Writing from the perspective of the opposite gender

[smotp]

Personally I find it more of a turn on as a hetero male to write from a female perspective. I suppose it is the effect of what you do on your partner that is the turn on. I know what it feels like but what does it feel like to the woman?

I tend to consider the sensations and try to describe those as I imagine them to be. But if you follow the instruction 'write what you know' isn't it impossible for a man to write effectively from the female poit of view?

Discuss.

 

[suckandfuck]

I am female and have written a couple of stories from male perspective. I may not actually know how it feels, but I sure have read it enough times to have a good idea. I find that it's both exciting and a refreshing change to write a story from a male perspective once in awhile. Personally I am impressed when I follow a certain author's work and see that they have high-rated stories in all sorts of categories and from all sorts of perspectives.

 

[lilmizzvixen88]

Well, I'm not an author, but I know I have had fantasys in which I imagine myself as the male...I haven't quite understood why this happens, but for the most part I throughly enjoy it. Now, the question is...how can you tell when you are only having fantasies, and when your actually a transexual?

 

[Jenny_Jackson]

I write them either way. Also I write women in "switch roles", ie. women in traditional male roles. It makes no difference to me. There is only one sugnicant difference between the way men and women think.

 

[elfin_odalisque]

I write them either way. Also I write women in "switch roles", ie. women in traditional male roles. It makes no difference to me. There is only one sugnicant difference between the way men and women think.

I think she means the dangly bits.

There is a heck of a difference between male and female POV. First, women are much more aware of their environment, avoiding dark underpasses, crossing the road to avoid an unlit park. What man has ever carried mace or pepper spray in his purse?

Also, women dress for themselves and secondly for other women. We notice changes and realize there is a reason for other women to appear differently. We go and ask what's wrong. Men can wear the same suit for days on end, not concerned about the image they give.

Jenny is right, women are increasingly in 'switch roles' and trying to make sense of it all. If you want to really write from a female perspective, think of the gender-bending issues involved.

 

[smotp]

You raise something I wanted to ask

Also, women dress for themselves and secondly for other women.

As a hetero male I like looking at women and it seems most women dress to accentuate their desireability. Are women aware of how hot they look in certain clothes and how does it feel?

you say they dress for other women but you don't mention men or am I being dense?

Is it a competition thing?

 

[Jenny_Jackson]

As a hetero male I like looking at women and it seems most women dress to accentuate their desireability. Are women aware of how hot they look in certain clothes and how does it feel?

you say they dress for other women but you don't mention men or am I being dense?

Is it a competition thing?

Think of it this way. A guy gets out of bed, drags his ass to the shower, dresses in yesterdays t-shirt and jeans and goes off to a construction site or something.

A woman gets out of bed, drags her ass to the shower, dresses in something nice that makes her feel good. It's not exactly a competition thing - it's about how she feels about herself.

 

[HappilyM]

Made me laugh

Men trying to get inside the head of a female. Isn't that what men have been trying to do since the dawn of time. If any of you figure it out let my husband know.

And conversely, if any of you women can figure men out, PLEASE let me know.

I always use to think that us women were vain, but I am really beginning to rethink that. Tell me how many commercials are now centered on a man's personal image. Not even taking in the Viagra and Cialis ads, just the hair coloring, the skin moisturizers.

Writing as the opposite sex, my suggestion if you are going to take the role of a woman when you write, get a female editor. Especially if this is your first time. And please let me know if any of you figure out this age old quest.

 

[Erlikkhan]

Trading Places

I wrote a lesbian story... "Kelly Does Madison"... on a dare from a friend. I thought it was hot but obviouly the readers (mostly female I assume) did not agree because it received much lower ratings than my other stories. That being said, one of my highest rated stories was partly written as a school girl's diary..."The Cheerleader's Diary"... but it may have been largely male votes although not entirely based on feedback. I've concluded that men can write from a woman's perspective about wild and out of control sex because many women have these fantasies, but not very well about what they are thinking or feeling.

 

[RonClarkeson]

Try my Master/Slave stories

Men trying to get inside the head of a female. Isn't that what men have been trying to do since the dawn of time. If any of you figure it out let my husband know.

And conversely, if any of you women can figure men out, PLEASE let me know.

I always use to think that us women were vain, but I am really beginning to rethink that. Tell me how many commercials are now centered on a man's personal image. Not even taking in the Viagra and Cialis ads, just the hair coloring, the skin moisturizers.

Writing as the opposite sex, my suggestion if you are going to take the role of a woman when you write, get a female editor. Especially if this is your first time. And please let me know if any of you figure out this age old quest.

This topic fasinates me. I am trying to write a story in companion chapters from both POV's. The same action but very different adgendas and POV's and I was suprised how hard it was. I found I needed a female editor to do it justice. More chapters soon.

 

[Otto26]

Men trying to get inside the head of a female. Isn't that what men have been trying to do since the dawn of time.

Women's minds are not what men have been trying to get into.

I agree that writing from the perspective of the opposite sex is very difficult. I try to have women proof-read my work when I'm doing that.

 

[TxRad]

I've never found it to difficult to write from the female perspective.

Of course being as old as the hills gives me a head start on observation, experience and having nothing to lose on asking silly questions... sometimes I even got answers....

an older woman in my far dim past was very good to me and explained a lot of things in great detail, as well as using show and tell to a whole new level. I have a lot to thank her for and always will...

 

[HappilyM]

Women's minds are not what men have been trying to get into.

I knew that. Okay, I was helping a young man out with a story he had started. He was writing from the position of a thiry-something woman. I liked his story idea, he just was not sure how women react and view themselves. Each woman views themselves differently. Someone said that women take time to think about what they are going to wear.

I shattered the female mode, no I am not a femist. But I find perfume smells, make-up is a waste of perfectly good money and time. Although for weddings I do wear make-up. My hair is wash and wear. Heck I don't even own a blow-drier and I am not sure I really know what a curling iron is.

So, what is my point. I don't know, we are all different. Question, did you model your female lead on someone you know, or someone you want to know. If let's say it is your girlfriend, have her read it and offer suggestions. One female editor may not think like your character, and therefore does not make that character shine. I know I am rambling, forgive me.

 

[smotp]

I'm trying to get at the physical not the emotional or intellectual.

As a guy I know what it feel like to make love to a woman, the sensations and the drives but it is a penetrative feeling; what is that opening up feeling like for a woman? is it sensuous or frightening or does it taste like liquorice?

I know we could go off at tangents here regarding gay sex but I'd like to stick on the topic if poss.

Allowing someone into your body is way different to entering another person. A guy has that urge to thrust and clench his buttocks to reach bottom, but what do women have as physical urges during the act?

Come on ladies stop having a bash at us guys and open up I'm curious!

 

[HappilyM]

I am sorry

See next post

 

[HappilyM]

I am sorry

But for each woman it is different. I need a lot of clit stimulation to achieve an orgasm. I like a lot of play first, and me on top is better, ie. I can direct the clit stimulant. Also I love my tits, sucked, nibbled, pinched.

The feeling is like a wave, it slowly builds and builds. I feel it from my toes to my tits. THe harder I am played with the stronger the wave is. It is almost like a spark of energy that snaps throughout my body. When I finally let go, it is an explosion. My whole body contracts with explosive energy, then releases expodentially. Deep and hard, with lots of nipple play sets my body off quicker than anything else.

Then I can have a g-spot orgasm, the internal little spot that some people says doesn't exist, well it does on my body. I don't know where exactly it is, but a finger or the head of a penis, shorter storkes, unless you are hung like a baby, are best. This can be intense - I am sorry - the wave analogy, but if constantly hit with varing pressure can create the multiple orgasm. I don't know if that is what you are looking for. I hate to think I just wrote all of my secrets and it did not help you.

 

[elfin_odalisque]

I've never found it to difficult to write from the female perspective.

Of course being as old as the hills gives me a head start on observation, experience and having nothing to lose on asking silly questions... sometimes I even got answers....

an older woman in my far dim past was very good to me and explained a lot of things in great detail, as well as using show and tell to a whole new level. I have a lot to thank her for and always will...

'S'why I like you.

 

[TxRad]

'S'why I like you.

Uh....... Thank you.....

 

[nici]

I try meditating, thinking about the aura and person I am writing about. I also read lots of other writer’s works. If I want to write about a male, I look for stories from male writers, I look for real person examples.

Problem is, I haven’t been very successful. Critics have said my male characters suck. Every time I write about a male in an emotional situation, critics say that they’re at best butch females or femme males.

Composing the character of a heterosexual male is very hard to do. On the one side they are very sensitive and complex. Yet, on the other side they follow some strict but unwritten code of behavior. They all proclaim to be very simple, but that’s not the truth.

I’d like to portray the full emotions of a male character who is at the same time very heterosexually strong man type male… yet a male with depth.

 

[slyc_willie]

I've written quite a few stories from a woman's POV, and they've been well-received. I'll never claim to know exactly how a woman thinks, but I'm an observant person and I've watched how women act. I extrapolate their thoughts from there.

 

[KinkySecret]

I have recently posted a short story in the Story Ideas section which I wrote from a female point of view. Please go have a read and let me know what you think and if I need to change anything.

 

[Foxee Browne]

I have writen from both male and female POV and most of them have been well recieved, Anon even mistook me for a guy in the feedback section of one story.

 

[smotp]

Can I go back to the dressing up thing?

Ok so women dress to please themselves not in competition to look more attractive to men than the other woman. Is that really true?

Do women really enjoy spike heel and lowrider short skirts with bare midriffs that must freeze their butts off rather than comfy warm sweaters and pants?

Surely women dress with a sense of the erotic. The effect their clothes have on men, the attention they get for example if they have great breasts and show them off. Is there an emotional charge in there or do women enjoy looking at womens bodies including their own.

Is it the primal thing of attracting a virile mate?

Discuss.

 

[BedtimeStories77]

I have recently posted a short story in the Story Ideas section which I wrote from a female point of view. Please go have a read and let me know what you think and if I need to change anything.

The Story Ideas board is not the place for people to "submit" stories to the site. Nor is this board a place where you post and say "go read my other post and send feedback".

 

[Harryin VA]

the your meditation has failed.

You get men as well as Bush knows what is going on in Iraq.

I am glad you see that that You dont get men

HINT read any of the SPENSER FOR HIRE detective novels... by Robert B Parker. ... over 25 novels now...

There is a strong Hetro male that reads Isben... knows of spinoza and will break your nose and both of your arms if you hurt his long time love Dr Susan silverman who teaches at haVard .... yes she is more educated than he is and makes far more $$ than he does

I try meditating, thinking about the aura and person I am writing about. I also read lots of other writer’s works. If I want to write about a male, I look for stories from male writers, I look for real person examples.

Problem is, I haven’t been very successful. Critics have said my male characters suck. Every time I write about a male in an emotional situation, critics say that they’re at best butch females or femme males.

Composing the character of a heterosexual male is very hard to do. On the one side they are very sensitive and complex. Yet, on the other side they follow some strict but unwritten code of behavior. They all proclaim to be very simple, but that’s not the truth.

I’d like to portray the full emotions of a male character who is at the same time very heterosexually strong man type male… yet a male with depth.