bi_sub_lady_doc
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confused regarding orientation : masochism & submissiveness are two separate traits
contrary to my earlier belief, i now believe that i am not a submissive.but i certainly posses masochist fantasies.well, there is a thin line between.my masochist fantasies are strictly to please myself.when my previous online mistresses tried to go overboard or forgot the fact that they are just enacting their roles, particularly when i was not in mood, i didn't think twice to kick them out.again my fetishes don't emphasize on physical pain but on humiliation of ( look like accident) exposures, these appear as adventurous kink to me out of mundane vanilla.a mistress is just the captain to guide my desires, not to control the ship altogether.( more of an accomplice than one who dictates)
oh another thing, in the personal forum i have noticed many ads ( those which are given by so called doms) which give the impression that a sub is a sub in all spheres of life.i don't think the notion is right.these are just fetishes.like me, many would love to do stark opposite things to their roles in their professional life.
my theory suits most of the cases, though it's partially unsuccessful to explain my first incident i.e with my female maid where i was blackmailed, the incident which seeded the fetish in me.i discovered that humiliation ( kinky adventures to be more precise) do turn me on .but again i submitted to her as i was compelled to, not out of my will. i can't tag that as a dom sub relation, as there was nothing sexual or physical (apart from a few spanks or twist to my nips) in that, only some humiliating games.she never undressed herself or made me serve her.she was straight.it was kinda revenge/ psychological pleasure for her.after a few months, when the initial enemity & tension between us came down, i myself started to ask her for those sessions, as i found it immensely pleasureable, the game part..even she abandoned the vengeful image.she was more of an accomplice to me.but when she tried to cross the limits ( imposing the relation beyond the sessions), i did beat the hell out of her to make her realize her place.now i believe that i could have prevented her initial blackmailing too, so that i could control the initial few episodes.i mean, i would have taken part in those games but i wouldn't allow her to dictate.
yes, i know i am self contradictory.hell of a confused, you can tell that.to make the thing more worse, i feel like a dom to guys or to those women who are senior to me, be it in age or stature.a jealousy angle or the fact that my first 'mistress' was a maid, god knows what can be cited to explain that.
contrary to my earlier belief, i now believe that i am not a submissive.but i certainly posses masochist fantasies.well, there is a thin line between.my masochist fantasies are strictly to please myself.when my previous online mistresses tried to go overboard or forgot the fact that they are just enacting their roles, particularly when i was not in mood, i didn't think twice to kick them out.again my fetishes don't emphasize on physical pain but on humiliation of ( look like accident) exposures, these appear as adventurous kink to me out of mundane vanilla.a mistress is just the captain to guide my desires, not to control the ship altogether.( more of an accomplice than one who dictates)
oh another thing, in the personal forum i have noticed many ads ( those which are given by so called doms) which give the impression that a sub is a sub in all spheres of life.i don't think the notion is right.these are just fetishes.like me, many would love to do stark opposite things to their roles in their professional life.
my theory suits most of the cases, though it's partially unsuccessful to explain my first incident i.e with my female maid where i was blackmailed, the incident which seeded the fetish in me.i discovered that humiliation ( kinky adventures to be more precise) do turn me on .but again i submitted to her as i was compelled to, not out of my will. i can't tag that as a dom sub relation, as there was nothing sexual or physical (apart from a few spanks or twist to my nips) in that, only some humiliating games.she never undressed herself or made me serve her.she was straight.it was kinda revenge/ psychological pleasure for her.after a few months, when the initial enemity & tension between us came down, i myself started to ask her for those sessions, as i found it immensely pleasureable, the game part..even she abandoned the vengeful image.she was more of an accomplice to me.but when she tried to cross the limits ( imposing the relation beyond the sessions), i did beat the hell out of her to make her realize her place.now i believe that i could have prevented her initial blackmailing too, so that i could control the initial few episodes.i mean, i would have taken part in those games but i wouldn't allow her to dictate.
yes, i know i am self contradictory.hell of a confused, you can tell that.to make the thing more worse, i feel like a dom to guys or to those women who are senior to me, be it in age or stature.a jealousy angle or the fact that my first 'mistress' was a maid, god knows what can be cited to explain that.