Worst Sex Experience

[FFOTS4Life]

I don't know if their is a thread like this on here or not already but I had to get my this off my chest after my run in with my ex today.

SO my ex. was the first person I ever had sex with. After the first few times I still hadn't had an orgasm. When I mentioned it to him he said he would try some new things. The next time we had sex he did nothing new but got his kicks. As soon as he was done I said something about it and he responded snidely "I got off...you will just have to take care of yourself later." Jackass! (This was back in the day when I stuck to the fundamentals of sex lol)

Anyway I guess I should thank him...I did take care of myself later and it opened up a whole new world for me...haha the kinky person inside of me was just dying to get out.

Have you ever had a bad sex experience? Was it because of who you were with?

Did you fix things with that person and that made the sex more enjoyable...because as much as I hate his guts I am finding myself incredibly attracted to my ex.

I also have heard he has gotten more experince...hmm...what do you think?

 

[the_mgp]

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[VelvetDarkness]

I think women make a huge mistake when they expect a man to know their body better than they do and how to fire it up. First time sex experiences are often a little clumsy and disappointing, especially if the guy is inexperienced.

SO my ex. was the first person I ever had sex with. After the first few times I still hadn't had an orgasm. When I mentioned it to him he said he would try some new things. The next time we had sex he did nothing new but got his kicks. As soon as he was done I said something about it and he responded snidely "I got off...you will just have to take care of yourself later." Jackass! (This was back in the day when I stuck to the fundamentals of sex lol)

Well doesn't he just sound like a little ray of sunshine? Why do you want to have sex with a guy who is so selfish in bed? If this is his attitude, I think it unlikely you'll have a better experience the second time around.

Am I to understand that you hadn't masturbated before? If not then I would advise you to keep practising and find out what makes you hot - not just your clit but other erogenous zones too.

I also have heard he has gotten more experince...hmm...what do you think?

Honestly? I think that jackasses don't change their spots while they're still getting laid. It'll take the collective feedback of a few dissatisfied women before he bothers taking more time with foreplay and so on. Young men are generally playing the field and out for what they can get these days. My advice would be to find a guy who wants to please you and is seeking a relationship rather than a quick fuck.

Have you ever had a bad sex experience? Was it because of who you were with?

More through my own inexperience I think. It's just not constructive to blame a guy for not pleasing you. Accept that this guy was an asshat and tell yourself that you'll make a better choice the next time and then you'll feel secure enough to be more adventurous.

Sorry to be so negative.

 

[FFOTS4Life]

I think women make a huge mistake when they expect a man to know their body better than they do and how to fire it up. First time sex experiences are often a little clumsy and disappointing, especially if the guy is inexperienced.



Well doesn't he just sound like a little ray of sunshine? Why do you want to have sex with a guy who is so selfish in bed? If this is his attitude, I think it unlikely you'll have a better experience the second time around.

Am I to understand that you hadn't masturbated before? If not then I would advise you to keep practising and find out what makes you hot - not just your clit but other erogenous zones too.



Honestly? I think that jackasses don't change their spots while they're still getting laid. It'll take the collective feedback of a few dissatisfied women before he bothers taking more time with foreplay and so on. Young men are generally playing the field and out for what they can get these days. My advice would be to find a guy who wants to please you and is seeking a relationship rather than a quick fuck.



More through my own inexperience I think. It's just not constructive to blame a guy for not pleasing you. Accept that this guy was an asshat and tell yourself that you'll make a better choice the next time and then you'll feel secure enough to be more adventurous.

Sorry to be so negative.

Not negative at all...Thanks for responding. You are absolutely right. I shouldn't want to be with him and I know he hasn't changed...there is just something comforting about being with him (I don't mean sexually) because he is familiar. You are right though.

Oh and I had masturbated before...just wanted a little more than what I usually did after the disappointing experience that was my ex...that is when I went off on a search...and well the rest is history. (This was back when I still played the innocent card...I had no idea about being kinky - or how much fun it is )

I will take your advice... Thanks - FFOTS4Life

 

[FFOTS4Life]

It's kinda funny, the two worst sexual encounters I've had involve the guy who had the smallest dick, and the guy who had the biggest.

The one with the smallest, well.. I just couldn't feel very much and it lasted all of about thirty seconds. The one with the biggest was totally enamoured with how big he believed his dick was and as a result, had no bloody idea what to do with it. He also lasted about thirty seconds. The size didn't hurt me or anything, he was just really boring in the sack.

That is funny...do you find that is true about guys with big dicks? My friend and I were talking about that. She was disappointed after having sex w/ a guy with a big dick much for the same reason as you...he didn't really seem to know what to do with it.

 

[SweetErika]

That is funny...do you find that is true about guys with big dicks? My friend and I were talking about that. She was disappointed after having sex w/ a guy with a big dick much for the same reason as you...he didn't really seem to know what to do with it.

I've had great lovers of all sizes. Some of the best have been smaller; I think they did their best to make up for their perceived cock inadequacy by being really attentive, eager to please and caring lovers. A small cock can certainly work against a guy too, though - sometimes it becomes such a source of fear and low self-esteem that the guy's distracted or lacks confidence to the point where he's lousy in bed.

In my experience, larger guys can be overconfident and cock-focused. If I wanted a cock, instead of a male partner who wanted to explore with, and please all of, me, I'd stock up on dildos.

I certainly don't think one can accurately judge the quality of a male lover based on the size of his cock, though. Maybe size queens can, but from what I've observed, most of the women who only/mainly care about size are inexperienced or unfamiliar with great sex, anyway.


My worst experiences have been with men who focused on intercourse and didn't really respond to my feedback. Those have been very few and far between, but I also haven't had that many partners, and I get to know the ones I do have well. My first time was actually fantastic, so I don't even have a bad story to tell with that one.

 

[the_mgp]

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[Bokimbol]

My Gf likes several postions and she really likes to be pounded just before she cums. So one day, she is on the edge of the couch with her ass hanging over the edge and I'm given it to her as hard as I can. I guess in my excitment somewhere along the line, I thought my 7" cock was 8". I pulled out a little to far and rammed it home. I hit nothing but taint dead straight ahead and bent my dick to the point of almost snapping. Boy did I scream. After a day or two puss started to leak out. Every time I even looked at her pussy I went limp. So after like 2 weeks I was just about to call the doctor and as usual everything cleared up. No more sex on the couch while shes on her back though. LOL.

 

[ownedsubgal]

I don't know if their is a thread like this on here or not already but I had to get my this off my chest after my run in with my ex today.

SO my ex. was the first person I ever had sex with. After the first few times I still hadn't had an orgasm. When I mentioned it to him he said he would try some new things. The next time we had sex he did nothing new but got his kicks. As soon as he was done I said something about it and he responded snidely "I got off...you will just have to take care of yourself later." Jackass! (This was back in the day when I stuck to the fundamentals of sex lol)

Anyway I guess I should thank him...I did take care of myself later and it opened up a whole new world for me...haha the kinky person inside of me was just dying to get out.

Have you ever had a bad sex experience? Was it because of who you were with?

Did you fix things with that person and that made the sex more enjoyable...because as much as I hate his guts I am finding myself incredibly attracted to my ex.

I also have heard he has gotten more experince...hmm...what do you think?

well i will agree with Velvet that this guy probably hasn't changed and the two of you still would probably not be sexually compatible.

the situation described though...of a man having no interest in giving you sexual pleasure, is not exactly my idea of a horrible sexual experience. in fact that is a quality i find VERY appealing in a sexual partner, because it makes things much more relaxed and comfortable. as a submissive my only concern really is my partner's pleasure, it's always been extremely awkward to have anyone have the same focus or concern directed towards me. but then that's me, not you. you clearly are not sexually compatible with a selfish partner, so you should do whatever you can to avoid those types.

oh and to answer the question, of course i've had bad sexual experiences. but to me a bad sexual experience isn't defined by my physical enjoyment of the act (or lack thereof), but by things like feeling very unsafe, fearing for my well-being, or being with someone completely physically repulsive....like the nearly 400lb Dom i was with once who put me up in a swing (the only way he could penetrate probably) and sweated all over me, his long greasy hair and triple D-cup manboobs on my face. *shudders*

 

[FFOTS4Life]

well i will agree with Velvet that this guy probably hasn't changed and the two of you still would probably not be sexually compatible.

the situation described though...of a man having no interest in giving you sexual pleasure, is not exactly my idea of a horrible sexual experience. in fact that is a quality i find VERY appealing in a sexual partner, because it makes things much more relaxed and comfortable. as a submissive my only concern really is my partner's pleasure, it's always been extremely awkward to have anyone have the same focus or concern directed towards me. but then that's me, not you. you clearly are not sexually compatible with a selfish partner, so you should do whatever you can to avoid those types.

oh and to answer the question, of course i've had bad sexual experiences. but to me a bad sexual experience isn't defined by my physical enjoyment of the act (or lack thereof), but by things like feeling very unsafe, fearing for my well-being, or being with someone completely physically repulsive....like the nearly 400lb Dom i was with once who put me up in a swing (the only way he could penetrate probably) and sweated all over me, his long greasy hair and triple D-cup manboobs on my face. *shudders*

LOL yeah I find it appealing too though I can't imagine it with him...I think it is because he wasn't experienced. I can respect someone who chooses to be a PYL and have a pyl who recognizes that it isn't going to be about their own pleasure. However that wasn't the situation in our case. He just had no clue what he was doing and wasn't really willing to make the experience pleasurable for both of us (even though I tried too.) I have come to the conclusion that it was stupid to even consider getting back with him. Thanks for the input...your 400lb Dom who sweated all over you made me shudder too....

 

[FFOTS4Life]

My Gf likes several postions and she really likes to be pounded just before she cums. So one day, she is on the edge of the couch with her ass hanging over the edge and I'm given it to her as hard as I can. I guess in my excitment somewhere along the line, I thought my 7" cock was 8". I pulled out a little to far and rammed it home. I hit nothing but taint dead straight ahead and bent my dick to the point of almost snapping. Boy did I scream. After a day or two puss started to leak out. Every time I even looked at her pussy I went limp. So after like 2 weeks I was just about to call the doctor and as usual everything cleared up. No more sex on the couch while shes on her back though. LOL.

Wow that sounds painful. *shudders*

 

[ataxia.girl]

the situation described though...of a man having no interest in giving you sexual pleasure, is not exactly my idea of a horrible sexual experience. in fact that is a quality i find VERY appealing in a sexual partner, because it makes things much more relaxed and comfortable. as a submissive my only concern really is my partner's pleasure, it's always been extremely awkward to have anyone have the same focus or concern directed towards me. but then that's me, not you. you clearly are not sexually compatible with a selfish partner, so you should do whatever you can to avoid those types.

i am much the same, but a little different maybe, as far as preferring a selfish lover who is unconcerned with my sexual "satisfaction". i get very very anxious when a man tries to please me. i do not like it at all. As for making me cum as soon as a D starts down the orgasm control path i just want to run run run away as fast as i can.

BUT

i recently was with a D (Uncle Jackass actually) who while totally unconcerned with whether i was sexually satisfied was a very skilled lover. i absolutely loved the way he touched me but he did it for him, not me and that was readily apparent in the sort of matter of fact, distant way in which he went about it. In the same way you would push a button to make soap come out of a soap dispenser he pushed my buttons to make me wet and relax my holes FOR HIM. He was into large anal penetrations and i think knew from experience things were just going to go a lot easier if he took time to make it more comfortable and get things loosened up but it was not about my pleasure at all. If he had been into shoving it in and making it hurt, he would have, he just wasn't (that time).

That part of our encounter i absolutely loved. i literally felt like i was an instrument being played by a skilled musician. Not for my enjoyment, because well duh i was just the instrument, but for His.

oooo did he make my bum feel yummy!

Edited to add:

If i truly was just an instrument and i really believed that (the D would seriously have to believe it first) i think that is the only way i could get to a point where orgasm control, or perhaps even orgasms at all, would be possible. As soon as i'm made to feel even remotely responsible for or in control of my non-responsiveness to their attentions it just feels bad.

 

[FFOTS4Life]

I've had great lovers of all sizes. Some of the best have been smaller; I think they did their best to make up for their perceived cock inadequacy by being really attentive, eager to please and caring lovers. A small cock can certainly work against a guy too, though - sometimes it becomes such a source of fear and low self-esteem that the guy's distracted or lacks confidence to the point where he's lousy in bed.

In my experience, larger guys can be overconfident and cock-focused. If I wanted a cock, instead of a male partner who wanted to explore with, and please all of, me, I'd stock up on dildos.

I certainly don't think one can accurately judge the quality of a male lover based on the size of his cock, though. Maybe size queens can, but from what I've observed, most of the women who only/mainly care about size are inexperienced or unfamiliar with great sex, anyway.


My worst experiences have been with men who focused on intercourse and didn't really respond to my feedback. Those have been very few and far between, but I also haven't had that many partners, and I get to know the ones I do have well. My first time was actually fantastic, so I don't even have a bad story to tell with that one.

Thanks for the feedback. lol You had me cracking up when I got down to the part about dildos. I agree with you there...it is just about finding the person who is willing to explore with you.

I agree with you too that you cannot accurately judge the quality of a male lover based on the size of his cock...I just have heard more then a few women complain about men with larger cocks being to overconfident that is why I was wondering. Thanks for the feedback - FFOTS4Life

 

[FFOTS4Life]

Well, I didn't sleep with this dude just because he had a big dick. I didn't know how big it was until we did the deed. This guy thought he was god's gift to women, when really he just had no clue. Obviously, not all well-endowed guys are like this

LOL Most males seem to think this way...no I'm just kidding. But I just thought it was interesting that you mentioned him being overconfident because it wasn't the first time I had heard of a well endowed man not having a clue what he was doing. In fact I had just talked to my friend earlier that day about her experience with this guy she had been dating for a while...she was in the same boat as you (didn't know how large he was until they did the deed).

 

[graceanne]

That is funny...do you find that is true about guys with big dicks? My friend and I were talking about that. She was disappointed after having sex w/ a guy with a big dick much for the same reason as you...he didn't really seem to know what to do with it.

I've heard that this is common, that men with big dicks figure that's all you need and don't do anything with it.

 

[FFOTS4Life]

I've heard that this is common, that men with big dicks figure that's all you need and don't do anything with it.

Yeah that is what I heard too...I haven't ever had a large guy so I can't speak from personal experience.

Don't worry though I won't judge how some guy is going to be in bed because of the size of his dick...

 

[subbie_333]

Yeah that is what I heard too...I haven't ever had a large guy so I can't speak from personal experience.

Don't worry though I won't judge how some guy is going to be in bed because of the size of his dick...

( imagines when women rule the world, and, guys are forced naked into a police-type line up, cocks wagging and doing their best Gene Simmons impersonation )

 

[FFOTS4Life]

( imagines when women rule the world, and, guys are forced naked into a police-type line up, cocks wagging and doing their best Gene Simmons impersonation )

HAHA LMAO!!!

 

[graceanne]

Yeah that is what I heard too...I haven't ever had a large guy so I can't speak from personal experience.

Don't worry though I won't judge how some guy is going to be in bed because of the size of his dick...

( imagines when women rule the world, and, guys are forced naked into a police-type line up, cocks wagging and doing their best Gene Simmons impersonation )

Perv!

 

[Feelfreetotouch]

I keep hitting new lows with the wife. Her favorite position is to sit there on her back and enjoy herself. She thinks licking is dirty and gross. Her ass is off limits. And she complains if I cum anywhere but inside (she complains a lot )

 

[subbie_333]

Perv!

you say that almost like you didn't know that about me

 

[FFOTS4Life]

I keep hitting new lows with the wife. Her favorite position is to sit there on her back and enjoy herself. She thinks licking is dirty and gross. Her ass is off limits. And she complains if I cum anywhere but inside (she complains a lot )

Scooby Doo says Ruh Roh....I hope things get better with your wife! (And hey women wouldn't have to complain if men would just do what we say...lol)

 

[Feelfreetotouch]

Scooby Doo says Ruh Roh....I hope things get better with your wife! (And hey woman wouldn't have to complain if men would just do what we say...lol)

She doesn't complain, she loves our sex life. She enjoys being boring.

 

[FFOTS4Life]

She doesn't complain, she loves our sex life. She enjoys being boring.

I was just commenting on the fact that you said she complains alot. It's good that she enjoys your guy's sex life...I just hope that you guys can work something out so you both do...

 

[Feelfreetotouch]

I was just commenting on the fact that you said she complains alot. It's good that she enjoys your guy's sex life...I just hope that you guys can work something out so you both do...

That would be fantastic.