Your Mom And Dad

[Samuelx]

I am usually a confident guy who does a lot of things that other people simply can't or won't do. I am not tooting my own horn, just being honest. Being a Speaker for the Rights of Battered Men and a volunteer representative for the Domestic Abuse Helpline For Men And Women in Massachusetts isn't easy. Yet I do it. Tackling tough Criminal Justice courses while waiting for my immigration case to clear up isn't easy either, yet I do it. Writing two full-length fiction anthologies, while attending college, isn't easy either. Yet I do it. But maybe I inherited those gifts from a great source.


My father built his own business from the ground up in Haiti. He was an Engineer before going into the airplane business and becoming the regional director of Air Haiti, my native island's sole air travel agency. He is a smart man and he is very ambitious and driven. Though we have our differences, I deeply love and respect him. He has always been a brilliant engineer, mechanic and technical guy. He is also a good father, if you ask me. I have never seen him back down before anyone. Wherever he goes, he speaks loud and clear, and smartly too. He makes his presence known. Always.

My mother is another story. She's a usually meek woman who is a lot smarter than she lets on. She was a teacher and these days, she runs her own business. I remember a time back in 1994, shortly after Aristide returned as President of Haiti, backed by the U.S. Government. There were celebrations throughout the country and some men had blocked the road to our house. My father was driving home from work. He got out of his car and tried to talk them out of the road. The drunk men wouldn't listen. In fact, they wanted to hurt him. Someone went and got my mother and she went down there to "rescue" my dad. And rescue him she did. She brought him home safe and sound. Understand that in Haiti, there aren't overzealous chivalrous cops around to defend the innocent. You're pretty much on your own. What she did was very brave. And she is a farm girl used to tame semi-wild horses when she was younger. Impressive, huh ?
Maybe I can't take all the credit for my "powers". I do come from Impressive Stock.


What are your parents like ?

 

[Wolfman1982]

My father is a man, who I admire with all my heart, even though he is fucking irritating at times, but he has taught (sp?) me so many things, like the humanistic ways of thinking, and lots of other stuff(I could go on and on about him). And my mother ? hmmm I don´t want to talk about her.

 

[PredatorSmile]

My dad is awesome. A decorated soldier and a great father. He's the kind of guy Clint Eastwood and John Wayne characters are based upon, lol. My mother....I never met her. From what I was told, and from pics I've seen of her, she was very active and involved in the community. A cookie-baking, sweater-knitting, community-activist, conservative traditional type. She was also a real lady and a classy dresser.

We couldn't be more different. I can count on one hand the number of times I've worn a dress. I'm almost always messy. I wear ovearalls around campus and fix cars when I'm not co-managing a small store. I don't know how to cook. My community consists of my guy friends, my brothers and my dad. I dont really get involved in issues, though I am a member of the GLBT Alliance at school and recently became its vice president. The president is a gay male I am pals with. I've never had a close female friend. Sometimes, I wonder if I'd still be the same person if my mum hadn't died in childbirth. Guess I will never know.

 

[Wolfman1982]

PredatorSmile: I think your mother is proud of you (where she may be, if you believe in heaven and so forth) .

But why I am not talking about my mother is because she sees me as a "sick little boy", and have done that since I was 11 , among other stuff. Well it is a part of my karma, so no I am not talking about her. So that is a point in me, I am very biased about. But if a person tries to be harmful against my mother, then I don´t care, since that is again a point in me, where I don´t care about if I don´t like them or not, but no one hurts my family.

 

[Recidiva]

My father is the most genuinely kind person I've ever met. Inclusive, funny, self-effacing, and so intelligent you'd never know it. Was a tactics instructor in the army. Worked for IBM...before IBM was IBM, pretty much.

My mother shares a lot of my physical disabilities (migraines and mood swings) without acknowledging she had them. She drank to mask her symptoms and encouraged denial in her family because "what would the neighbors think." She kept a gorgeous home and had "perfect" children who of course did not turn out so perfect and became a constant source of disappointment to her, but she was a good little martyr and blamed it all on other people.

Am I the only kid that wished their parents would get divorced so they'd have a shot at a better life?

 

[Ms_Lilith]

My Dad gets a pretty poor rap from me sometimes. He and I have some serious friction due to his engagement, etc. But, I love him, and so I'll talk about him here.

My dad is from Holland.. grew up there, was educated there, and then came over here in his 20's. He's a good man, a strong man, and a very loyal man. He is a teacher at an elementary school, and while he's excellent at it, and has been doing it for 30 years, I don't think that's his calling. I think that's his 'day job'. His calling is art. My dad isn't an overly intelligent person.. I don't mean to sound mean... he's smart, but with two children who are geniuses, and an ex-wife who was pretty close to that, he paled intellectually, in our house. His true calling, is art. When he was younger, he was a chef. He made amazing food, but the presentation was to die for. Absolutely gorgeous. He's been into everything: macrame, painting, pastels, sketch, pen and ink, design, everything. My dad's pen and ink work... I have three pieces hanging in my house, and they're good enough that he should turn pro (which I think he will do when he retires). The man has vision... he sees the world differently, because of his innate sense of style, of beauty. I've never seen him try his hand at anything artistic, and not have it turn out beautifully.

My mother... she is my role model. She took herself from having no education, to being the head of purchasing in a district, with no education... educating herself while she was in her 40's, and then becoming one of the directors of purchasing for a massive.. MASSIVE organization. She lived through many years of unhappiness without becoming hard, and has kept herself strong with hope. She has grown up in the last few years... something that her marriage retarded. She is brilliantly intelligent, and has an eye for art, though she doesn't seem to recognize it. She has a beautiful sense of style, and grace. She is beautiful. She went from being incredibly overweight, to being just the right weight, when she realized why she was overweight. She's gorgeous. She is kind, and sweet, and generous, and she will do anything to protect her kids from harm. She knows she can't always be there, but she tries.

My parents are a product of their parents... very much so. I still have all my grandparents (except my mom's dad who died when she was 2, but my gramma remarried, and I've known her husband as grandpa all my life). I can see where they come from.. I can see that certain qualities have passed down to me.

I'm a genius. I have an IQ of 156. My brother has a lower one, but he works harder than I do in school, so he does better. My brother and I both have photographic memories, which comes from my dad's side of the family. All of my cousins on my dad's side, are geniuses, and are all artistic, in one form or the other. I am stubborn, because I'm dutch, and I'm loud, because I'm my father's daughter... but I have much of my mom in me. She and I are both philosophers. We think about things. We're softer, gentler than my dad and brother. We're kind, and sweet. We're FAR more open-minded than the men in my family. But I am much like both of my parents. I haven't done anything great in my life. I don't know that I ever WILL do anything great in my life. I wouldn't mind just living an ordinary life... I want to affect change.. but I want to do it on a small scale... person by person, not group by group... I haven't done great things in my life... but I have survived where perhaps someone else wouldn't have. And I owe that to my parents.

 

[Wolfman1982]

Don´t worry Ms_Lilith, or any one else, I am not attacking you.

Ms_Lilith: this isn´t really something I normally do, but give me a fucking break about IQ, since intelligense has nothing to do with a mathematical IQ, and second of all, there are at least 8 forms of intelligense. And mensa is only testing the mathematical form of intelligense.

But not to attack you, why I love my father hardcore, is I have from him his philosophical ways of thinking, humanistic thoughts. And alot of other stuff. But I am just modest, and does not want to give all of me out in one big message, since that is not me. But mathematical IQ is nothing, if you can´t behave as a human being, but I do believe you can behave so it isn´t an attck.

my father is an artist too, and I think it is great that he likes to paint

I got at least two of his paintings in my apartment

I really like his whale paintings of the humbag whale , that I know he has a sweet spot for, and I like that whale too

Why I am not talking about my mother, or for that matter my sister is this, I have Asbergers Syndrome, and has been through alot of fucky things in my life. And my mother has seen it as great way of getting affection, and attention from others, whe she used me in her socalled courses, she went to

Mother fucking bitch, that is what my mother is, and my sister sees Asbergers Syndrome as a "family curse".

I am a genuine Asberger, and not a popular Asberger, like many gets that diagnose now adays. But I have been through alot because of it, so I am sorry, I flamed up abit.

 

[Ms_Lilith]

I'm not knocking my dad, when I say he's not overly intelligent. He isn't. He doesn't think about things, he doesn't work through problems on his own.. he's always relied on someone else to do it for him. He doesn't think about, or understand, the long-term repercussions of an action, choice, historic event. He just doesn't get it.

I'm not being mean, I'm being honest.

And I'm not trying to elevate my brother and I with our IQ.. I was just saying. My dad's is below average, mine is above average... I've not done anything with it, I'm no great thinker, no famous philosopher... I'm just here.

 

[Wolfman1982]

I'm not knocking my dad, when I say he's not overly intelligent. He isn't. He doesn't think about things, he doesn't work through problems on his own.. he's always relied on someone else to do it for him. He doesn't think about, or understand, the long-term repercussions of an action, choice, historic event. He just doesn't get it.

I'm not being mean, I'm being honest.

And I'm not trying to elevate my brother and I with our IQ.. I was just saying. My dad's is below average, mine is above average... I've not done anything with it, I'm no great thinker, no famous philosopher... I'm just here.

Ok, no worries I am sometimes just quite a sensitive bitch

 

[CuriousNiceGuy]

Hmm..Though I am grateful for my parents and what they have given to me I can't say I see them as role models..We are so different it gets annoying...
They expect too much from me, just because I'm their child they overestimate my qualities. I'm not a genius, I'm not gonna finish the maths school any time soon. Heck, I may not even get married with a girl for all I know. My father is VERY kind. When he gets annoyed though he can make a whole stadium go silent with his glare.He is the opposite of social.Doesn't let his feelings out too much(something I probably inherited from him).Not that he doesn't like talking but most of the time I can't talk with him for more than 5 minutes. It's more my fault cause I have always spoke about my worries to my best friends and not my parents and I think it's somewhat weird to talk about stuff with my parents.
My mother is sweet.And kind too.She is cautious though with everything involving her children(i have a bro).This is ok of course, but only to a certain point..She can get to the point of hysterical when it comes to my doing something wrong and this is something I trully despise cause I am very sensitive..

I'd say I rely more on my friends than my parents. But I want some day to make them proud..