Just wondered if anyone was ever caught up in the moment and accidentally did go too far. If so, how did your partner take it? Were you able to keep going or did you stop, never to go again? Well, never with that person anyway.
I am not sure what you mean by "go too far", but it sounds like there is a story behind your question. Care to share it?
To answer your question simply, yes I have been there. In my case, I got caught up in the moment, as you put it, and was out of touch with how my SO was feeling. I did not realize that our play was quickly getting too intense for her and I was taken by surprise when the safe word came out. We stopped, held each other while she cried (and I felt like shit.) I apologized, we talked, and while it was a set back for us in some ways, it was also a learning experience. Ultimately we got over it.
It is probably a pretty common thing that occurs when one or both are new to BDSM type play.
Not really a story behind it, but my wife and I are into light play, and I am often afraid of going too far. She likes to be choked, slapped, spanked - and she likes it all pretty rough, and as much as it turns me on (and it's more of a giving her what she wants feeling), I'm afraid I'll hurt her, so I can't get into it completely.
Gone too far...in the moment or in a larger sense? The moment is easy to lose control of. I've allowed, no, encouraged (provoked?) a partner past what would be my comfort level i a calmer moment. I'm intellectualizing too much.
