YAY, Divorce is final :)

[fluffer12c]

So ....

Now that I'm interested in jumping back in the dating scene, what sites would you suggest trying out? Anyone had any luck at the super vanilla ones? Plentyoffish.com or Match.com?

I'm not a huge fan of craigslist or AFF because they tend to attract um ... not quite the most truthful people lol ...i'd rather they REALLY be single!

Advice? Anyone? Anyone? Beuhler?

 

[ace195008]

congrats on your divorce, been there done that. I think it depends on what you are looking for and how well you can sift the 'wheat from the chaff'....

 

[AllenWmsUSA]

So ....

Now that I'm interested in jumping back in the dating scene, what sites would you suggest trying out? Anyone had any luck at the super vanilla ones? Plentyoffish.com or Match.com?

I'm not a huge fan of craigslist or AFF because they tend to attract um ... not quite the most truthful people lol ...i'd rather they REALLY be single!

Advice? Anyone? Anyone? Beuhler?

Craigslist would be a definite no. It's illogical to look for a date in the same place you'd look for a used rod and reel.

 

[ace195008]

Craigslist is a definite no, too many spammers and god knows what.

 

[LickYourNips]

So ....

Now that I'm interested in jumping back in the dating scene, what sites would you suggest trying out? Anyone had any luck at the super vanilla ones? Plentyoffish.com or Match.com?

I'm not a huge fan of craigslist or AFF because they tend to attract um ... not quite the most truthful people lol ...i'd rather they REALLY be single!

Advice? Anyone? Anyone? Beuhler?

I've done both. Throw in eHarmony and I have had experience with the trifecta.

 

[wehstar]

which country?

 

[fluffer12c]

congrats on your divorce, been there done that. I think it depends on what you are looking for and how well you can sift the 'wheat from the chaff'....

Thanks for the congrats.

Well, a busy lifestyle involving career and children doesn't lend itself to much chaff/wheat-sifting time.

I'm not looking for the wham-bams ... been there, done THAT ;-) Not that it wasn't fun, just ready for another chapter. You know, intelligent conversation, good sense of humor and HOT, HOT sex

Asking too much? lol

 

[fluffer12c]

Craigslist would be a definite no. It's illogical to look for a date in the same place you'd look for a used rod and reel.

Yeah, craigslist is definitely out. I don't want the associated VDs that would come with those rods

Actually, provided the "rod" works well, I don't mind if it's been used. I just still want it in "better than good" condition ;-)

 

[fluffer12c]

I've done both. Throw in eHarmony and I have had experience with the trifecta.

And did you have a better experience with one than another?

 

[fluffer12c]

which country?

USA - Mid-atlantic/northeast

 

[craig30]

So ....

Now that I'm interested in jumping back in the dating scene, what sites would you suggest trying out? Anyone had any luck at the super vanilla ones? Plentyoffish.com or Match.com?

I'm not a huge fan of craigslist or AFF because they tend to attract um ... not quite the most truthful people lol ...i'd rather they REALLY be single!

Advice? Anyone? Anyone? Beuhler?

First of all congrats. I have never had luck with any of the free dating sites such as Plenty of Fish or OK Cupid. It is not from lack of trying either. When I see a female I would like to talk too I am always nice and courteous and try to reference something specific from her profile that shows I actually read it.

I have also heard horror stories about some of the ones you pay for as well. That people are no different on those then they are anywhere else. It is just hard to meet people in this day and age it seems.

 

[LickYourNips]

And did you have a better experience with one than another?

POF - - Free, so you would get all kinds you would need to filter through.

Match - - I bought a 6 month membership a couple of years ago and met a girl I was with for a year the very first night.

eHarmony - - 6 months, totally blows.

 

[NYCBLKMan]

Plenty of Fish sucks and Match has plenty of fakes too. i think you could have some good luck here at Literotica to be honest as the people here will be more up front and "honest".

 

[NYCBLKMan]

Plenty of Fish sucks and Match has plenty of fakes too. i think you could have some good luck here at Literotica to be honest as the people here will be more up front and "honest".

 

[PhDinSB]

some general advice

i'd have varying degrees of success with match and okcupid. i much prefer okcupid since it's free and from what i can tell offers the same functionality at match. it seems the people on match that have paid are much more "serious" about wanting to go out with people, but at the same time, there are plenty of people who have a profile but don't want to pay and there's no way of knowing if you can communicate with them.

in any case, from my admittedly limited experience + the advice of other people who have used these sites and been successful, i think the key to success is quantity. the more people you contact or write back or whatever it is you do, the better chance you have of going out on actual dates and the better chance you have at connecting with people. while this may seem obvious, i think a lot of people create profiles on these sites thinking that just doing these things will result in people coming out of the woodwork trying to go out with you, without putting in the requisite effort. from what i can tell there really isn't that much difference between the sites at all. There may be slight differences in the types of people who are willing to shell out a lot of money for pay sites, so if that's what you're looking for, by all means. But my estimation is it's not which dating site you use (usually i mean, i'd echo everyone else's sentiment that craigslist is a minefield), but how much effort you put into them. it's not that much different from connecting with people here if you think about it.

whatever the case, congrats on the divorce. good luck out in the dating jungle. i think you already have the right attitude where at the very least, it will be a lot of fun.

 

[craig30]

i'd have varying degrees of success with match and okcupid. i much prefer okcupid since it's free and from what i can tell offers the same functionality at match. it seems the people on match that have paid are much more "serious" about wanting to go out with people, but at the same time, there are plenty of people who have a profile but don't want to pay and there's no way of knowing if you can communicate with them.

in any case, from my admittedly limited experience + the advice of other people who have used these sites and been successful, i think the key to success is quantity. the more people you contact or write back or whatever it is you do, the better chance you have of going out on actual dates and the better chance you have at connecting with people. while this may seem obvious, i think a lot of people create profiles on these sites thinking that just doing these things will result in people coming out of the woodwork trying to go out with you, without putting in the requisite effort. from what i can tell there really isn't that much difference between the sites at all. There may be slight differences in the types of people who are willing to shell out a lot of money for pay sites, so if that's what you're looking for, by all means. But my estimation is it's not which dating site you use (usually i mean, i'd echo everyone else's sentiment that craigslist is a minefield), but how much effort you put into them. it's not that much different from connecting with people here if you think about it.

whatever the case, congrats on the divorce. good luck out in the dating jungle. i think you already have the right attitude where at the very least, it will be a lot of fun.

I agree with what you said about the pay sites vs the free ones. People on pay sites you would think would be more interested since your investing actually money.

What I think it comes down to is people are too picky. There is a lot of good-looking people in the world but there is a lot of just normal ok looking average people who I feel is the category I fall into. I also think being male there are 100 to 1 odds for me. I mean look at this site as a good example.

 

[seth6138]

Congrats and best of luck!

 

[kaithel]

This is a massive generalization and will probably offend people, but:

OK Cupid tends to attract more intelligent, alternative folks - there are a large number of gay, bi, alternative life style people there. But it's also pretty small, so after a while you see the same faces over and over.

Plenty of Fish tends to attract less computer-savvy, more "blue-collar, just wanna have fun" types. Lots of people, but . . . if you're well-educated, might not work great.

Again, these are generalizations based on my limited experience.

I've had pretty good luck with Match.com, actually.

I've heard AWFUL things about eHarmony.

Just my two cents.

 

[ivantheterrible]

the free sites suck. most are porn sites posing as people to try to hook you. and if you are like me and don't have a credit card the others don't work.

 

[kaithel]

the free sites suck. most are porn sites posing as people to try to hook you. and if you are like me and don't have a credit card the others don't work.

I dunno, I don't think that's true.

I've gotten numerous dates and several ongoing friendships out of both OK Cupid and Plenty of Fish. I had more luck with OKC than PoF, but I wouldn't say either of them suck.

Also, if you care about such things, OKC IS far easier on the eyes. The PoF web site design wants me make to scratch my eyes out.

 

[teknight]

So ....

Now that I'm interested in jumping back in the dating scene, what sites would you suggest trying out? Anyone had any luck at the super vanilla ones? Plentyoffish.com or Match.com?

I'm not a huge fan of craigslist or AFF because they tend to attract um ... not quite the most truthful people lol ...i'd rather they REALLY be single!

Advice? Anyone? Anyone? Beuhler?

I found someone on OKCupid.

 

[LustfulOne50]

I found "Plentyoffish.com" a great place.

 

[Doctor Joe]

Yeah, craigslist is definitely out. I don't want the associated VDs that would come with those rods

Actually, provided the "rod" works well, I don't mind if it's been used. I just still want it in "better than good" condition ;-)

You still have the knack for the innuendo Fluffer! Wish I had known you were back here earlier!

 

[Doctor Joe]

So are there any other opinions? I've found on POF that many women seek the "other relationship", whatever that means to them! I often ask and don't get very good answers. They don't say they want "intimate affairs", but more than just "dating". What would the ladies here say about the "other relationship"?

 

[TwilightEmbrace]

Congrats on the divorce....good luck on the sites