Your general opinion..

[Chickadee]

Do you think generally when a younger man dates a much older woman (someone at least 10 years older) it tends not to work out?

I know sometimes it can happen but lets be honest, a guy younger then 25 dateing a 30 year old is kinda a big emotional gap. Woman mature way faster then men do and i dont see how it would last for long. The sex might be great but i would think she would get tired of his emotional immatureity.

I suppose it could work out in certain situations but in most cases do you think it works?

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

It just depends on the man and woman involved. Normally I would say that 5-10 years is not that much of an age difference, but guys mature a lot between 20 and 30.

I personally wouldn't say such an age gap wouldn't work most of the time - it just depends on the people. If it worked for the first couple of years then it would probably work from there on; as they get older that age gap means less and less, and the guy is more mature.

No - don't count it out, it could easily work. I personally wouldn't date someone much younger than 30 (I am 47); they just don't have the age experience I do and unless they were very mature for their age, it would be irritating. But between 25 and 30 for the man and the woman, that can easily work if the guy isn't a total flake and immature.

 

[Debbie]

My best friend and her husband have a ten year age difference. They married when she was 37 and he was 27. They have had their ups and downs and two kids together. She wouldn't part with him for anything. She is now 50 and he is 40. I think it depends on the couple involved.
My husband is 14 years older and we are so different but with love and a lot of laughs we don't notice the age difference. He loves it! I'm 32, he is 45. Been together since I was 26.

 

[Chickadee]

Just to give you the ages im talking about...He is 22 she is almost 31. I know him very well and although he has his money and career in order he isnt exactly king of relationships. I just see her getting bored with him or really bugged by him soon and him getting dumped.

Im not even bothering with warning him, i was just wondering if im the only one that thinks this is doomed.

 

[sigh]

whichever partner is older, i think it can work...at some point though, the generation gap might make for a lack of common reference points

shared history is a big part of any relationship

on the other hand, to dispel that notion entirely, i'm 25 and my love is 47...she is absolutely beautiful (and i'm not adding "for her age") and we're compatible on nearly every level

 

[Guru]

 

[Natalie Nessus]

Only people oiutside the relationship see the age difference - those within do not. It doesn't matter, love is all that counts.

 

[RisiaSkye]

age differences...

Age as measured on the calendar tells us nothing about the maturity level of the person. It's just a number.

For some people, 3 years is too big an age gap. For others, 20 years would make little to no difference. Everyone's an individual, at least in terms of their emotional state and what they find attractive in a mate. It's important to remember that even if there is a big gap in emotional maturity, etc., it doesn't necessarily mean that the relationship won't or can't work.

Give it a chance. Most relationships end anyway. This one is no more doomed than any other.

 

[Chelsea_Rose]

Age gap

In a lot of cases, relationships with big age gaps work BECAUSE of the age gap. I know a lot a men who just don't feel comfortable with women their own age- it threatens them, so they date younger women.

People are looking for all sorts of different things in relationships. To judge a relationship from the outside is very difficult. Maybe the relationship wouldn't be to your taste, but then, it doesn't have to be. I mean, we all have different needs.

 

[lobito]

maybe it's not a big enough gap in age, but my wife is 5 years younger than I am. I was already in my first year of school when she was born. Does that make me smarter? Does it make her more mature? I seriously doubt it.

We've known each other for a VERY long time, enough to know that sometimes she acts more mature than I do, and that sometimes it's just the opposite.

I don't buy into the notion that women are more mature at a certain age then men are. Physically would be the only way. Emotionally, is a way different story I think.

 

[Bigdog]

Just to give you the ages im talking about...He is 22 she is almost 31.

I was 23 when I met my wife of 8 years, she was 32. Of all the problems we have worked through over the years, age difference was never one of them.

Age is a yardstick for our own mortality. It carries no weight in a relationship based on love.

 

[cymbidia]

Age is a yardstick for our own mortality. It carries no weight in a relationship based on love.

Excellent, pithy, and true.

I am seven (almost eight, really) years older than MS. That bothered me in the beginning, to be honest, because i'd never spent time with anyone who was younger than me and i never wanted to. I didn't spend time with kids.

MS, however, swept into my life and never gave the difference in our ages any importance, nor did he let me go down that road, either. He made it clear, in response to my tentative worries about our age difference, that he'd always preferred older women. The potential for greatness between us far outweighed my worry, and i took a chance. Now, a couple years into it, the age difference is no longer of any importance at all.

We are all people before we are 23 or 37 or 44 - and finding love in this world is such a wonderful thing, why stifle its potential with waggling fingers in the direction of age differences? Let them try for love. If they don't find with each other, perhaps they will have had some tenderness trying toward it, at least.

 

[HARDKOREBJ]

no

as long as you both are true and honest with each other