amicus
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From the guy side of the world, I pretty much know, or have learned when a woman wants to be kissed or will accept a kiss. I know where I will place my hands on her back or shouldersor arms, just how close to stand, how to turn my face to avoid a nose collision and thus I can write those scenes and feel somewhat secure in my knowledge that I portray the thoughts, feelings and actions, from the male side, fairly accurately.
I was back and forth between a football game and Natalie Portman as Nova Lee and the Walmart baby thing, and towards the end of the movie there was a kiss in the offing and I thought about a kiss from a woman’s point of view.
Just as I have been visiting porn sites to watch facial expressions and sounds of women during intercourse, I also watch chic flic’s for the same reason, to observe, from afar, the mechanics of romance and love and all that stuff.
I think I have a fairly good imagination and even though JBJ disagrees, even a sense of empathy with the female creature and how she thinks and feels; but of course, I cannot ‘know’ that.
So much goes into the preliminaries or (old song) Prelude to a Kiss, such as, the guy is usually, not always, but usually somewhat taller than the gal. That means her face is going to be tilted to present her lips and she may even be on the balls of her feet or tiptoes, and perhaps a little unbalanced.
Then there is the matter of her hands…does she think about where she places them or is it reflex or habit? Does she rest them gently around his waist and if so, what do her fingers do, anything? Does she use her hands, perhaps to hold him slightly at bay, to control the closeness or the degree of touching bodies?
Or, her hands could be on his forearms, tightly or loosely, which would either mean; or on his arms above the elbow and why the difference and what might that mean?
Or as in dancing her hands could be on his shoulders or even behind his neck or in his hair at the back of his head, in each case, if so, why? And it is a conscious choice or a matter of habit or it just happens without direction because of desire or early arousal?
Of course I can imagine or create the scenario to suit my characters and perhaps the motivations I provide, if telling the story from the female pov, and hope they are accurate, real and relevant, but then, as a guy, I will never know for sure.
I wondered, when I began crafting my very first attempt at writing from a woman’s viewpoint of just why I felt compelled to do so…still not sure, except that since it is naturally alien to me as a man, I am curious and perhaps a little mystified as to how a woman thinks and feels.
I guess I really don’t have a specific question but I would appreciate any thoughts you may have.
Amicus…
I was back and forth between a football game and Natalie Portman as Nova Lee and the Walmart baby thing, and towards the end of the movie there was a kiss in the offing and I thought about a kiss from a woman’s point of view.
Just as I have been visiting porn sites to watch facial expressions and sounds of women during intercourse, I also watch chic flic’s for the same reason, to observe, from afar, the mechanics of romance and love and all that stuff.
I think I have a fairly good imagination and even though JBJ disagrees, even a sense of empathy with the female creature and how she thinks and feels; but of course, I cannot ‘know’ that.
So much goes into the preliminaries or (old song) Prelude to a Kiss, such as, the guy is usually, not always, but usually somewhat taller than the gal. That means her face is going to be tilted to present her lips and she may even be on the balls of her feet or tiptoes, and perhaps a little unbalanced.
Then there is the matter of her hands…does she think about where she places them or is it reflex or habit? Does she rest them gently around his waist and if so, what do her fingers do, anything? Does she use her hands, perhaps to hold him slightly at bay, to control the closeness or the degree of touching bodies?
Or, her hands could be on his forearms, tightly or loosely, which would either mean; or on his arms above the elbow and why the difference and what might that mean?
Or as in dancing her hands could be on his shoulders or even behind his neck or in his hair at the back of his head, in each case, if so, why? And it is a conscious choice or a matter of habit or it just happens without direction because of desire or early arousal?
Of course I can imagine or create the scenario to suit my characters and perhaps the motivations I provide, if telling the story from the female pov, and hope they are accurate, real and relevant, but then, as a guy, I will never know for sure.
I wondered, when I began crafting my very first attempt at writing from a woman’s viewpoint of just why I felt compelled to do so…still not sure, except that since it is naturally alien to me as a man, I am curious and perhaps a little mystified as to how a woman thinks and feels.
I guess I really don’t have a specific question but I would appreciate any thoughts you may have.
Amicus…
