would you consider this stalking? I need to know

[Maria2394]

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[champagne1982]

I think that you have a case to present to the FBI as far as the stalking thing goes. Yes, those identities are cancelled from any account you have control of, but I'm sure they are still a form of on line alias and no one should be able to use them for purposes of harassment and abuse.

The behaviour is bullying at the least, harassment at the median level but is also the precursor to assault and stalking. Next time you email the managers at yahoo! simply inform them that you'll be presenting this situation and this individual to the FBI, online fraud and stalking division...

As far as evil fun goes, I don't think I have a normal enough sense of humour at the moment to glean enough glee from messin' with the idjit.

Best of luck even so.

 

[Senna Jawa]

I knew a man online, VERY intimately, for 7 years, then we had a falling out. Since then, I deleted several YAhoo ID's and he has since taken them.

One last year, and 2 since I was offline from June 19 of this year to just 2 weeks ago.

The names he took are--

Maria2394
Maria_2394
ncc1123

What a low nothing that guy is. He is certainly 1.harassing you, 2.impersonating.

You need to clearly define what you are willing to give up, and what are the things worthwhile to fight for. You may later change your opinion/attitude/goals somewhat, when you learn more about say the legal aspects, or even when you learn yourself better.

You may try to contact the administrators on his server.

To me it's an ugly crime when someone causes you to waste time and emotional energy.

Try to limit the damage. Certain things one has to lose, it's unavoidable, like in the case of any other thoughtless, stupid disasters like fire, hurricane, etc. Stupid, mean people are like this. They may lack wisdom, but they still can be clever and they sure can cause damages. They won't construct anything, but they can destroy a lot.

If it is possible for you to go openly under your (legal) name then collect all your poems under your name , on an Internet site and/or in print. At least you will have your poems.

You may contact a lawyer too. Some of them will not charge you, You may also ask questions on Internet law discussion groups.

My own first advice is: ignore him in public and privately completely, do not acknowledge his miserable existence (do not ever mention his name, don't identify him publically, don't have any more email exchanges with him...)

These are my chaotic, instant reactions. Possibly naive. Others may be wiser.

Best regards, Maria,

 

[Maria2394]

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[sophieloves]

if you have a list of contacts you had under those usernames, i'd contact them too, letting them know you were no longer using those id's and that someone else was playing at being you.

 

[WickedEve]

Good grief, I'd be more worried about the guy showing up where you live. He sounds likes he's obsessed with you.

Take care!
love,
eve

 

[Angeline]

if you have a list of contacts you had under those usernames, i'd contact them too, letting them know you were no longer using those id's and that someone else was playing at being you.

That's good advice.

Julie, I never talked to you at Yahoo under that name, but I might think it was you if the person contacted me.

Do you have any personal info on this guy? I was being stalked here a few years back by a guy who was pretending to be someone else and talking to my friends, trying to get personal info about me (like my address). Scary, huh? I knew his real name and the sort of work he did (the jerk told me in his many harrangues of me), so I did a little research online and found his address, his wife's name, etc. When I ley him know I was about to contact his wife and his employer to tell them he was harrassing me, he backed right off. Might be worth a try.

 

[annaswirls]

I am sorry you are going through this Maria. I honestly do not know what I would DO if this specifically happened to me, but I know I would feel just like you are feeling. I am not sure if you actually have a legal case for stalking or not. I bet he has done more than this, but if you do not have proof of it, or if he has not made threats, etc. then it would be tough to show harm. I wonder what his intent was? Kind of like wearing an ex-lover's shirt to try to relive them? Or something sinister? To annoy or threaten you? Ick. Unfortunately, it seems like people can get away with a lot before anything can be done. I am glad he is not driving past your house or following you in the produce aisle....

You got some great advice here from people who are much wiser than me, definately let people know (like you are!) that they are no longer your names. I also wanted to add my support. I personally would be careful, though about threatening to tell his work and wife, etc. that he is stalking you. That might work with certain people, but it might piss him off and inspire him to do something really evil, I only know a little about this guy, but he has done stuff like this in the past too, dang, how DOES one make a clean break? Someone should write a book of instructions. How to let go gracefully. I will buy him a copy

 

[Angeline]

I am sorry you are going through this Maria. I honestly do not know what I would DO if this specifically happened to me, but I know I would feel just like you are feeling. I am not sure if you actually have a legal case for stalking or not. I bet he has done more than this, but if you do not have proof of it, or if he has not made threats, etc. then it would be tough to show harm. I wonder what his intent was? Kind of like wearing an ex-lover's shirt to try to relive them? Or something sinister? To annoy or threaten you? Ick. Unfortunately, it seems like people can get away with a lot before anything can be done. I am glad he is not driving past your house or following you in the produce aisle....

You got some great advice here from people who are much wiser than me, definately let people know (like you are!) that they are no longer your names. I also wanted to add my support. I personally would be careful, though about threatening to tell his work and wife, etc. that he is stalking you. That might work with certain people, but it might piss him off and inspire him to do something really evil, I only know a little about this guy, but he has done stuff like this in the past too, dang, how DOES one make a clean break? Someone should write a book of instructions. How to let go gracefully. I will buy him a copy

Some people are not ultimately nice and reasonable. Some people only understand counter threats, J. The guy I dealt with was like that. In fact, the person who told him he'd reveal this info to his wife and employer wasn't actually me, but a detective friend of mine who recommended it.

I don't know if Maria's stalker is the same kind of person. Everyone is different, no? This guy was trying to find out my address and asking people about my kids. I wasn't about to just leave him to his devices.

 

[annaswirls]

Some people are not ultimately nice and reasonable. Some people only understand counter threats, J. The guy I dealt with was like that. In fact, the person who told him he'd reveal this info to his wife and employer wasn't actually me, but a detective friend of mine who recommended it.

I don't know if Maria's stalker is the same kind of person. Everyone is different, no? This guy was trying to find out my address and asking people about my kids. I wasn't about to just leave him to his devices.

I agree, Angeline, if my family was threatened, I would play any game I had to, I was only saying that if this guy had not "gone there" with threats, I would not want to be the one to escalate.

 

[Angeline]

I agree, Angeline, if my family was threatened, I would play any game I had to, I was only saying that if this guy had not "gone there" with threats, I would not want to be the one to escalate.

Yes, so we agree. Like we usually do after we explain ourselves.

I'm pretty sure I know who Julie is talking about. Anyway, she'll figure out how best to handle it. She's a smart, resourceful woman.

 

[Maria2394]

Thanks to everyone.

 

[Guest]

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[somberReality]

I would say it's stalking and i think it's illegal to take id's. Have you contacted yahoo about this?

 

[Angeline]

Thanks to everyone. It has been an awful night.

I don't know what to do. So I am doing nothing. This person is the sort that the mental, emotional distress is enough for him, right now and probably will be for a while. That is what he was all about from the beginning, the getting inside someone's head.

I know he is a trucker, lives in Bradenton Florida, his name is Rick. He is married, has 2 kids.I have his IP address and let him know, so maybe he will stop, or at least not do anything else.

I appreciate your concern, but I have another alt I like touse here, so those hwo know my birth name, please dont post it on any of these threads in relationship to this name. I dont wnat him to be able to run me away from here, in fact that will NOThappen.

I used to love him, now it is close to becoming hatred. BUt I wont let him do THAT to me either. I have no room for hate in my heart, but right now, there sure is a lot of fear and hurt

thanks again

Don't let him bully you, sis. Make it clear to him that you won't take mistreatment. You have plenty of options and internet stalking is a federal crime.

 

[Liar]

Got nothing more than sympathies to add.

 

[Maria2394]

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[annaswirls]

You do not deserve any of this, don't let him win by believing that you do, I tried to PM you that but it would not go through, sorry it had to go into the public realm. I did not need proof for myself, I trust your intuition of course, I was trying to help see if you had a case for stalking.

Best of luck, best of everything....

 

[Maria2394]

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[FifthFlower]

I know he is a trucker, lives in Bradenton Florida, his name is Rick. He is married, has 2 kids.I have his IP address and let him know, so maybe he will stop, or at least not do anything else.

Are you stalking him?

 

[TMV]

You don't need proof, you're the victim.....

It is a clear cut case of Identity theft. Even thought there is no pilfering of your valuables and credit. It is an attempt to ruin your reputation through net access. Therefore you have net-fraud as well. The fact that he is going around and searching for your former tags, proves intent to assault you through the internet. And it's not all that far from posing as you and slipping into pay-site accounts and thus, ruining your credit. The FBI understand more about the possible issues here than any foofer-rah business that works through the internet. It is proof that he is hacking into your accounts. If not there, then he might be hacking into your computer.

My nephew had an account and job as well as a great reputation on 3d Commune. Then this guy from out of nowhere, destroys all of his pictures, comments on the site as him and making him look vicious, and entirely ruined him on site and in his private life. The 3D Commune people contacted the FBI and they found out this fellow has done this quite a few times before. So they did everything they could to track his address (he used false addresses through which he did his dirty work) and when they found him, he apologized and promised to never attack anyone on line again. As it was his possible third strike.

The thing is..., that he knows he can't do it again as the FBI will keep an eye on him and his computer activities from now on. Counting him as a possible terrorist if he becomes compromised by the wrong type of people. What he is doing, is understood by the FBI as a terrorist activity. And who knows, what if he isn't American? This is serious to the FBI. They can't allow this type of activity because he only gets worse from here on. It has to be shut-down. It is Identity theft! No ifs, ands or buts!

Buckle up and report him! He will only get worse and more devious!

 

[Maria2394]

Are you stalking him?

FF, I apologize. The stress is getting to me. If you knew me, you would know how wrong that assumption is. I don't have any desire for contact with anyone who would cause anothert human such distress. okay? No, I am not stalking him. contact him yourself, and ask him, if you like....just be careful, he is one of the most cunning people I have ever known....

 

[Eluard]

It is a clear cut case of Identity theft. Even thought there is no pilfering of your valuables and credit. It is an attempt to ruin your reputation through net access. Therefore you have net-fraud as well. The fact that he is going around and searching for your former tags, proves intent to assault you through the internet. And it's not all that far from posing as you and slipping into pay-site accounts and thus, ruining your credit. The FBI understand more about the possible issues here than any foofer-rah business that works through the internet. It is proof that he is hacking into your accounts. If not there, then he might be hacking into your computer.

My nephew had an account and job as well as a great reputation on 3d Commune. Then this guy from out of nowhere, destroys all of his pictures, comments on the site as him and making him look vicious, and entirely ruined him on site and in his private life. The 3D Commune people contacted the FBI and they found out this fellow has done this quite a few times before. So they did everything they could to track his address (he used false addresses through which he did his dirty work) and when they found him, he apologized and promised to never attack anyone on line again. As it was his possible third strike.

The thing is..., that he knows he can't do it again as the FBI will keep an eye on him and his computer activities from now on. Counting him as a possible terrorist if he becomes compromised by the wrong type of people. What he is doing, is understood by the FBI as a terrorist activity. And who knows, what if he isn't American? This is serious to the FBI. They can't allow this type of activity because he only gets worse from here on. It has to be shut-down. It is Identity theft! No ifs, ands or buts!

Buckle up and report him! He will only get worse and more devious!

A very good, useful comment here. I agree — go to the FBI. In my experience stalkers aways ratchet-up the threat if it's ignored.

 

[Maria2394]

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