WTF does this mean!!?!

[Melody_lane]

So, the guy I am dating for 11months, did an INCREDIBLY confusing thing...

For my birthday, he took me out to dinner, got me a little buzzed and fucked me.....all as per my request.

Then, he gives me, in a very nice, but very simple card......500 dollars.
I am seriously considering giving it back to him.

He keeps reminding and insisting that we are not in a relationship, not going to have a commitment, and here he is giving me a very hefty sum of money for not even a landmark-type birthday.

What does it mean? Or does it not mean anything?
Should I give the money back?

Help me, help me!


melody_lane

 

[capricious_chic]

Keep the money.

 

[*bratcat*]

 

[Purrde Flower]

go shopping and don't stress.

 

[metal_minx]

11 months and no commitment? thats not right

i say keep it and get rid of him

 

[islandman]

Give it back. Or at the very least, get a reasonable explanation.


Or, he's married and feeling very guilty.

 

[LukkyKnight]

You could send me the money.

Cash of any magnitude is pretty damned odd, IMHO.

 

[Calamity Jane]

I'd keep the money. He obviously wanted to give it to you, so why not keep it?

 

[Simply Me]

Damn, and I was excited about the free big mac coupon I got in my card.

Sounds to me like guilt money.

 

[RudeNastyAssBitch]

Keep It!

What An Idiot Asshole!

 

[Melody_lane]

No, we have sex very often...
No fears, I wasn't made a prostitute.



He's definitely not married. I stay at his house overnight, weekly.

And that's right---11months, no commitment.

 

[Liontamr]

A hidden message he is ready for something more meaningful? I mean sure he owed you a gift, but if you're not in a "firm" relationship then I'm thinking taking you out for supper is a good gift..

*shrugs*

500 is alot to shell out.. I doubt he'd give it to you for sex if you've slept together before... Something else a little more major has to be on his mind.

 

[lickerish]

Am I seeing straight?! Omgosh Melody_lane, I haven't seen you in forever!


I would give it back.. it smells kinda fishy.

 

[Barely__There]

So, the guy I am dating for 11months, did an INCREDIBLY confusing thing...

For my birthday, he took me out to dinner, got me a little buzzed and fucked me.....all as per my request.

Then, he gives me, in a very nice, but very simple card......500 dollars.
I am seriously considering giving it back to him.

He keeps reminding and insisting that we are not in a relationship, not going to have a commitment, and here he is giving me a very hefty sum of money for not even a landmark-type birthday.

What does it mean? Or does it not mean anything?
Should I give the money back?

Help me, help me!


melody_lane

Well, if you don't want to keep the money, on principal, and don't want to give it back in case he meant well (but is either stupid or got really bad advice) donate it to a local food bank.

 

[Nora]

Uh. Did you ask him why he chose that as your gift?

Personally, I wouldn't keep it. That would make me sincerely uncomfortable.

 

[LovetoGiveRoses]

I wonder why he didn't take the time to buy a gift. The money isn't so much an issue as he didn't take the time to think about what kind of a gift you'd have liked and make the time to go shopping for it. Jewelry, for example, is always a great gift and $500 can disappear quite quickly in a jewelry store and result in a gift that will give pleasure for a lifetime.

 

[sufisaint]

Not to be mean...but the obvious comes to mind...he thinks of you as a hooker...time to move on...

 

[Guest]

Wow!

 

[plesmone]

Reading too much into it?

Some guys lack sensitivity because that section of their brain is dead.

If I had a clear shot to the groan every time my lover has done some crass, unthinking, insensitive thing, he'd be a lead singer in the Vienna Boys Choir!!

Spend the money at a spa indulging yourself and thank him later
.

 

[Simply Me]

I wonder why he didn't take the time to buy a gift. The money isn't so much an issue as he didn't take the time to think about what kind of a gift you'd have liked and make the time to go shopping for it. Jewelry, for example, is always a great gift and $500 can disappear quite quickly in a jewelry store and result in a gift that will give pleasure for a lifetime.

Very nice.

 

[Freya]

Fuck that. I'd keep it - even if it's given for the wrong reasons, it's 500 dollars for god's sake. Buy yourself something you want and enjoy it.

 

[Melody_lane]

I don't think that his intentions were bad, at all.

And, I really think that he hadn't a clue as to what to get me, and that's why he went with the cash.

He had asked to take me out shopping, but that really isn't my thing. If I want something, I go out and buy it myself. I feel weird about having a guy take me out to buy me something.

Dinner, is one thing---he can pay for that all he wants. *S*




I think guilt is probably the reason for such an amount of money though.

I think he likely feels guilty for not committing, but it makes me feel uncomfortable. If he doesn't want to commit, that's fine....support that by not being so *generous*!

 

[Siren]

 

[Monazwx]

$500 whoa! (wish it was me)
I think he should have gone with a gift certificate, but cash is just as good.
Don't over analyze, just spend and if you still feel uncertain, ask him why.

 

[Lancecastor]

Nothing says you really care like cash.

Were these US Dollars?

Shit...go to Jamaica for 4 daze... without the robot.