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In my newest story, I've considered making my MC pan or omnisexual. Any tips for creating a believable character? She's monogamous, just not strictly heterosexual or lesbian.
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She only sleeps with men, and is monogamous, so any heterosexual monogamous category.
In my newest story, I've considered making my MC pan or omnisexual. Any tips for creating a believable character? She's monogamous, just not strictly heterosexual or lesbian.
I'm assuming she will have some lesbian/pan interior thoughts/desires/emotions? In general, non-LGBTQ readers are more tolerant of female characters being non-binary than male.
If she's monogamous, then all of the pan/bi/non-hetero/non-binary content will be in her interior thoughts/dialogue/desires. To make that believable, you have to pull on the readers heartstrings. Does she have fears? Does she have desires that may never be satisfied? Will her man support her or reject her for these lesbian/pan desires?
What is the scope of her pan-sexual interests? If it's just men and women, she's bisexual. Pan-sexual would be much broader.
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I'm going to put an Urban Dictionary definition of pan-sexual in for reference; A form of sexuality often confused or intermeshed in definition with bisexualaty (an attraction towards both physical sexes: male and female).
Seconding the above.
One of the big social challenges/sore points I see non-binary folks having to deal with are lots of cishet (eg, traditional F&M pairing sexual role believers) folks as well as some other gay & lesbian (eg, other cis non-het) folks who don't get how people can be non-binary AND monogamous. "If you're only shacking up with gender A, you're binary!"
This has a lot of answers, as by definition non-binary folks aren't easy to categorize, especially for those who are conditioned & used to thinking in XX/XY terms. How your proposed protagonist chooses to answer social challenges along those lines - aggression, reeducation, ignore, shun/avoid, humor, etc - could be useful in all sorts of ways - verisimilitude, source of story conflict, social commentary, etc.
Full disclosure, I'm pretty strongly oriented towards cishet, so I'm looking at this from the outside - YMMV.
Very true, UP (*waves* long time no see!)
In my limited experience, that’s definitely been the case. I’m writing a series that’s Dd/lg I/T, about half way complete but already more than 220k words published. From my POV, there’s character interests, attractions, needs, social responses, emotional triggers etc that all stem from my FMC’s sexuality and have been obvious from the start. But I have a handful of readers (all, seemingly, male and cishet) who simultaneously demand that I write more and faster and bemoan that MY story’s veered in a direction that’s uncomfortable/abnormal/wonky because it’s not heteronormative.
Hey lady! Glad to see ya!
In the IT field, when frustrated/aggravated, we'll occasionally call the people who rely on our work but think we can somehow do better 'lusers'. Sounds like you've got some there too. The thought of LARTs - wiktionary defines this as "luser attitude readjustment tool; something with which a clueless person is struck" - helped me get through some of the worst luser interactions.
For several years, I kept a 4' length of 2x4 labelled "Bord Ov Eddikashun" as my LART, specifically a clue-by-four. It was quite effective.
(sorry for the off-topic attempt at humor...)
She only sleeps with men, and is monogamous, so any heterosexual monogamous category.
I write a lot of "across/other gender" stories. None of them have found at good home here at Literotica. That's OK; other stories I write do. But the fact is that Literotica is not a very good place to post these stories. It doesn't have a comfortable category fit for them. They are hard to find and some who do find them in categories they generally follow get the vapors.
In the IT field, when frustrated/aggravated, we'll occasionally call the people who rely on our work but think we can somehow do better 'lusers'.
You're probably safe with both interpretationsI've been here way too long, because I misinterpreted "IT" for a moment there.
I'm curious where you want to go with this. You want to write a story about a woman who is pansexual, but she's monogamous and only sleeps with men. So what is it you want to do with her being pansexual?
Think about what makes your story idea erotic. What is its focus? Once you've figured that ouI think you'll have more ideas about what sort of character you want to create.
Indeed. I would happily read more stories that include nonbinary people. For that matter, I'd love to read more stories where transgender people show up without their trans-ness being the main focus/fetish of the story. But it's not easy to find them here.
I think it would be helpful if authors include non-cishet supporting characters. To be clear, I'm not suggesting they shouldn't be main characters. I'm suggesting that we should all make an effort to give them a presence in the worlds we're presenting in our stories.
Why? I thought that we were writers, not social modellers.
Why? I thought that we were writers, not social modellers.