

2. I just hope others would be as honest and real as you are, instead of playing the "I'm so perfect" bullshit game.


1.I've been there, maybe not in situations like yours, but when I felt that I was wronged or treated unfairly.

My way of coping with such things was to initially ventilate and express my -understandable- anger or revenge fantasies, even if I knew they were just fantasies. And once I got that out of my system, I felt much better.

The next phase was to achieve a sense of control by showing the person who wronged me that I'm in a better moral pisition than they were, or by renegociating our relationship.
It's of course a game and it's all about impression management. But the goal is to feel empowered again.

I hope that you'll feel better and find the resolution that fits you the most.

.

 

[Lancecastor]

Beauty is subjective, but the answer is no, I'm not ugly. And I'd be happy to post a pic...as soon as I figure out how...

The bright girls usually figure it out.

 

[Debbie]

I haven't been cheated on but my ex was cruel. Sure I thought about revenge. Dismantling his beloved car - piece by piece and placing the pieces all over his lawn for him to see when he made his morning coffee in the kitchen would have been a sight for sore eyes. Or a can of cockroaches tipped into his bed and laugh myself silly as he shit himself since he hated bugs.

But I realized it was a waste of my physical and emotional energy.

I do think that as individuals we all deal with betrayal and emotional pain differently.

 

[Lancecastor]

I agree with deb... go to the happy side with selfies.

 

[deehere]

The best revenge is living well. Consider yourself lucky to have dodged that bullet and found out before you made things permanent with him.

 

[butters]

What do you do when you find out that the man you are in love with for the last 4 years has repeatedly cheated? Worst part is, no matter what evidence I provide (and I have evidence!), he will deny it to the death. The narcissistic sociopath and him will never ever ever let him admit to any wrong doing. Even if that means he has to blatantly insult my intelligence.

So who is up for helping me exact some sweet revenge? Open for advice on handling this situation and/or ready get a little dirty myself.

you walk away from the situation. you refuse to allow yourself to be treated that way any more. revenge is not the way.

if you want to hook up with someone else to enjoy yourself, that's your call, but do it for yourself, cut the cheater out of the picture and only settle for someone you WANT to get down and dirty with, not just use someone in an attempt to soothe the burn with fire.

 

[rocket_surgery]

How much ya paying?

 

[RubiDia]

Make them an offer they can't refuse?

 

[FGB]

Sounds like a Cheap Trick!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=whQQpwwvSh4

 

[RubiDia]

So who is up for helping me exact some sweet revenge?

You need to find a precedent.

 

[RubiDia]

When they weren't there. When you needed them.