Women tend to describe themselves in the negative.

[warrior queen]

I was given a copy of an article to an interview where hundreds of women were asked to use a single word to describe themselves physically.
98% used negative descriptives (fat, ugly, squishy, flawed, scarred, etc).
The ones who used positive words to describe themselves were all disabled or survivors of some form of illness - cancer, accidents, and many more.

How would you describe yourself physically in one word?

Btw, I tried to link the article/interview, but for some reason I can't even put up a link as it won't go to the site (just to spam).

 

[lovetoread]

I'm complete.

 

[warrior queen]

I'm complete.

Lovely to hear ...

 

[Liar]

Bipedal.

 

[Five_Inch_Heels]

The ones that annoy me the most are the ones who describe themselves as someone's wife or mother. It's as if they have no other identity. I've seen female doctors and business professionals do that.

 

[BabblingBrooke]

From my interactions with women and what I know of myself, yes this is quite true.

My first instinct for describing myself in one word:

Flawed

Really thinking about it and focusing on the positive:

Exuberant

We are all flawed. I'm not unhappy to be flawed. (Flawed doesn't look right. Is it spelled correctly? )

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[spacekowboy]

As well they should. I mean they really are only good for being a cum dumpster.
[/Trump]

 

[Wings]

Warrior. My one word description is ALWAYS warrior.

 

[pink]

happy

 

[bronzeage]

From my interactions with women and what I know of myself, yes this is quite true.

My first instinct for describing myself in one word:

Flawed

Really thinking about it and focusing on the positive:

Exuberant

We are all flawed. I'm not unhappy to be flawed. (Flawed doesn't look right. Is it spelled correctly? )

There are some women who make it damned difficult to compliment them. It's a perverse modesty and more than a little insulting, as if I either don't know her qualities, or I'm just lying.

 

[Debbie]

I have no idea why but the first word that comes to mind is bouncy

Perhaps I'm a Tigger.


On a more serious note for some reason I think women are very hard on themselves as if we have to be perfect, or a certain size.

It is quite sad that we are constantly comparing ourselves to other women and saying if only my boobs were bigger or my thin lips would look so much more beautiful if they were fuller and looked pouty and sexy.

Like the skin you're in. Find stuff you do like about yourself and stop listening to the inner voice of self doubt and most of the models in magazines are so fake it isnt funny.

 

[Debbie]

There are some women who make it damned difficult to compliment them. It's a perverse modesty and more than a little insulting, as if I either don't know her qualities, or I'm just lying.

Insecurity

 

[pink]

happy

 

[warrior queen]

My word is adventurous.

When I first thought about it, I immediately thought 'unfinished'. Then I realised I was doing the negative thing and tried out a few more positive words but none really fit, except adventurous.

 

[spacekowboy]

There are some women who make it damned difficult to compliment them. It's a perverse modesty and more than a little insulting, as if I either don't know her qualities, or I'm just lying.

I had an ex that did that. It used to drive me up the wall when she would bad mouth herself or laugh when I would compliment her.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[lovetoread]

There are some women who make it damned difficult to compliment them. It's a perverse modesty and more than a little insulting, as if I either don't know her qualities, or I'm just lying.

Girls are taught that they are not good enough. That if you are bold and confident then no man will want you. Some are able to get past that brainwashing and some are not.

It has nothing to do with perverse modesty.

 

[warrior queen]

There are some women who make it damned difficult to compliment them. It's a perverse modesty and more than a little insulting, as if I either don't know her qualities, or I'm just lying.

I think that's a learned response to the many false compliments a lot of young women get, usually because some guy wants to get into their pants.
They learn to discount all compliments, just to be sure.
I may be wrong, but thinking back I can clearly remember quite a few I got when in my late teens/early 20's.

 

[Wings]

There are some women who make it damned difficult to compliment them. It's a perverse modesty and more than a little insulting, as if I either don't know her qualities, or I'm just lying.

Oh please. We live in a world where a woman who is confident is a bitch and too full of herself or if she doesn't know her worth she's perversely modest or insulting. I have no idea how we win in the compliment area.

 

[Debbie]

Girls are taught that they are not good enough. That if you are bold and confident then no man will want you. Some are able to get past that brainwashing and some are not.

It has nothing to do with perverse modesty.

I was in the kitchen getting a drink when I had a light bulb moment. Reading what bronzeage posted got me thinking and I realized I do the same thing. I shrug compliments off or feel uncomfortable.

My grandma told me if boys or men compliment you they only want one thing.
and that girls should be demure, obedient and a man is the head of the household.

For the most part I like who I am now but when I was a teen/young woman I was so insecure.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[lovetoread]

You are told to not accept compliments, so you dont.

But if you do accept them you are just a lousy bitch who thinks too highly of yourself.

 

[jezzilee]

WIP (work in progress)

 

[BabblingBrooke]

I am loving every response in this thread.