Women of Lit: A Serious Question

[kurrginatorX]

We live in an age when equality among races and genders is demanded, and rightfully so. Even still, there always seems to be a faction from one of these groups that just doesn't care one way or the other so long as they remain pretty much out of the argument. What I am talking about is this:

Women are constantly saying they want to be appreciated for their minds, not their bodies, yet here at Literotica (and other places as well) the user will place a pic of herself nude, semi-nude, or in a provocative manner.

Any women I have ever spoken with here (initial contact) I have been respectful of their avatars.

My question, now, is do you post such with the hope of generating interest to your physical attributes as opposed to your mental acumen?

 

[Fermina_Daza]

We live in an age when equality among races and genders is demanded, and rightfully so. Even still, there always seems to be a faction from one of these groups that just doesn't care one way or the other so long as they remain pretty much out of the argument. What I am talking about is this:

Women are constantly saying they want to be appreciated for their minds, not their bodies, yet here at Literotica (and other places as well) the user will place a pic of herself nude, semi-nude, or in a provocative manner.

Any women I have ever spoken with here (initial contact) I have been respectful of their avatars.

My question, now, is do you post such with the hope of generating interest to your physical attributes as opposed to your mental acumen?

It is rare I post provocative photos. If I do, they are in my profile and not as an avatar. It usually means if someone sees the photo it is only because I have somehow sparked their interest - usually with my quick wit and sharp tongue. I'm sure some stumble upon them just by chance.

My body is not "perfect," by any means. It is a daily practice to love my body in the form it is in (especially with this cast). If I do post a photo, it is because I am in admiration of my own form. It is for me. Not really anyone else. If someone wants to speak to me merely based on my physical attributes, I can normally tell pretty quickly (the first PM or two).

Not sure I answered your question, and I definitely cannot answer for all women.

 

[Dribble]

Ahhhhh...the Lit conundrum...how really does one want to be viewed?

 

[Cyberbella]

I think it depends on what you’re looking for? Some of my best relationships and friendships were sparked by someone getting to know me before they saw any of my “attributes”. However, that being said, women are sexual beings just as men are. Guys brag and show off their cocks all the time. I think the problem is that when women show off it’s often seen as if we’re asking for whatever comments or come ons we get. If those comments are polite and respectful, I have no problem with that whatsoever...it’s when guys cross the line that it becomes offensive. Just my two cents. Take it or leave it.

 

[SassySheDevil]

I think it depends on what you’re looking for? Some of my best relationships and friendships were sparked by someone getting to know me before they saw any of my “attributes”. However, that being said, women are sexual beings just as men are. Guys brag and show off their cocks all the time. I think the problem is that when women show off it’s often seen as if we’re asking for whatever comments or come ons we get. If those comments are polite and respectful, I have no problem with that whatsoever...it’s when guys cross the line that it becomes offensive. Just my two cents. Take it or leave it.

This is pretty good.

Personally. I don't want to be "Judged" at all. but I know we all do it. I am flawed. I am far from perfect. Both personality, and appearance. So to me. It is just throwing it all out there and increasing my chances for someone to talk to me for both.

I'm not skinny, I'm moody and opinionated. I've seen how many times people will stop talking to someone for their looks, or the opposite. They are super hot, but once you get to know them. Their personality sucks. So this way. Both are out there. If you don't want to talk to a fat chick, I can ward them off with pictures. If you don't want to talk to a moody chick, I can ward them off with my roller coaster personality.

But like Bella said. There is still a difference in how men are treated when they post pictures, vs a woman. Most guys think posting their dick is sexy. No matter how many times women say they want to see more/ other things. They still almost always post strictly cock shots. (because to them, they love seeing genitals)
But women usually post Variety, because that is what is sexy to them.

Guy posts dick.. Women will say something nice usually (rarely super crude)
Woman posts pussy... Guys come out in droves to tell her all the things they would do to that pussy. Things they would rarely say to a woman in person. But because we are on a "sex site" they think that gives them the right to be crude. Also why I don't post pussy.

 

[Fermina_Daza]

This is pretty good.

Personally. I don't want to be "Judged" at all. but I know we all do it. I am flawed. I am far from perfect. Both personality, and appearance. So to me. It is just throwing it all out there and increasing my chances for someone to talk to me for both.

I'm not skinny, I'm moody and opinionated. I've seen how many times people will stop talking to someone for their looks, or the opposite. They are super hot, but once you get to know them. Their personality sucks. So this way. Both are out there. If you don't want to talk to a fat chick, I can ward them off with pictures. If you don't want to talk to a moody chick, I can ward them off with my roller coaster personality.

But like Bella said. There is still a difference in how men are treated when they post pictures, vs a woman. Most guys think posting their dick is sexy. No matter how many times women say they want to see more/ other things. They still almost always post strictly cock shots. (because to them, they love seeing genitals)
But women usually post Variety, because that is what is sexy to them.

Guy posts dick.. Women will say something nice usually (rarely super crude)
Woman posts pussy... Guys come out in droves to tell her all the things they would do to that pussy. Things they would rarely say to a woman in person. But because we are on a "sex site" they think that gives them the right to be crude. Also why I don't post pussy.

Damn it....I got it wrong again. Personality is NOT supposed to suck, mouth is.

No wonder they keep dropping like flies for me.

 

[SassySheDevil]

Damn it....I got it wrong again. Personality is NOT supposed to suck, mouth is.

No wonder they keep dropping like flies for me.

hahaha..

 

[Modern_drunkard]

Sums it up muh fuckers

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5DbwfMaEAPg

 

[KristainSC]

I think it depends on what you’re looking for? Some of my best relationships and friendships were sparked by someone getting to know me before they saw any of my “attributes”. However, that being said, women are sexual beings just as men are. Guys brag and show off their cocks all the time. I think the problem is that when women show off it’s often seen as if we’re asking for whatever comments or come ons we get. If those comments are polite and respectful, I have no problem with that whatsoever...it’s when guys cross the line that it becomes offensive. Just my two cents. Take it or leave it.

This is said so perfectly and sums up how I feel as well.

 

[JerseyJade]

I have never and will never post a nude or semi nude of myself here or anywhere else for that matter. I want to be liked for who I am.. not for what I look like. I don't need or want that kind of attention.

 

[Cyberbella]

Sums it up muh fuckers

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5DbwfMaEAPg

This seems somewhat autobiographical.

 

[hairball18]

This is pretty good.

Personally. I don't want to be "Judged" at all. but I know we all do it. I am flawed. I am far from perfect. Both personality, and appearance. So to me. It is just throwing it all out there and increasing my chances for someone to talk to me for both.

I'm not skinny, I'm moody and opinionated. I've seen how many times people will stop talking to someone for their looks, or the opposite. They are super hot, but once you get to know them. Their personality sucks. So this way. Both are out there. If you don't want to talk to a fat chick, I can ward them off with pictures. If you don't want to talk to a moody chick, I can ward them off with my roller coaster personality.

But like Bella said. There is still a difference in how men are treated when they post pictures, vs a woman. Most guys think posting their dick is sexy. No matter how many times women say they want to see more/ other things. They still almost always post strictly cock shots. (because to them, they love seeing genitals)
But women usually post Variety, because that is what is sexy to them.

Guy posts dick.. Women will say something nice usually (rarely super crude)
Woman posts pussy... Guys come out in droves to tell her all the things they would do to that pussy. Things they would rarely say to a woman in person. But because we are on a "sex site" they think that gives them the right to be crude. Also why I don't post pussy.

I am far too insecure to post a dick picture. Hell, I won't even post a picture of my face. I enjoy pictures of women, but I try not to be rude. If a woman posts a picture of herself, she should never have to accept rude responses.

 

[Mr_bogey]

Not a question posed to me but why does it have to be one or the other? Why can't it be both? I try to judge a person on their complete self, regardless of gender. Now, I'll admit to not always getting a full picture but I really don't care what you look like and I already know how intelligent you are if you are anti-vax or you think the election was fixed. Excuse me if you find me judgemental.

 

[SassySheDevil]

I am far too insecure to post a dick picture. Hell, I won't even post a picture of my face. I enjoy pictures of women, but I try not to be rude. If a woman posts a picture of herself, she should never have to accept rude responses.

haha I was going to say, in all the years I've known you. I've never seen a picture. But I don't expect people to post pictures. Just because I do, doesn't mean it's for everyone. However. If we become friends. Talk regularly etc. I want a picture.

 

[hairball18]

haha I was going to say, in all the years I've known you. I've never seen a picture. But I don't expect people to post pictures. Just because I do, doesn't mean it's for everyone. However. If we become friends. Talk regularly etc. I want a picture.

I thought we were friends.

 

[SithLordSexyPants1]

I am far too insecure to post a dick picture. Hell, I won't even post a picture of my face. I enjoy pictures of women, but I try not to be rude. If a woman posts a picture of herself, she should never have to accept rude responses.

Agreed. But she should know that she will likely get some rude responses depending on how much (and what) she shows and prior to posting needs to decide for herself where the line between polite or funny and rude falls. That line will vary with every woman. In the past, in attempting to be a humorous wiseass I've mistakenly crossed that line and apologized when I realized my mistake. It's a large part of the reason why I'm extra careful with my public (and private) comments now.

 

[SassySheDevil]

Agreed. But she should know that she will likely get some rude responses depending on how much (and what) she shows and prior to posting needs to decide for herself where the line between polite or funny and rude falls. That line will vary with every woman. In the past, in attempting to be a humorous wiseass I've mistakenly crossed that line and apologized when I realized my mistake. It's a large part of the reason why I'm extra careful with my public (and private) comments now.

Why should she assume she will get rude comments? Why can't men just be respectful? Most guys will say stuff here that they wouldn't say to a woman in person, which tells you, he knows it is rude or unacceptable.

and yes, Every woman has a difference in what line they will accept. I see some guys talk disgusting to some women, but know that if they talked to me like that, I would tell them to fuck off.

No woman should assume she is going to get rude comments. That is shitty behavior. We're all adults. Act like it.

To me, that goes in the same Category as "If she wears a short skirt, she should expect shitty comments"]

Do you know how many Schools now have banned certain pieces of clothing (like spaghetti straps and leggings) because it is a distraction to boys????

I taught my son better than that. He can be a little hornball like any other male. But he will damn sure be respectful.

 

[hairball18]

Agreed. But she should know that she will likely get some rude responses depending on how much (and what) she shows and prior to posting needs to decide for herself where the line between polite or funny and rude falls. That line will vary with every woman. In the past, in attempting to be a humorous wiseass I've mistakenly crossed that line and apologized when I realized my mistake. It's a large part of the reason why I'm extra careful with my public (and private) comments now.

I get that. I have commented something I thought was funny only to be taken totally out of context and that person never forgives me.

 

[CleverCowardice]

I turned off avatars ages ago - too many ugly dicks fucking my eyeholes. If I notice someone on here, I notice them for their posts and the personality expressed therein. And then I go looking for titty pics.

 

[Fermina_Daza]

I turned off avatars ages ago - too many ugly dicks fucking my eyeholes. If I notice someone on here, I notice them for their posts and the personality expressed therein. And then I go looking for titty pics.

I can vouch for this.

 

[ydahecnot]

But that’s the internet for you. People think the rules of decorum don’t apply. It’s the paradox of the thing that has been the ultimate facilitator of contact making you lose contact with your better self

 

[Modern_drunkard]

This threads gonna do a lot of good for a lot of people. I’m living proof of that.

 

[viperbob]

But that’s the internet for you. People think the rules of decorum don’t apply. It’s the paradox of the thing that has been the ultimate facilitator of contact making you lose contact with your better self

this right here.

 

[ydahecnot]

This threads gonna do a lot of good for a lot of people. I’m living proof of that.

Not on topic, but do not get your sidepiece a present unless she is a mother

 

[JerseyJade]

I turned off avatars ages ago - too many ugly dicks fucking my eyeholes. If I notice someone on here, I notice them for their posts and the personality expressed therein. And then I go looking for titty pics.

Perv!