Younger Men

[angela146]

I'm 28.

The youngest guy I've actually slept with was 5 years younger than me (two years ago). It wasn't enough of an age difference to make a lot of difference, but his experience level... he was almost a virgin. It was fun being his first lover who actually knew what she was doing. (Hubby and I had been married for six years at the time).

He was and is a good friend.

I guess I'm old enough that 18 year old guys seem like kids. They're fun to hang out with but I don't think I could have sex with someone under twentyone without feeling like I'm taking advantage.

Part of that is due to my husband being a high school teacher. In fact, we haven't been with anyone under twenty since we graduated from college.

Ask me again in five years.

 

[sultresweetie]

I'm 28, and the youngest man I ever dated was 18 and just out of highschool. That was 3 years ago, and I really don't think I could go there now. He was sweet and innocent...and fucked my brains out whenever I gave him the chance. I anticipated that he wouldn't be able to handle himself emotionally, so I never gave him my phone number, and I never brought him to my apt. I feel really shitty about it now, although I set the boundries from the beginning, but when I was done with him, I just stopped calling and that was that.

I'm sure he got over it.

 

[SXCRgirl]

I'm 34 ... almost 35. Last year, I had a *thing* with someone who was 21. He was my brother's best friend in the Marines at the time. We clicked and had this connection even though he was younger. But, after being intimate with him and found how emotionally immature he was to handle it, I realize that the appeal for a younger man is purely physical. Now, no offense to Tacky Daddy, I don't mean that all young people are emotionally immature. He was.

I prefer men that are about 5 years younger than me and older men. In addition to a healthy attitude about sex, I want someone that I can relate to and can relate to me. It adds so much more to the relationship.

 

[Zergplex]

Zergplex Says

I'v noticed that both males and females in this thread generally say they want older people.... which gives me a weird thought. If everyone wants older people, SOMEONE is going to have to date someone younger then them just because eventually you can't go much older ^_^

Well here's my two cents. I think mentally I would normally perfer someone older then I am, just because females my own age tend to be quite immature (and the guys are even worse, I would never date one of them within 5 years of me because of that). There are exceptions to that but I'll get to those in a second. I don't nessicarily agree that it's conversation thats the problem with people too much younger, more communication problems in general. Most older people have learned the value of talking and communicating with you mate, while some younger people havn't realized the value of a person besides how fast they pull their dick/pussy out. As for the exceptions, I am dating one of them right now so I can't complain. She may show her age when talking about things that excite her (like band or the oscars), but I don't mind. Besides our communication is strong and as I said earlier that is the most important thing.

-Zergplex

 

[ReadyOne]

I thought the cycle was supposed to be

Older women teach younger men.

Younger men teach younger women.

 

[sheath]

I'm 28, and my last man (should we call him that?) was 23 when we ended the relationship. I look back now and see what I didn't see then, and I know his maturity level was very, very low.

Does that mean I would not date a younger man? No. I would. But I might be a little more wary of it now than I used to be.

Most of the men I have ever dated were significantly older than me. By that I mean...my boyfriend at 16 was 40 years old. When I was 18, I dated a man who was 28. But I have always been a little on the more serious side...older men just suited me better.

Boy, I just realized how many cans of worms I could have opened with THAT post. I can see the debates already.

S.

 

[College_geek]

Re: Zergplex Says

As for the exceptions, I am dating one of them right now so I can't complain. She may show her age when talking about things that excite her (like band or the oscars), but I don't mind. Besides our communication is strong and as I said earlier that is the most important thing.

Isn't that basically what I said about you?

I think it generally depends on the person and not the age, really. Or at least that's what I've been thinking over the last day or so. Perhaps on average younger people tend to be more immature and older people tend to be more mature, but there's exceptions that happen everyday. I think it's gotten to the point in the thread, indirectly, where everyone's pretty much saying "I want someone emotionally mature and able to communicate well, not just someone who can ravish me day and night", and age doesn't seem that big of a factor anymore
*shrugs* I've had a long day, so I'm probably not making much sense right now.

 

[jupiter lilly]

I am almost 23 and for the first time in my life I am dating an older guy (He's 27).

I personally don't think I could date anyone who wasn't out of high school, but depending on the maturity level of the individual, I would be willing to date someone younger than myself. (If I were single, that is)

I am not a big fan of making statements like "I won't date anyone more than x years younger than me" or things like that...You've got to go on a person by person basis. At least, I do.