Your First time

[MisterY77]

I am in the process of writing a story and am looking for some information.

I have a story I've been working on. I think I have a pretty good feel for things but as a man there's one thing I'd like a little more detail on - the first time.

Would any ladies be kind enough to either respond in thread or send a PM telling me about their first time? What did you like? What did you hate? What was awkward and uncomfortable? How did you feel afterward? Did you want to do it or do you feel like you were pressured into it?

Thanks in advance for the help.

MisterY

 

[brunette1989]

Well my answers are very arousing lol

For me my first time hurt..alot! The sex only lasted for a little bit because I started crying
What I didn't like was not knowing what to do. It feels rather stupid just to lay there and let the guy do everything because you have no clue.
I half felt pressured into it, but I also wanted to lose my virginity because my friend had a month before and I always thought I would before her lol
Afterward it was embarrassing because I had cried and the guy left like 10mins after because he felt really bad because I hurt.

Sexy enough for your story? haha

 

[MisterY77]

Thank you very much burnette, that's very helpful! I'm more looking for realism and accuracy. Sexy I can get in the stories section.

May I ask you a couple more questions? Would you like there here or in PM?

 

[brunette1989]

Thank you very much burnette, that's very helpful! I'm more looking for realism and accuracy. Sexy I can get in the stories section.

May I ask you a couple more questions? Would you like there here or in PM?

Probably on here. I find PM annoying.

 

[MisterY77]

Thank you! If you find these too personal please just ignore them.

Did you love the guy or did you just do it to keep up with your friend? How long after that was your next sexual experience and did you find that one enjoyable at all?

Thank you so much!

MrY

 

[SophieUK]

What did I like? I was on love (at least,I thought I was!) And it made me feel so close to him..

But it hurt..a lot...he wasn't gentle, more'enthusiastic., we were in the woods and I was scared someone would see, and the pine needles stuck into me...
And then afterwards I was so embarrassed,I thought everyone we met would know just by looking at me...

 

[MisterY77]

Thank you SophieUK!

Where were the woods? Were you having to sneak off to do it?

 

[Christopher2012]

My first time was with a hot tub water jet. I miss that hot tub...

 

[brunette1989]

Thank you! If you find these too personal please just ignore them.

Did you love the guy or did you just do it to keep up with your friend? How long after that was your next sexual experience and did you find that one enjoyable at all?

Thank you so much!

MrY

No I wasn't in love with him, we used to hook up alot before and I did have a crush on him but that's it.
I can't quite remember when I next had a sexual experience, maybe a couple of months after? I only had sex 3 times and fingered once in a year and a half after the first time. And all of those times either hurt or I had no pleasurable feelings from it. It wasn't until I had my first boyfriend at 20 that I actually enjoyed sex. And after being with him I learnt to actually say what I do and don't like and not to be afraid to tell the guy if it was hurting or wasn't doing anything for me.

 

[MisterY77]

No I wasn't in love with him, we used to hook up alot before and I did have a crush on him but that's it.
I can't quite remember when I next had a sexual experience, maybe a couple of months after? I only had sex 3 times and fingered once in a year and a half after the first time. And all of those times either hurt or I had no pleasurable feelings from it. It wasn't until I had my first boyfriend at 20 that I actually enjoyed sex. And after being with him I learnt to actually say what I do and don't like and not to be afraid to tell the guy if it was hurting or wasn't doing anything for me.

Thanks brunette. I have often wondered if the transition from painful to pleasurable was immediate or gradual. Thank you for your openness and honesty. It's too bad it was not pleasant at first but I'm glad to see you didn't give up. I'm sure your boyfriend when you were 20 was a very fortunate guy.

 

[MisterY77]

Thanks for the responses. Is there anyone else that can help me out on this? Thanks!

 

[BongoGal]

My first time with an actual guy was not painful because I had been a veteran user of dildos for years beforehand. I knew what I was getting into when he was getting into me. I remember it being warmer than expected. I also remember how thrilling it felt to have that in-and-out thrusting be controlled by someone else rather as something my hand was doing.

 

[andria306]

What did you like .... the kissing and touching (him and me)
What did you hate .... trying to be sexy and seductive .. I sukk at that
What was awkward and uncomfortable? .... getting undressed, stupid pantyhose (which I now refuse to wear) .... also the pain of having him inside me ...
How did you feel afterward? ... in pain, embarrassed ... but relieved a bit,
Did you want to do it or do you feel like you were pressured into it ... felt pressured

dunno if that helps ... but any of my friends at the time all said kind of the same thing .. sex gets way better after that "first time" is out of the way ..

 

[MisterY77]

My first time with an actual guy was not painful because I had been a veteran user of dildos for years beforehand. I knew what I was getting into when he was getting into me. I remember it being warmer than expected. I also remember how thrilling it felt to have that in-and-out thrusting be controlled by someone else rather as something my hand was doing.

Thank you, BongoGal. Great line, "what I was getting into when he was getting into me." I'm glad to hear it was a positive experience for you. What about when you first used a dildo, what was that like? Was it your idea or did you have encouragement?

I really appreciate your input.

 

[MisterY77]

What did you like .... the kissing and touching (him and me)
What did you hate .... trying to be sexy and seductive .. I sukk at that
What was awkward and uncomfortable? .... getting undressed, stupid pantyhose (which I now refuse to wear) .... also the pain of having him inside me ...
How did you feel afterward? ... in pain, embarrassed ... but relieved a bit,
Did you want to do it or do you feel like you were pressured into it ... felt pressured

dunno if that helps ... but any of my friends at the time all said kind of the same thing .. sex gets way better after that "first time" is out of the way ..

Thank you so much. So, did it get better as it went on or were you just waiting for it to be done? I've read the stories where it hurt at first but soon after it was pleasurable, but I'm thinking it's a myth.

Also, What a gorgeous profile picture you have!

 

[andria306]

Thank you so much. So, did it get better as it went on or were you just waiting for it to be done? I've read the stories where it hurt at first but soon after it was pleasurable, but I'm thinking it's a myth.

Also, What a gorgeous profile picture you have!

No it didn't get better during that 1st time. It got better like maybe after the 4th or 5th time ... Like a few weeks later.

thanks about pic

 

[Scheherazade73]

I am in the process of writing a story and am looking for some information.

I have a story I've been working on. I think I have a pretty good feel for things but as a man there's one thing I'd like a little more detail on - the first time.

Would any ladies be kind enough to either respond in thread or send a PM telling me about their first time? What did you like? What did you hate? What was awkward and uncomfortable? How did you feel afterward? Did you want to do it or do you feel like you were pressured into it?

Thanks in advance for the help.

MisterY

Well, I was pretty young and the guy was even younger. It was a miracle we even made it happen. We were in a room with other people, although the lights were off. It was quite painful & over VERY quickly. He was pretty much dazed & tagging along at my heels afterwards, which I really liked, even though we were very much more like buddies than anything romantic, even though occasionally we made out with each other.

I would say sex didn't get amazing till I was 18. And then it was like the lights came on all at once.

 

[Eilan]

Well, I was pretty young and the guy was even younger. It was a miracle we even made it happen. We were in a room with other people, although the lights were off. It was quite painful & over VERY quickly. He was pretty much dazed & tagging along at my heels afterwards, which I really liked, even though we were very much more like buddies than anything romantic, even though occasionally we made out with each other.

I would say sex didn't get amazing till I was 18+. And then it was like the lights came on all at once.

Fixed your post for Lit purposes.

 

[submissive_fire]

I am in the process of writing a story and am looking for some information.

I have a story I've been working on. I think I have a pretty good feel for things but as a man there's one thing I'd like a little more detail on - the first time.

Would any ladies be kind enough to either respond in thread or send a PM telling me about their first time? What did you like? What did you hate? What was awkward and uncomfortable? How did you feel afterward? Did you want to do it or do you feel like you were pressured into it?

Thanks in advance for the help.

MisterY

My first time was ...

-one week before my 20th birthday
-the first time I was thoroughly drunk off my ass
-with a guy in our group of friends that I had a crush on, who didn't know it was my first time. He felt very bad after he found out I was a virgin.
-hurt like hell and I made him quit, so he pulled out and came on my stomach which I found gross
-I bled quite a bit and hurt for several days after

 

[ileavebitemarks]

I'll never forget my first time...........

I was in Europe. My friend and I had met some guys at a local bar. We ended up down by the lake in the early morning. She took off with his friend and I was left in the car. He was older and only took his pleasure when he lowered the seat back in a VW spread open my legs, put them up on his shoulders and took me. He was huge and it hurt so bad I'm pretty sure my friends heard my scream when it happened. We did not even finish. I bled for days afterwards. The second time was way better. Slower more in tune to my needs and lasted for hours.

 

[MisterY77]

Thank you all so much for the help. I now have a pretty good idea how I'm going to write the scene when it actually comes.

 

[MisterY77]

No it didn't get better during that 1st time. It got better like maybe after the 4th or 5th time ... Like a few weeks later.

thanks about pic

You're most welcome, thank you for letting us see it!

 

[MisterY77]

Well, I was pretty young and the guy was even younger. It was a miracle we even made it happen. We were in a room with other people, although the lights were off. It was quite painful & over VERY quickly. He was pretty much dazed & tagging along at my heels afterwards, which I really liked, even though we were very much more like buddies than anything romantic, even though occasionally we made out with each other.

I would say sex didn't get amazing till I was 18. And then it was like the lights came on all at once.

Thank you for your input!

 

[ReddiWhipped]

You might have enoug information already, but what I remember most was a sense of frustration and disappointment.

We had been kissing for ages and I had been feeling soo turned on, then there was a bit of fiddling around, a bit of "is it in yet?" "Ow! Yes!", then he pulled out and came and it was all done and he was putting his pants back on!

It hurt a fair bit but I really didn't want to stop and I was far too inexperienced to say "Hey, I'm not finished yet."

It didn't hurt the next time but it took a good few tries (with a better boyfriend) before sex became fun or satisfying and about six months before my first orgasm...

Hope it helps.

 

[MisterY77]

You might have enoug information already, but what I remember most was a sense of frustration and disappointment.

We had been kissing for ages and I had been feeling soo turned on, then there was a bit of fiddling around, a bit of "is it in yet?" "Ow! Yes!", then he pulled out and came and it was all done and he was putting his pants back on!

It hurt a fair bit but I really didn't want to stop and I was far too inexperienced to say "Hey, I'm not finished yet."

It didn't hurt the next time but it took a good few tries (with a better boyfriend) before sex became fun or satisfying and about six months before my first orgasm...

Hope it helps.

Thank you ReddiWhipped! I love the name by the way.