Your Hot Wife Conversation

[bearzfan1985]

I think a lot of married women would be surprised to learn on how many husband's have a "hot wife fantasy" about their wife. When I shared with my wife that I had this fantasy she was wondering if I was sharing this as a way to say that I would enjoy another woman. To be candid I am not against sharing with another couple, but if I had to prioritize it I would have to admit that I would enjoy seeing my wife experiencing another lover first.

No, I am not looking at being submissive to another man, but I enjoy seeing my wife experience new things and experiences that make her feel good about herself. She made a comment a few years ago stating that she wished she had sewed some wild oats before meeting me. I figure why not do it now? When she is feeling good about herself she is a much more enthusiastic lover. So, my intentions are not entirely for her benefit.

I do not think this is anything I can push her into, but something she needs to decide to do. So, my questions are as follows:

Ladies: What is something your husband did that still made you feel like he loved and desired you, but it helped you feel comfortable to someday act on having sex with other people?

Guys: What in your view did you do to help your lady feel more comfortable with having sex with others? I got to think you did more than to tell her she had a "hall pass", right?

As much as I would want to witness at least part of it happening I think my being there that first time would hold my wife back. That is the last thing I want her to do as it may be her only time she tries it. My main concern is her safety, but I trust her judgment. I simply want her to enjoy sex with someone besides me.

I look forward to learning from you.

 

[Shaglus_Ziegler]

Understandable. Could be very sexy.

 

[Jay142]

My wife, like a lot of women, had body image issues even though I kept telling her how sexy she was. I gradually got her to exhibit more and more of her body. It turned her on to see other men checking her out. My best friend was your typical "bad boy" who was always flirting with her and would fondle her at times. That's how he always was, and I knew that's as far as it would go. He saw I wasn't upset, and my wife would let him feel her a little and playfully fight him off. I talked her into giving us private lingerie modeling shows. It was a safe way to exhibit herself, and it turned us all on. My wife and I had great sex for weeks after one of her shows. It was then that I started planting the idea of fucking him while I watched. She thought it was a way for me to then ask to fuck other women. It took a lot of convincing that it wasn't my motivation. It all came to a head when my friend said these shows were torture for him. I agreed that it wasn't fair to keep on teasing him like that. My wife finally agreed to fuck him. The first time it happened, we were all nervous but once he fucked her, the dam had been broken. He fucked her 4-5 times per year for over ten years. It ended when he met his wife, and my wife didn't want to be the "other woman."

 

[bearzfan1985]

Thanks for sharing this. I do think the initial response from most wives is that the husband is looking for approval to seek things with other women. For most husbands this is not the case at all.

I liked on how your friend helped your wife learn that sexy is not a one size fits all situation. I find women of all shapes and sizes to be sexy. I liked that your wife felt better about herself from his attention.

I have often wondered if a single friend would be helpful for my wife, if she had some attraction to him. I think not loving the other man would help a wife to give it a try. Glad it worked out for all three of you.

 

[UtilityCurve]

My wife RAISED the subject with me.

Mind, I already knew that girlfriend/wife-sharing erotica turned her on, but one night she just flat-out (and with no introduction) asked, "Is it cheating if you know?"

 

[Intimate11]

I think a lot of married women would be surprised to learn on how many husband's have a "hot wife fantasy" about their wife. When I shared with my wife that I had this fantasy she was wondering if I was sharing this as a way to say that I would enjoy another woman. To be candid I am not against sharing with another couple, but if I had to prioritize it I would have to admit that I would enjoy seeing my wife experiencing another lover first.

No, I am not looking at being submissive to another man, but I enjoy seeing my wife experience new things and experiences that make her feel good about herself. She made a comment a few years ago stating that she wished she had sewed some wild oats before meeting me. I figure why not do it now? When she is feeling good about herself she is a much more enthusiastic lover. So, my intentions are not entirely for her benefit.

I do not think this is anything I can push her into, but something she needs to decide to do. So, my questions are as follows:

Ladies: What is something your husband did that still made you feel like he loved and desired you, but it helped you feel comfortable to someday act on having sex with other people?

Guys: What in your view did you do to help your lady feel more comfortable with having sex with others? I got to think you did more than to tell her she had a "hall pass", right?

As much as I would want to witness at least part of it happening I think my being there that first time would hold my wife back. That is the last thing I want her to do as it may be her only time she tries it. My main concern is her safety, but I trust her judgment. I simply want her to enjoy sex with someone besides me.

I look forward to learning from you.

I true start of an incredible years long affair…
My wife was silent except for the soft moans or deep sighs that escaped her lips. She was as still as she could be. She felt herself slowly pushing herself back toward Barb, but kept her hands against the wall. She wanted more as she finally leaned her full weight into Barb, pushing her butt against Barb’s mound…rotating. Bubbles from her slid onto Barb’s own skin. And both were super sexually aroused as they purred, encouraged by the exotic feeling of wet skin on skin.

 

[gtnlynn]

My wife and I stared dating in high school, but we went to separate colleges and she was free to date others for the first three years at the university. She had a lot of sex with other guys, but it was just for fun. They knew about me, and she dumped them if they got serious. A few years after we married, she told me all about that college sex, and I knew she could have recreational sex with no impact on our relationship. I asked her if she missed the variety. She didn't answer, which I took as "yes." I told her to feel free to have sex with others. We agreed on ground rules: one "date" with each man; condoms required; no friends; and complete honesty. She agreed and had a few sexual events before deciding at age 40 to never do it again. It worked for us.

 

[Wonderer67]

My wife and I have had this discussion, but she is just not there. I can tell her anything and we’ve had a couple of very candid conversations about it.

She’s quite monogamous, and wants to continue that way. I do not have a hall pass to explore with other people. Nor am I looking for one.

It just didn’t work for us. However, perhaps it expanded her thinking a little bit. She now tells me when she finds other men very attractive. That turns me on, thinking about it.

She loves bald men, and my good friend (who is also bald) is coming over in a few weeks. Maybe something will happen? If not, it will make some good fantasy material.

I would love to have her experience having another lover or lovers, but I don’t think it’s in the cards.

We have expanded our sexual horizons other ways, tho!

 

[HotwifeBrooksideKC]

I think a lot of married women would be surprised to learn on how many husband's have a "hot wife fantasy" about their wife. When I shared with my wife that I had this fantasy she was wondering if I was sharing this as a way to say that I would enjoy another woman. To be candid I am not against sharing with another couple, but if I had to prioritize it I would have to admit that I would enjoy seeing my wife experiencing another lover first.

No, I am not looking at being submissive to another man, but I enjoy seeing my wife experience new things and experiences that make her feel good about herself. She made a comment a few years ago stating that she wished she had sewed some wild oats before meeting me. I figure why not do it now? When she is feeling good about herself she is a much more enthusiastic lover. So, my intentions are not entirely for her benefit.

I do not think this is anything I can push her into, but something she needs to decide to do. So, my questions are as follows:

Ladies: What is something your husband did that still made you feel like he loved and desired you, but it helped you feel comfortable to someday act on having sex with other people?

Guys: What in your view did you do to help your lady feel more comfortable with having sex with others? I got to think you did more than to tell her she had a "hall pass", right?

As much as I would want to witness at least part of it happening I think my being there that first time would hold my wife back. That is the last thing I want her to do as it may be her only time she tries it. My main concern is her safety, but I trust her judgment. I simply want her to enjoy sex with someone besides me.

I look forward to learning from you.

ROLE PLAY

 

[lc69hunter]

From a different point of view. Back in the day, for about seven years, between marriages, I was involved in the lifestyle. What I saw, and what they told me.

I never saw a cage/chastity. What humiliation I saw was little more than gentle teasing by the wife, even when she had him clean my cock (she just thought it was hot). Most cases you could see and feel the love between husband and wife.

Now, to address the question. Surprisingly, or maybe not, many couples fell into this by accident, a husband, his buddy, and the wife partying, getting drunk, and turning it into a threesome. In the conversation afterward, the husband admits how turned on he was watching her and his buddy fucking. That is how easy it can be.

 

[NapierBone]

Honestly, we just sort of rehearsed it with dirty talk over and over … until it happened.

 

[bearzfan1985]

Great replies, thank you. I so often wonder what is said or done by the other man that makes it easier for the wife to go to his bedroom? Is it something about him physically or something he said or both?

I just find the idea of telling your wife she has a hall pass as a non-motivator. There has to be some connectivity with the other man. Hopefully, she does not have deep feelings for him, as I do not want to add that to the mix. I know in the past my wife has allowed boyfriends "more access" to her body when she did not feel emotional attachment. In her view she said it was easier to enjoy the physical part of the relationship without loving them. If that makes sense.

What did the other man do to help in those first steps?

 

[HotWelshWife32]

I think a lot of married women would be surprised to learn on how many husband's have a "hot wife fantasy" about their wife. When I shared with my wife that I had this fantasy she was wondering if I was sharing this as a way to say that I would enjoy another woman. To be candid I am not against sharing with another couple, but if I had to prioritize it I would have to admit that I would enjoy seeing my wife experiencing another lover first.

No, I am not looking at being submissive to another man, but I enjoy seeing my wife experience new things and experiences that make her feel good about herself. She made a comment a few years ago stating that she wished she had sewed some wild oats before meeting me. I figure why not do it now? When she is feeling good about herself she is a much more enthusiastic lover. So, my intentions are not entirely for her benefit.

I do not think this is anything I can push her into, but something she needs to decide to do. So, my questions are as follows:

Ladies: What is something your husband did that still made you feel like he loved and desired you, but it helped you feel comfortable to someday act on having sex with other people?

Guys: What in your view did you do to help your lady feel more comfortable with having sex with others? I got to think you did more than to tell her she had a "hall pass", right?

As much as I would want to witness at least part of it happening I think my being there that first time would hold my wife back. That is the last thing I want her to do as it may be her only time she tries it. My main concern is her safety, but I trust her judgment. I simply want her to enjoy sex with someone besides me.

I look forward to learning from you.

O yes. I’m confident 45 straight male. Wife 34 blonde sub.

 

[TryingTooHard]

I think a lot of married women would be surprised to learn on how many husband's have a "hot wife fantasy" about their wife. When I shared with my wife that I had this fantasy she was wondering if I was sharing this as a way to say that I would enjoy another woman. To be candid I am not against sharing with another couple, but if I had to prioritize it I would have to admit that I would enjoy seeing my wife experiencing another lover first.

No, I am not looking at being submissive to another man, but I enjoy seeing my wife experience new things and experiences that make her feel good about herself. She made a comment a few years ago stating that she wished she had sewed some wild oats before meeting me. I figure why not do it now? When she is feeling good about herself she is a much more enthusiastic lover. So, my intentions are not entirely for her benefit.

I do not think this is anything I can push her into, but something she needs to decide to do. So, my questions are as follows:

Ladies: What is something your husband did that still made you feel like he loved and desired you, but it helped you feel comfortable to someday act on having sex with other people?

Guys: What in your view did you do to help your lady feel more comfortable with having sex with others? I got to think you did more than to tell her she had a "hall pass", right?

As much as I would want to witness at least part of it happening I think my being there that first time would hold my wife back. That is the last thing I want her to do as it may be her only time she tries it. My main concern is her safety, but I trust her judgment. I simply want her to enjoy sex with someone besides me.

I look forward to learning from you.

Interesting comment and , as you state, a view widely held.

In my own case, Janie, my second wife, is a slim, brunette and I know very attractive.

I am now 53. She just turned 41. I met her at a law firm I was using for business where she was working. I had already separated from my first wife. Janie seemed shy and reserved initially but I discovered that she had a wild and uninhibited side. She attracts men. I see it every time we are out and when we are with friends as well as colleagues of mine. She exudes sensuality and appears to be unaware of it, which makes it even more erotic. She likes confident but not arrogant men. She loves a sense of humour.

I initially tried to interest Jane into maybe having another man join us by telling her about my sexual fantasies, which I had had for years, and by asking her to tell me about her previous lovers. I was particularly turned-on when she told me about Steve. They were together for only a year but she said that he had the biggest and thickest cock she’s ever seen and that the sex was the greatest! I began to tell her stories in bed; fantasy stories, usually consisting of the two of us and another man ( Steve ?) or more than one other man .

At first, she questioned my love because all I seemed to be interested in was sharing her with other men or being interested in her past sex life. I re-emphasized my deep love for her and simply said that these were "harmless fantasies" that just added to usually great sex we had. Over and over again, I would repeat that I loved her deeply and would never consider leaving her or finding another woman.

Within a few months, I had also managed to persuade her to dress more revealingly and provocatively in both private and public. I’d get her to wear thin, see-through dresses with only a tiny pair of panties on under or wrap-around dresses with sheer thigh-high stockings and matching sheer panties. She became more confident and I would tell her how aroused I would get, watching other men looking at my wife, knowing exactly what they were thinking and wishing. Jane began to get excited by the whole thing and we would often rush back home to fuck or, if we couldn't wait, get into the car and kiss and fumble and mutually masturbate. However, during this period, I didn't tell her about my dark and secret fantasy & desires as another man or men took her. I still find it hard to fully explain my mixed and intense emotions.

Anyway, that's how things got started with us.

 

[muycurioso]

From a different point of view. Back in the day, for about seven years, between marriages, I was involved in the lifestyle. What I saw, and what they told me.

I never saw a cage/chastity. What humiliation I saw was little more than gentle teasing by the wife, even when she had him clean my cock (she just thought it was hot). Most cases you could see and feel the love between husband and wife.

Now, to address the question. Surprisingly, or maybe not, many couples fell into this by accident, a husband, his buddy, and the wife partying, getting drunk, and turning it into a threesome. In the conversation afterward, the husband admits how turned on he was watching her and his buddy fucking. That is how easy it can be.

I do not like humiliation. giving or getting. everyone can have fun! gentle teasing would be ok. but then again some find humiliation fun. It is a free country.

 

[TryingTooHard]

I do not like humiliation. giving or getting. everyone can have fun! gentle teasing would be ok. but then again some find humiliation fun. It is a free country.

Humiliation isn't exactly fun! It's more a by-product of your wife being satisfied by another man and letting you know that she finds it more satisfying, Especially if it was your idea in the first place for her to experience an another man. The other man also recognizes this and will let you know that he is in charge. He is the dominant one. You are terribly sexually aroused, your mind is racing, your breathing labored and you thus feel humiliated while on the verge of cumming intensely.

 

[muycurioso]

Humiliation isn't exactly fun! It's more a by-product of your wife being satisfied by another man and letting you know that she finds it more satisfying, Especially if it was your idea in the first place for her to experience an another man. The other man also recognizes this and will let you know that he is in charge. He is the dominant one. You are terribly sexually aroused, your mind is racing, your breathing labored and you thus feel humiliated while on the verge of cumming intensely.

gentle teasing would be ok

 

[TryingTooHard]

gentle teasing would be ok

It might start like that but it usually develops into something more intense.

 

[lc69hunter]

Humiliation isn't exactly fun! It's more a by-product of your wife being satisfied by another man and letting you know that she finds it more satisfying, Especially if it was your idea in the first place for her to experience an another man. The other man also recognizes this and will let you know that he is in charge. He is the dominant one. You are terribly sexually aroused, your mind is racing, your breathing labored and you thus feel humiliated while on the verge of cumming intensely.

Humiliation is internal. You are only humiliated if you allow yourself be be humiliated. Your wife and the other individual can not humiliate you unless you allow yourself to be humiliated. And generally, he is not in charge anyway. The wife is.

 

[TryingTooHard]

Humiliation is internal. You are only humiliated if you allow yourself be be humiliated. Your wife and the other individual can not humiliate you unless you allow yourself to be humiliated. And generally, he is not in charge anyway. The wife is.

I tend to disagree, at least based on my own experience.

 

[magicalmoments]

When it comes down to it, being totally honest with myself, I can say that my motivation to introducing my wife to having sex with other men was totally driven my desire to fuck other women. It was a calculated and strategic plan over a couple of years to take her from the "good little girl", monogamous, faithful, wife into a "swinger" (for want of a better word). The plan worked, It was her that placed our first profile looking to contact others for "erotic fun times" and our first encounter ended up being a 3'sum with another guy. Unexpectedly I found sharing her with another guy an immense turn on, no humiliation involved, just the two guys pleasuring her at the same time and I have never lost that feeling. She was hooked from that first time. I also got my desire for experiencing other women satisfied along the way, but the 3'sum with my wife remained my number one pleasure.

 

[TryingTooHard]

When it comes down to it, being totally honest with myself, I can say that my motivation to introducing my wife to having sex with other men was totally driven my desire to fuck other women. It was a calculated and strategic plan over a couple of years to take her from the "good little girl", monogamous, faithful, wife into a "swinger" (for want of a better word). The plan worked, It was her that placed our first profile looking to contact others for "erotic fun times" and our first encounter ended up being a 3'sum with another guy. Unexpectedly I found sharing her with another guy an immense turn on, no humiliation involved, just the two guys pleasuring her at the same time and I have never lost that feeling. She was hooked from that first time. I also got my desire for experiencing other women satisfied along the way, but the 3'sum with my wife remained my number one pleasure.

You got that absolutely right!

 

[LMWM321]

I think a lot of married women would be surprised to learn on how many husband's have a "hot wife fantasy" about their wife. When I shared with my wife that I had this fantasy she was wondering if I was sharing this as a way to say that I would enjoy another woman. To be candid I am not against sharing with another couple, but if I had to prioritize it I would have to admit that I would enjoy seeing my wife experiencing another lover first.

I feel pretty much the same. Sure, I'd enjoy occasionally being with other women, but if I had to chose I'd prefer my wife has the hall pass, not me. She wouldn't allow me to have it anyway because she's convinced I would form an attachement from a casual hookup. ..She's wrong, but I'm not going to change how she feels. And I'm okay with the lack of reciprocity.

Besides, being with my wife AFTER she's been with another man would feel like I'm with a different woman. Yes, she'd still be the same wonderful, beautiful wife I've adored for 30+ years, but sexually-speaking there would be an exciting newness to her sexual vibe. I suppose it would be, in part, because being with another man would improve her sexual confidence, her body image and her believe that she is still as sexually attractive and relevant as she was in her 30's. I find that to be an exhilarating thought.

 

[SouthByWest]

Interesting comment and , as you state, a view widely held.

In my own case, Janie, my second wife, is a slim, brunette and I know very attractive.

I am now 53. She just turned 41. I met her at a law firm I was using for business where she was working. I had already separated from my first wife. Janie seemed shy and reserved initially but I discovered that she had a wild and uninhibited side. She attracts men. I see it every time we are out and when we are with friends as well as colleagues of mine. She exudes sensuality and appears to be unaware of it, which makes it even more erotic. She likes confident but not arrogant men. She loves a sense of humour.

I initially tried to interest Jane into maybe having another man join us by telling her about my sexual fantasies, which I had had for years, and by asking her to tell me about her previous lovers. I was particularly turned-on when she told me about Steve. They were together for only a year but she said that he had the biggest and thickest cock she’s ever seen and that the sex was the greatest! I began to tell her stories in bed; fantasy stories, usually consisting of the two of us and another man ( Steve ?) or more than one other man .

At first, she questioned my love because all I seemed to be interested in was sharing her with other men or being interested in her past sex life. I re-emphasized my deep love for her and simply said that these were "harmless fantasies" that just added to usually great sex we had. Over and over again, I would repeat that I loved her deeply and would never consider leaving her or finding another woman.

Within a few months, I had also managed to persuade her to dress more revealingly and provocatively in both private and public. I’d get her to wear thin, see-through dresses with only a tiny pair of panties on under or wrap-around dresses with sheer thigh-high stockings and matching sheer panties. She became more confident and I would tell her how aroused I would get, watching other men looking at my wife, knowing exactly what they were thinking and wishing. Jane began to get excited by the whole thing and we would often rush back home to fuck or, if we couldn't wait, get into the car and kiss and fumble and mutually masturbate. However, during this period, I didn't tell her about my dark and secret fantasy & desires as another man or men took her. I still find it hard to fully explain my mixed and intense emotions.

Anyway, that's how things got started with us.

Is your fantasy just that your wife have sex with men who are not you? Or is it that they would give her the extreme level of sexual pleasure that Steve did, and that you presumably do not? If it's the latter, have you considered just telling her that? That you love her so much that you want her to experience again the very highest level of sexual pleasure, and that if this means being with another man, so be it?

 

[LMWM321]

One thing I would NEVER make a part of the conversation is the term "Hot wife" as it has connotations that would turn my wife off. Instead, I use phrases like "Normal, healthy maturing woman..." when explaining to my wife why I think her enthusiasm for sex might be restored by being with another man once in a while.

We've discussed it many times and it usually goes a bit like this....

"You've had sex with me over 3000 times [2.5 times/wk for 35 yrs] without straying, so I'm happy to give you permission to experience the thrill of being with someone new once in a while. And even if the sex turns out to be absolutely awesome, which I hope it would be, I don't believe there's ANY chance you're going to be so overwhelmed by it that you'll ditch our wonderful life together. ..After all, it's only sex. So, I don't feel threatened by the idea; indeed, I truly want you to have the experience. All I ask is that you tell me beforehand and that you prioritize your safety."

My wife has then asked, "So why are you so okay with not being allowed to do the same thing?

"It's because my interest in sex has not waned one iota since my early thirties, and I'm as horny for you as I've ever been - maybe more so! So I don't need to be with other women to raise my libido. But I do think your interest in sex and your horniness for me has waned over the years and I don't take it personally! I think that for some people, it's a normal thing that happens after being with only one person a very long time. So I think the newness of being with someone other than me might greatly raise your interest in sex and I think that would likely help OUR intimacy too..."

If it were to happen for my wife, it would likely be while traveling on business. ..She's too protective of her privacy to do this near home where friends or family might find out. My wife is very attractive and it's predictable that one of the handsome men she works with would jump at the chance to have sex with her - especially after she tells them her husband is fine with it. Another possibility is while away with girlfriends at a resort somewhere, but the other women would have to be doing the same so everyones silence is assured.