You gotta wonder.......

[Jewelz]

Do you ever wonder about people that come into your life, you share something nice with them whether it be friendship or some lustful playtime and suddenly they are gone. Well not gone, you see them all the time, posting and playing with others, just gone from what you shared with them? Do you ever wonder, why?

When you try to keep up the friendship but it seems to be "nothing" to them if they respond to you or not?

Wonder why they have no interest in you any more?

Do you question their intentions? And I mean, after you get to know them privately as well as on the boards?

Did they get what they wanted from you and move on?

Just curious this morning.....

 

[sortacurious]

Know what you mean. If you find an answer to these questions, let me know, k?
These seems to be an entire different ettiquette or something online than in real-life.

With my mood right now: Joke 'em if they can't take a fuck!

 

[Jewelz]

I knew you would be so there with me SC.

I mean, what is it about me that they dont like any more? LOLOL

oh well......FUCK EM seems to be a great attitude really!

 

[sortacurious]

I knew you would be so there with me SC.

I mean, what is it about me that they dont like any more? LOLOL

oh well......FUCK EM seems to be a great attitude really!

I am so there with you...and it is so not you!

I think (could be way wrong) that people come here for different reasons. The majority of people that approach another are looking for variety in their life and you become a part of that variety. But, in seeking variety anew they move on. Which sucks for those of us that are not seeking an ever changing atmosphere but something more meaningful and stable. Unfortunantely, we are also the ones that continually reach out to people and get slapped back for our efforts. It's ok, though. I refuse to become hardened by other peoples actions. It's their loss because I think I make a pretty damn good friend. And so do you, my sweet friend.

I can see why some people I've encountered are more guarded about who they let into their lives because of this. It's too bad, because those that move on to greener pastures probably have no clue that they are assisting this. But, there is also a selfishness in them, or they would have provided at least some closure or explaination. I would think that is the only decent thing to do. It also would eliminate the awkwardness of mutually responding to and being able to banter on the same threads.

ok, what was the question? Just think if I wasn't hungover, I might have said something really profound

 

[cutie pie]

You've been reading my mind again this morning, haven't you Sis?

I like the FUCK EM attitude. . .some days I can only handle so much grief and aggravation.

 

[lovemetender]

think it's an online thingy....people can be very fickle huh?

fuck'em's a good attitude to have sometimes....LOL

 

[Jewelz]

I am so there with you...and it is so not you!

I think (could be way wrong) that people come here for different reasons. The majority of people that approach another are looking for variety in their life and you become a part of that variety. But, in seeking variety anew they move on. Which sucks for those of us that are not seeking an ever changing atmosphere but something more meaningful and stable. Unfortunantely, we are also the ones that continually reach out to people and get slapped back for our efforts. It's ok, though. I refuse to become hardened by other peoples actions. It's their loss because I think I make a pretty damn good friend. And so do you, my sweet friend.

I can see why some people I've encountered are more guarded about who they let into their lives because of this. It's too bad, because those that move on to greener pastures probably have no clue that they are assisting this. But, there is also a selfishness in them, or they would have provided at least some closure or explaination. I would think that is the only decent thing to do. It also would eliminate the awkwardness of mutually responding to and being able to banter on the same threads.

ok, what was the question? Just think if I wasn't hungover, I might have said something really profound

Ohh hon, Umm, this was profound! You said most of what I was thinking.

Im just having a blah day and realized just how many people have said they cared about me yet they dont talk to me or barely recognize my existence on threads. Ha! Its almost funny.

thanks for your opinion and view. you know i hold it highly.

 

[Jewelz]

You've been reading my mind again this morning, haven't you Sis?

I like the FUCK EM attitude. . .some days I can only handle so much grief and aggravation.

I must be sis. There are some days where I wanna just scream at them and ask them what the fuck?? ask them since i dont have the ideal body if that is the reason they dont banter with me any more. LOL....oh well, fuck em!!!!

And i wanted to say sorry for the quick hang up on the phone the other day. My children were opening the door for who I thought was a stranger (wasnt) and i was about to thump them for it!

 

[Jewelz]

think it's an online thingy....people can be very fickle huh?

fuck'em's a good attitude to have sometimes....LOL

i agree. it is an online thingy but im not talking about your average joe that you see in a thread once in awhile. i am talking about those that have come to know me and know personal information about me and i know about them....and they act like they dont know who i am. too funny really.

and the fuck em is a huge attitude i have today....lol

 

[cutie pie]

And i wanted to say sorry for the quick hang up on the phone the other day. My children were opening the door for who I thought was a stranger (wasnt) and i was about to thump them for it!

Not a problem!! We were getting ready to hang up anyway. . .Need to talk to you again soon!!

 

[sortacurious]

Ohh hon, Umm, this was profound! You said most of what I was thinking.

Im just having a blah day and realized just how many people have said they cared about me yet they dont talk to me or barely recognize my existence on threads. Ha! Its almost funny.

thanks for your opinion and view. you know i hold it highly.

See now, I'm so glad you started this thread...and today of all days, too!
I was wondering if there was something attached to my posts that said "Use & Abuse Me" that only I couldn't see. But, that would stand for real-life, too.

The really pathetic part is, once I have feelings for someone, it doesn't matter what happens I can't shut those feelings off. And I'm most definately a sucker, I'll always be there for them. Just the way I am.

Don't get me wrong, I don't mean this about everyone I come in contact with. I made some great connections here, and still have contact with some.

ok, off my pity-pot now....but I think it's unanamous "FUCK EM".
Thanks lovemetender for the validation.

 

[lovemetender]

i agree. it is an online thingy but im not talking about your average joe that you see in a thread once in awhile. i am talking about those that have come to know me and know personal information about me and i know about them....and they act like they dont know who i am. too funny really.

and the fuck em is a huge attitude i have today....lol

been there too love!....hey it's them not us...LOL
I'll never understand it nor do I care too!
love your tude today

 

[lovemetender]

See now, I'm so glad you started this thread...and today of all days, too!
I was wondering if there was something attached to my posts that said "Use & Abuse Me" that only I couldn't see. But, that would stand for real-life, too.

The really pathetic part is, once I have feelings for someone, it doesn't matter what happens I can't shut those feelings off. And I'm most definately a sucker, I'll always be there for them. Just the way I am.

Don't get me wrong, I don't mean this about everyone I come in contact with. I made some great connections here, and still have contact with some.

ok, off my pity-pot now....but I think it's unanamous "FUCK EM".
Thanks lovemetender for the validation.

you've validated yourself love!...but thanks for the kind words

just treat someone with some respect...if you don't care to have contact with someone anymore just say so...don't act like a horse's ass right?
it's not hard & we're all adults & we'll handle it & if not then that's our problem...
alright I'm off my soapbox too....LOL

 

[Guest]

Fuck Em is a great attitude to have when it come to the players and users that are so prevalent online. I've seen my share, and my shoulders have caught the floodwaters of many friends tears because so many that do come online seem to forget there is a person on the other end. I have learned this...if they are worth anything as a person, they will continue to be your friend and play and interact with you, if they don't, not only do I say fuck em, but who the hell needs em too!

 

[Jewelz]

Not a problem!! We were getting ready to hang up anyway. . .Need to talk to you again soon!!

Anytime sis....anytime. You know I have my nights free.

 

[Jewelz]

See now, I'm so glad you started this thread...and today of all days, too!
I was wondering if there was something attached to my posts that said "Use & Abuse Me" that only I couldn't see. But, that would stand for real-life, too.

The really pathetic part is, once I have feelings for someone, it doesn't matter what happens I can't shut those feelings off. And I'm most definately a sucker, I'll always be there for them. Just the way I am.

Don't get me wrong, I don't mean this about everyone I come in contact with. I made some great connections here, and still have contact with some.

ok, off my pity-pot now....but I think it's unanamous "FUCK EM".
Thanks lovemetender for the validation.

God SC, I am beginning to thing that you are me and cutie pie's long lost sister too!! As I read your words, I could have written them. Every one of them.

I wear my heart on my sleeve and what you see is what you get. I dont come online to be the character "jewelz".....there is a real person behind that screen! and i understand that many people DO just come here for relaxation and not to make connections, but banter with me off the boards and I think we have a friendship. Then when it stops and I see the influx of their responses to the knock out babes....makes me wonder if i am really that repulsive? should i really even give a damn? probably not.

i do know that i AM thankful for those that i have made a bond with, male/female....gives me hope at least.

 

[Jewelz]

been there too love!....hey it's them not us...LOL
I'll never understand it nor do I care too!
love your tude today

i wish i had thicker skin!

 

[Jewelz]

Fuck Em is a great attitude to have when it come to the players and users that are so prevalent online. I've seen my share, and my shoulders have caught the floodwaters of many friends tears because so many that do come online seem to forget there is a person on the other end. I have learned this...if they are worth anything as a person, they will continue to be your friend and play and interact with you, if they don't, not only do I say fuck em, but who the hell needs em too!

I have to laugh at this cuz you are right.....i say to myself when i see the banter they carry with others, so what, let them feed your ego, but i am the one that woulda been a great friend to you, you choose not to keep it. fine....LOLOL......

man im pissy today!!!!

 

[Sendry]

I think that sometimes in the online world, things become more than you can handle. Obviously this happens in real life , but online there is a somewhat easier way to back out - removing yourself from a situation that is more than you want.

I know that personally, I have had people that I've shared myself slip away from me because I was becoming far too dependant on them and it was something they couldn't handle. Fortunately, it was the best thing that could have happened - these people removing themselves from my life (even though it didn't seem that way at the time)

I've also recently been in a situation online with a guy who, in real life, has a girlfriend. And while he is fine with the way things are, it's a situation I have to remove myself from. I'm an internet romantic, I suppose and I do believe it's possible to find love and friendships from the net, but I'm not capable of really getting involved with someone who is attached here or anywhere else. And I've come to realize that is hard to have respect for someone who is attached and would seemingly not think twice about cheating on their SO.


Long and rambling, I know...but I hope my point is noticeable in there somewhere.

 

[Jewelz]

I think that sometimes in the online world, things become more than you can handle. Obviously this happens in real life , but online there is a somewhat easier way to back out - removing yourself from a situation that is more than you want.

I know that personally, I have had people that I've shared myself slip away from me because I was becoming far too dependant on them and it was something they couldn't handle. Fortunately, it was the best thing that could have happened - these people removing themselves from my life (even though it didn't seem that way at the time)

I've also recently been in a situation online with a guy who, in real life, has a girlfriend. And while he is fine with the way things are, it's a situation I have to remove myself from. I'm an internet romantic, I suppose and I do believe it's possible to find love and friendships from the net, but I'm not capable of really getting involved with someone who is attached here or anywhere else. And I've come to realize that is hard to have respect for someone who is attached and would seemingly not think twice about cheating on their SO.


Long and rambling, I know...but I hope my point is noticeable in there somewhere.

I understand what you are saying. I havent become dependant on anyone here. But I do get attached to people faster than they might with me. Which is fine, just dont ignore me or treat me differently on the boards than you treat me privately. I mean, when someone is all over me privately but rarely talk to me on the boards.....kinda insulting.

Im not sure just because forming relationships online lends me to being a cheater. I am a married woman. And Ive never lied to or led anyone on to believe that we could have something more than we share right here on the net. There is someone on here that is someone that I would love to be in a relationship with...but we both know that it isnt possible, while I am married anyway.

I just like to feel special to people and I let them know that they are just as special to me if not more. I dont need everyone liking me, but if I take my time and get to know someone and they get personal with me too, to me, that is a bond. And I just dont understand why they would be so blantant and drop me and my friendship in the blink of an eye. Hence the reason I started this thread....Makes me wonder....

 

[sortacurious]

Hey Jewelz,
I just got two more bottles of wine...sooooooooooo

FUCK EM! *hehe* I like this new tude!

 

[whspr]

Sissy...I still love you and will always love you....no game playing here....cuz I would only hurt myself, too.

I love ya!!!

whspr

 

[1sexylady]

Well hate to see this...

but shit happens and I agree with all of you Fuck them.... I am nice to everyone here at lit and I have been walked on, walked over and ignored...now ask me if I care..... I don't.. I see a thread I like or think is interesting I post and I say what I have to say and if nobody wants to talk to me or say Hi...I don't care... I will still be nice the next time because hey that is me... Jewelz your right there are people on the other side of the typing and that is who I see...not the av.. I could care less who you are...I care how you treat me... I am sorry your hurting or anyone else here... I will say if I hurt someone I would want them to tell me because maybe I didn't mean to... Now perk up and I want to see a smile... What was that saying I learned in girl scouts.....Make new friends but keep the old some are Silver the other is Gold...

 

[ReBeLBeLLe]

Fuck Em?? Did I just see my motto here??

 

[ReBeLBeLLe]

OOOOOooooooopppppssss!!!
*grabs hold of Whspr and hugs her tight!!!!*