"You're really tall"

[Duvet_Thief]

This probably sounds like a dumb question, because I'm a fairly confident guy and have quite a good social life at the moment.

I'm extremely tall. Really tall. 6'10" or so. I carry my height pretty well because it's important to me not to slouch, plus I work in theatre and so I am maybe more aware of how to use my body than other people. My height is not a problem for me.

Every day, I have strangers talk to me about my height, but I've recently begun to realize that my automatic responses are rather negative (sometimes funny, but usually negative towards the questioner): I try to shut down these conversations (although I'm a talkative guy) because I got into the habit of doing so - I think I'm still sort of conditioned from my teenage years, when like most teens I disliked standing out too much...

But clearly my height is an easy conversation opener for some people. And I don't want to automatically shut down conversations with people just because they've chosen something obvious to talk to me about.

So, how do I best answer the "do you play basketball?" "what's the air like up there?" or even just the "you're really tall" conversation opener? I obviously have some ideas, too, but I'd be interested what people might suggest!

thanks!

DT

 

[cloudy]

This probably sounds like a dumb question, because I'm a fairly confident guy and have quite a good social life at the moment.

I'm extremely tall. Really tall. 6'10" or so. I carry my height pretty well because it's important to me not to slouch, plus I work in theatre and so I am maybe more aware of how to use my body than other people. My height is not a problem for me.

Every day, I have strangers talk to me about my height, but I've recently begun to realize that my automatic responses are rather negative (sometimes funny, but usually negative towards the questioner): I try to shut down these conversations (although I'm a talkative guy) because I got into the habit of doing so - I think I'm still sort of conditioned from my teenage years, when like most teens I disliked standing out too much...

But clearly my height is an easy conversation opener for some people. And I don't want to automatically shut down conversations with people just because they've chosen something obvious to talk to me about.

So, how do I best answer the "do you play basketball?" "what's the air like up there?" or even just the "you're really tall" conversation opener? I obviously have some ideas, too, but I'd be interested what people might suggest!

thanks!

DT

Just smile, and move on.

I get comments all the time about the "costumes" at powwows (they're regalia, not "costumes"), and someone always has to tell me about their great-great-great-great-umpty-umpth grandmother who was a Cherokee princess (Natives had no such thing as royalty...not even close).

You're gonna get comments because your height is unusual. Enjoy the attention it gets you.

 

[sunandshadow]

If someone asks you a silly profession question like if you play basketball, you could answer with a silly response like no I'm a toupee artist.

Or you could say something like, yeah I got all the tall genes, my sister got all the short ones, she's only (fill in the blank).

Or maybe "No actually, I'm short, I'm just wearing stilts"

 

[tammytoodles]

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[CheekyBoots]

Gawking stranger: "Wow, do you play basketball?!"

You: "Yeah! Do you play mini golf?"

Buuuurrrrn....

 

[Colton_White]

But clearly my height is an easy conversation opener for some people. And I don't want to automatically shut down conversations with people just because they've chosen something obvious to talk to me about.

So, how do I best answer the "do you play basketball?" "what's the air like up there?" or even just the "you're really tall" conversation opener? I obviously have some ideas, too, but I'd be interested what people might suggest!

thanks!

DT

no disrespect intended but has any1 asked you how long is your cock [as per your height]? lol

 

[fire_breeze]

Your query reminded me of something I overheard the other day. A girl commented to a guy that he was "like, really really tall". Without missing a beat, he replied, "I noticed."

Or, you can say that this way, you don't have to climb onto the catwalks to focus the lights.

Or tell them that you can't hear from that height. Just have fun with them.

 

[silverwhisper]

duvet thief: OK, damn but that's tall!

i'm asian, and unusually tall by those standards (i'm 5' 11"). i mean, by most standards i'm unusually tall--but man, that's nothing compared to you!

i like your idea of cultivating ideas for a pool of ready-responses--more power to you for recognizing this and wanting to address it!

i have a few ideas, all of which are geared towards being disarming--which based upon your post i suspect is the approach you're looking for.

possible responses:

1. "well, sure, i'm tall, but you know, those nosebleeds are a real bitch!"
2. "the nice thing is that you can't tell just how thing my hair is up top!"
3. "you know, the thing i really miss is not being able to go on all the rides at amusement parks!"

just a few ideas. :>

ed

 

[Chicklet]

Gawking stranger: "Wow, do you play basketball?!"

You: "Yeah! Do you play mini golf?"

Buuuurrrrn....

ROFLMAO!

As a redhead, I think I've heard every redhead comment, joke, come-on, and stereo type. And every single time, the person spitting it out thinks they're the very first one to ever say it. omfg.

My name is also Chelsea. as a Chelsea in the USA, the Clinton presidency was awwwwful. I went to Europe and got Chelsea Clinton jokes.

So, I can totally understand. I think the responses in this thread are great. Good luck ^^

 

[VelvetDarkness]

I have recently made the acquaintance of a guy who's 6ft 7in and as I'm only 5ft myself I felt like a dot beside him. I can understand why you want to be equipped with quips as people do stare. Once you get out of the kids playground, most people are just curious.

'Do you play basketball?'
'No. I'm a porn star.'

'What's the air like up there?'
'Thin. I think I need to lie down. Care to join me?'

'you're really tall'
'Oh, no! what the fuck am I gonna do? The box said my penis would get longer!'

 

[Duvet_Thief]

Hey, what a great response, thanks guys!

Some of those lines are stuff I do say to people...
Now I think about it, part of the problem is that people don't understand that talking about my height is so BORING for me! So after a "play basketball?" line and a snappy "minigolf" reply people usually look a bit stumped... and surprised that it hasn't led into a conversation...

But I love some of those responses! thanks! I love the nosebleed one!

I think the weird thing with these height things is that people see it as a really positive thing which is why they have no reservations coming up to a complete stranger and saying this stuff!


@Colton, I AM occasionally asked if I am "in proportion" I usually joke that if I really was in proportion I would be 8'10"

 

[SweetErika]

I think the weird thing with these height things is that people see it as a really positive thing which is why they have no reservations coming up to a complete stranger and saying this stuff!

Very true. My dad's a mere 6'5", but he's always gotten LOTS of comments. When I was in school and my classmates saw him, many of them looked up at him in awe and said something to him, or remarked to me how cool his height was.

I've had a couple of lovers who were 6'7"-6"9' (one cock was little, the other 8-9"), and they received tons of positive comments as well, from all sorts of people.

The comments can certainly sound negative and be annoying, though. It strikes me that it can kind of be like asking what's wrong with someone who's injured, commenting on a disability, body shape or asking a nosy question about something someone can't help. Often it's meant in good spirits or as a conversation starter, but it can also just be pointing out/emphasizing a difference and make the person feel like (more of) a total freak.

I'm in the "tall is awesome" camp, BTW. Taller guys always catch my eye, but I don't comment on it (even though that's my first instinct for some reason ) because I figure you guys get way too much of that from others and I don't want to risk making you uncomfortable.

 

[JackintheOCCA]

I feel you pain

Man i totally feel you pain, not 6'10 but 6'4' and I always get those stupid comments like do you play basketball or wow your really tall.

Its like no shit, thank you for making that stunning observation that i had yet to realize.

PS: mini golf comment was my favorite to.

 

[Noira]

Okay, I met a guy who was seven feet tall once, and I had to comment on that one... it was basically 'Sorry.... but... DAMN, how tall are you', got an answer... 'seven feet' 'That's WAY cool!'

I'm 5'2. I'd love to date someone absurdly tall. I think height differences are hysterical. I try not to rub it in, even though I get a ton of 'omg you're so short' type comments from my tall friends... grr. Not that I'm THAT short, they just torment me because they're nearly six feet tall and I'm short... XP Oh well.

Tall people kinda scare me too, though. It's like they don't take me seriously for being short, some of them. Or ignore me. I don't care how tall they are, my best female friend is 5'11... (shrugs) And I had another close female friend who was 6'0... but most tall guys tend to ignore me. Most short guys do too, I don't know, maybe there's something about me that screams 'LESBIAN' even though I'm entirely straight?

I make snarky nosebleed comments at my tall friends, but never any random strange people. I USUALLY just kind of hide because they could kill me or something if I went 'OMG YOU'RE SO TALL'. I was exceedingly hyper the day I did.

(complains) I want to hug someone who's 6'10. Tall guys are awesome if only they'd just listen to me when I try be taken seriously.

 

[where]

uh huh... another fan of the tall man here. No idea why .... nothing to do with the cock size myth and it's not cos I have a daddy daughter thing either. I think it's just the sheer physical presence.

Maybe you get the sarkey comments because you are so imposing and it's a defense mechanism?

 

[kimbernee]

People aren't very original. They're trying to start a conversation so treat it like a conversational opener. Say "hey, how are you?" Or laugh and say "nice to meet you" and stick out your hand. You don't really need to answer the actual question.

 

[Jniu4]

I'm 6-5. What's eating me more lately than tall comments is the disappearance of off the rack 36" and up pant lengths.

The casual stuff is getting harder to find online too.

 

[mailmansbaby]

My boyfriend is 6'6" and I love to just flawnt it when people ask.. I mean I am like yeah, he's 6'6"-6'7", size 16 shoes, and just as big where it counts I am only 5'8" so there is a pretty big gap between us but I wouldn't want it any other way.

He gets a lot of questions like that too and he mostly is just kinda pissed/kinda annoyed at the reactions he gets. He just bluntly answers to the googling eyes of an "average" person's comment of "WOW, you're really tall!!!", by a simple "Uh, yeah."

I love it!

 

[Nau8tynnice]

This probably sounds like a dumb question, because I'm a fairly confident guy and have quite a good social life at the moment.

I'm extremely tall. Really tall. 6'10" or so. I carry my height pretty well because it's important to me not to slouch, plus I work in theatre and so I am maybe more aware of how to use my body than other people. My height is not a problem for me.

Every day, I have strangers talk to me about my height, but I've recently begun to realize that my automatic responses are rather negative (sometimes funny, but usually negative towards the questioner): I try to shut down these conversations (although I'm a talkative guy) because I got into the habit of doing so - I think I'm still sort of conditioned from my teenage years, when like most teens I disliked standing out too much...

But clearly my height is an easy conversation opener for some people. And I don't want to automatically shut down conversations with people just because they've chosen something obvious to talk to me about.

So, how do I best answer the "do you play basketball?" "what's the air like up there?" or even just the "you're really tall" conversation opener? I obviously have some ideas, too, but I'd be interested what people might suggest!

thanks!

DT

Hi DT heart: the user name)

I clicked in to your post thinking 'yeah right... sure you're tall'
But you are genuine, so I am responding. I know that sounds kind of strange but I am just over 6 foot 2 and female - not a giantess... but tall. And I get so sick of people whining that things are not made in proportion for them, or how they feel hassled by others and different... and they are often no where near 6 foot.

I have had similar questions all of my life (I was 6 foot at the age of 12/13). When I was younger (pre teens) they made me feel very awkward and I would become a little defensive. Now... I realise people generally ask because they are curious - I find very few people in the adult world to be rude or cruel about it. And yeah, they are starting a conversation with the obvious... but isn't that what you do when you first converse with a person? If they are genuinely interested in conversing with you, they’re basically using it as an ice breaker.

I take peoples questions quite literally now... and answer a little bluntly but with humour. It’s a method of weeding out the bad eggs from the good ones. I try and spin it back on them to see what their intentions are… are they stating the obvious just to be heard, making a statement… or are they actually interested in conversing with me.

"Do you play netball?” or “Are you a silver fern?" (Netball is more popular than basketball for women over here).
"No. But I played basketball in school for years."
"I bet you were fantastic."
"No, I was so clumsy as hell so they shoved me in defence, giving me less space to move around in."

"Hey, you're really tall!!!"
“Well I can't help it" or "Hey, you’re really short." (If they seem rude)

And the one I dread the most...
"Oh, I’d love to be your height." confused
"So you'd like your ankles to flop over the edge of your bed?" or "Well, you'd only have 3 shoe shops in the country you can buy footwear from.”

I know those answers may sound a little sarcastic... but as said… I try to say them in good humour. It often makes people aware that I run into comments like that all the time... now if they are interested in actually having a conversation with me (about my height or whatever) they’ll continue fostering the dialog. If not, I haven’t wasted my time or theirs.

 

[Always_loopy]

My boyfriend is really tall too, maybe not as tall as you, he's 6"7 but he still gets all the same comments. Depending on who your talking to, but its always good to follow it up with a "yeah and I take size "x" shoes..." and just leave it, most women will just be left wondering by that point. And it shuts them up

 

[funwdi]

Tall people are beautiful

I think that you could just ignore the actual question, and move on to another subject. By responding at all (either positively or negatively) you are just enabling more jokes or dumb questions. If they persist, walk confidently away.

 

[Duvet_Thief]

6'2" Nau8tynnice! Awesome. PLEASE say you wear heels...
I always used to date short women but recently I hung out with a tall woman, who loves wearing high heels, and I LOVED it...

All good advice, there, thanks btw

It's strange: being this tall (or really short, I presume) is something one is just used to, and doesn't give a second thought to. But occasionally I am reminded of what an impact it has - it can be very intimidating to some people, I think.
Most of the time I quite like the attention, but sometimes you just to be anonymous, and that is never an option.
Oh well...

 

[WriterDom]

I'm a guy who is 5' 6". Want to trade?

Actually its not so bad. I think short people live longer. Never seen a tall old person. Wilt the Stilt barely made it over 60.

 

[Nau8tynnice]

Slap!

I'm a guy who is 5' 6". Want to trade?

Actually its not so bad. I think short people live longer. Never seen a tall old person. Wilt the Stilt barely made it over 60.

How rude! 6 foot 10 is hardly going to decrease DT's life span. Boy ‘wd’ needs to be broken I think... mmmm, and 5"6... the perfect height to be my submissive little bitch.
:caning:

(Hope you can take a dig Dear writerdom)

 

[Quesla]

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