Would you rather...

[Guest]

be ignored or have someone tell you they dislike you?

My friend rather live in denial. She claims she's happier living in her own world.
I'm a masochist and yearn for truth. It bothers me if I'm disliked. But, I'd like to, at least, know where I stand.

What about you? Know or not know?

 

[Summery]

I would much rather know why someone disliked me. Nothing will make me more irritated than to simply be ignored. I hate silence, just give me the truth, even if it hurts.

 

[MorgaineLaFay]

I gotta know where I stand. Always. When I don't, I am a crazy woman. It just breaks me apart.

 

[LukkyKnight]

I hate not knowing. Reality is. Tell me, and let me move forward.

 

[Guest]

I thought maybe I was crazy! But, now I see I'm in good company.
Just friggin tell me! Apathy drives me insane.
My friend doesn't worry one second about being ignored or being disliked. I don't know how she does it.

 

[april-wine]

Ok I'm gonna come clean right this second.......................































Ya know I really dig ya girl............

 

[Guest]

See!
Now, I feel much better.

 

[LukkyKnight]

I thought maybe I was crazy! But, now I see I'm in good company.

The best

 

[cybergirly]

It doesn't bother me if someone dislikes me, but I want to know that they do.

 

[Guest]

So true, LK.

 

[cutie pie]

I lived in denial for many years. Reality, rocky though it may be, is a much nicer place.

 

[april-wine]

See!
Now, I feel much better.

Wow and so do I.................

So glad I unloaded that........

 

[LukkyKnight]

So, a mutual agreement here... who's got the wine, this calls for a toast to honesty!

 

[Guest]

Cybergirly do you feel it? Or do you come right out and ask? My intuition is pretty good. I can feel it when someone doesn't care for me, or is bothered, etc. I feel silly asking over and over, "Do you dislike me for some reason?" or "Have I done something wrong?"
I feel like such an insecure ass.
What can a person do?

 

[Guest]

April has the wine. I need lots of toasts. Then, I won't care so much about honesty. Heh.

 

[OpposingBalance]

I would much rather have someone tell me to my face that they dislike me, rather than have them ignore me.

Be real. If you have a problem with me, let me know about it. Don't be a pansy and hide it.

 

[cutie pie]

How's this?

http://www.lyricopera.org/Season/Special/img/wine.jpg

 

[cybergirly]

Cybergirlydo you feel it or come right our and ask? My intuition is pretty good. I can feel it when someone doesn't care for me, or is bothered, etc. I feel silly asking over and over, "Do you dislike me for some reason?" or "Have I done something wrong?"
I feel like such an insecure ass.
What can a person do?

Both if I feel someone doesn't like me or is upset with me for some reason, I'll ask. If they deny it, then I'll try and be nice for a while. If I still feel they don't like me then I simply treat them as they treat me. If they're civil, I'll be civil in return. If they ignore me, I'll ignore them. Life is to short to worry about personality clashes.

edited: cause I'm an idiot

 

[Guest]

Cutie Pie, I agree. But, I do have to wonder. She seems much more carefree than I.

Opposing Balance, I feel the same way.



Oh, I'll take one bottle to myself!

 

[april-wine]

April has the wine. I need lots of toasts. Then, I won't care so much about honesty. Heh.

Red or White darlin'?

 

[Guest]

Life is to short to worry about personality clashes.

You're right. I know it. Keep reminding me, please.

 

[Wiggles]

It all comes out the same anyway. I would rather just co-exist. You don't have to like me, I don't have to like you, we can just work around each other.

Not everyone's going to like me, and it would drive me nuts trying to please everyone. And if I'm not trying to please them, why would I care what their reason for disliking me was?

 

[cybergirly]

You're right. I know it. Keep reminding me, please.

You've got it, and remember it's not you...it's them

 

[LukkyKnight]

Red. Lots of red, please. It's a red night.

 

[lisalove]

I'm not that interested in knowing why unless it's someone very close to me. I am very perceptive and even the slightest indication that a person dislikes me or is ignoring me prompts me to slink away gracefully.