Would you give up Sex for True Love?

[Prince Romeo]

If you had the option to choose that you were someone's one and only, but the price of accepting that choice, was that you would never be able to have sex with that person, would you do it and why?

 

[roxanne69]

Yes I definitely would. Why? True love goes so much deeper and is so much more fulfilling than sex. Both together is the ultimate but spiritual love, a true human bonding is worth giving up almost anything for.

 

[Violette]

Does Oral sex count?

Okay, seriously, I couldn't do it. This person's my "one and only", yet his (or her) most intimate expression of that fact are kept away from me? It sounds too much like cruel and unusual punishment to me...

 

[Prince Romeo]

It sounds like it would be a lot to ask doesn't it. But it is happening as we speak - in a sense. Anyone in an LDR can speak to this fact. Could true love be enough to fulfill you?

 

[sortacurious]

Absolutely.

It wouldn't be easy, but true love is definitely worth it!

 

[MissTaken]

I would make the trade.

I have made the trade for less than true love.

When only the potential of true heartship exists.

 

[Georgia Girl]

Yes I would but then its all in how you look at it.

You don't have to have intercourse to make love, you don't have to touch, you don't even have to be in the same state. As so many have said, the mind is the largest sex organ, it is where an orgasm and love starts.

Sometimes I wonder if so many would not be better off if they could stop placing the highest portion of the value of a relationship on the sexual aspect of it and just accept the simplicity of being able to be still and quiet in a room with someone and be comfortable and secure in the knowledge that you are wanted, loved, desired and needed. The comfort of that knowledge, to me, is more important than my ability to give you an orgasm that makes your legs shake.

 

[kikmosa]

I would choose true love every time. Love is rare and elusive and I would go without happily if I could just find it.

(Of course that's not a big sacrifice right now since I've only had sex once in the last four years, lol.)

 

[IrishWolfhound]

I would give up sex. But I would have a very hard time giving up touching and holding. To not have the feel of the one you love being close to you in the night is something I accept with great reluctance.

But even that I accept, to keep the love of my heart.

 

[whspr]

A true love doesn't come along everyday. When you find it, letting it pass by would be a huge mistake. I could do without the sex if I had my man beside me. GG is right. There are many ways to have satisfaction. Being in a LDR ...you find that out. Yes, I crave and lust for my man but having his love , such a true and wonderful love, is more than I could have asked for.

whspr

 

[CatEyes]

Wow, that's a tough question. It's easy to say yes...absolutely.....but 5 or 10 years down the road would it still be enough? I don't know. How many LDR's really last that long? how many people out there are unhappy in their marriage because the sex life is gone even though they may still love their spouses. Realistically I'd have to say no. It's nice to think it would be enough but I don't really believe it would be in the long run.

CatEyes

 

[Prince Romeo]

Everyone, these are some incredible answers.


IrishWolfHound said:

"But I would have a very hard time giving up touching and holding."

That would be hard for me as well. I'm a very physical person. Maybe being breastfed as a child, has something to do with it .

I love to cuddle, to hug and hold. I don't know how I would fill that void.

 

[MissTaken]

But who said that cuddling adn touching were part of the sex that must be giving up?

Sometimes a tone of voice, a statement or innuendo made in post or message is akin to a cuddle.

I know.
It isn't exactly the same, but....

 

[IrishWolfhound]

But who said that cuddling adn touching were part of the sex that must be giving up?

Sometimes a tone of voice, a statement or innuendo made in post or message is akin to a cuddle.

I know.
It isn't exactly the same, but....

I have felt the warmth of those verbal cuddles, Miss, and they are nice.

But they leave me hungry for a touch I cannot have.

 

[English Lady]

I personally feel that true love has to have some kind of sexual element to it. It is the most intimate way to show someone you love them and to not have that element leaves a relationship lacking. that is in my mind anyway.

I think i could do without intercourse quite easily but there is nothing like being aroused and satisfied by a partner and i think love without that would soon become stale.

 

[bluemuse]

I would give up sex to be with my one true love, my soul mate. Would I miss it? Of course! But if we could still hold eachother...and if we could still kiss....I could do it.

 

[BlueDaisy]

how many people out there are unhappy in their marriage because the sex life is gone even though they may still love their spouses....It's nice to think it would be enough but I don't really believe it would be in the long run.

CatEyes

CatEyes, please forgive me for using your quote sort of out of context, but what you wrote in those words that I retained from your quote, are exactly what I am going through in my life.

I'm married, but I can not say happily so, because the romance and sex (even the majority of the just plain intimacy) is gone; (hubby isn't interested anymore because I've become a BBW over the years, plus meds that have killed his libido). At times he will cuddle up to me in bed at night, but that is about as far as it goes. And just knowing how he feels about me has just about killed my interest in intimacy with him. Yes, I know he feels this way and no I'm not just imagining it; he has said so.

I'm very tempted to cheat, but so far the reminder of my wedding vows has kept me from straying, and I love him deep down. Besides...I keep thinking that if my own husband isn't interested in me physically, no one else would be. I guess that is a good thought, as it helps keep me home.

So...would I give up sex for true love. I guess I have already done so.

 

[deyv]

I personally feel that true love has to have some kind of sexual element to it. It is the most intimate way to show someone you love them and to not have that element leaves a relationship lacking. that is in my mind anyway.

I agree with English Lady on this point.

And personally I can't grasp the concept of having a soulmate, or a true love who didn't share my appetite for sensual pleasure.

 

[Prince Romeo]

Have you ever been in the position where you had a love for a person that you knew could never be returned? It could be that person is a friend or someone you know from a distance or even that you are both in situations that will not allow you to be together. So what does that leave you with?

It leaves you with desire, frustration, loneliness... But you still have the thought of knowing what could be, you still have your fantasies. Is that enough? There's really no choice here - it has to be.

 

[lost]

If you had the option to choose that you were someone's one and only, but the price of accepting that choice, was that you would never be able to have sex with that person, would you do it and why?

Yes i'd give up sex w/o a doubt for true love. Why not, sex is only a small part of what is me.

 

[Batch]

If you had the option to choose that you were someone's one and only, but the price of accepting that choice, was that you would never be able to have sex with that person, would you do it and why?

well


hell


I would have to try them out first to see if they were worth giving up sex for.

just to be sure

ya know?

 

[Guest]

Want to have your cake and eat it, too, do you?

 

[Prince Romeo]

Hi lost. Nice to see you again.

 

[Prince Romeo]

BlueDaisy, i wish there was something i could do for you. Your thoughts were very touching.

 

[Batch]

Want to have your cake and eat it, too, do you?

it is the only way


to be sure
grin
and a little oral pleasure is also in order too
eating cake
or something else