Women, how can I get my anal fantasies fulfilled?

[vinyllover]

I have only been with 2 women that really like assplay/anal. This is a huge turn on for me, fingering, licking, and fucking. My cock is slightly large, at 8", but that is usually a good thing. Currently, my lover is not into it but i feel that to be fulfilled i need some element of anal play. For women who like assplay and anal, I ask you for advice. How did you come to enjoy it? Is size a problem? Feel free to pm or email at f you feel uncomfortable posting on here. Thanks

 

[vinyllover]

Seriously?

A lot of views, no advice...not even a PM. was hoping someone could help me out...

 

[infinity706]

You could just look up one of the many threads on anal sex. I think there's even one on the first page of this very section.

 

[vinyllover]

You could just look up one of the many threads on anal sex. I think there's even one on the first page of this very section.

I will look around...didn't see that subject in a thread...just a guy looking for some advice with a female perspective so I can make my fetish pleasurable for my lover...

 

[Tomahawk26]

I don't know, some women just aren't into it. I'm not interested in ass play all the time, even though sometimes I LOVE it. It could be that she doesn't feel comfortable about the possibility that it could be messy, she may be worried about the healthiness of it, or she may just not like it. Hopefully she's comfortable enough with you that if you ask her, she'll tell you honestly what it is she doesn't like about it.

 

[simpletimes]

It is all about communication and respect for the other.
Try open and honest talks with each other.
By all means, do not try to spring it on her.
All of us need to feel that our desires are important to our partner.

 

[DarkLisa]

I have only been with 2 women that really like assplay/anal. This is a huge turn on for me, fingering, licking, and fucking. My cock is slightly large, at 8", but that is usually a good thing. Currently, my lover is not into it but i feel that to be fulfilled i need some element of anal play. For women who like assplay and anal, I ask you for advice. How did you come to enjoy it? Is size a problem? Feel free to pm or email at if you feel uncomfortable posting on here. Thanks

I am a woman, so here's my take on it.

You want anal play to be fulfilled ... is your current lover long term? If she is, you will want to see if she can be brought around to your way of thinking or not. If she's not, and you think you may be finding someone else in the near future, ascertain their thoughts on anal *before* you get involved. Make it a goal that next time, you will find someone who likes it, or is at least willing to try it, before you get into a relationship.

Assuming your partner is longer term, the best thing I can suggest is slow. Go as slow as you possibly can, then think about it and go even slower. Don't even think about 8" being there yet. Think... fingertip. A slow, sensual fingertip that spends a lot of lubed time just rubbing softly while you do other things together that feel good. Judge whether or not to penetrate with that finger tip based on her reactions. If you do go for it, barely do it and go back to that slow sensual massage.

Take each additional step slowly, possibly over days or even longer. Work up from a fingertip, to the first knuckle, and so on. Don't worry about getting more in there until she's comfortable and hopefully enjoying the finger first. Consider toys, such as a graduated set of anal plugs that you can use like a dildo and take as long with the small one as you need to. Above all, try as hard as you can to make every time you touch her there as pleasurable as you can.

Hopefully she will learn that it actually feels good and start to actually want more and more to get that full, stretched feeling. But if not, at least you've tried and even if she never wants anal sex per se, maybe you'll find a happy medium with anal play that satisfies your urges and makes her happy too.


Good luck.

 

[simpletimes]

I am a woman, so here's my take on it.

You want anal play to be fulfilled ... is your current lover long term? If she is, you will want to see if she can be brought around to your way of thinking or not. If she's not, and you think you may be finding someone else in the near future, ascertain their thoughts on anal *before* you get involved. Make it a goal that next time, you will find someone who likes it, or is at least willing to try it, before you get into a relationship.

Assuming your partner is longer term, the best thing I can suggest is slow. Go as slow as you possibly can, then think about it and go even slower. Don't even think about 8" being there yet. Think... fingertip. A slow, sensual fingertip that spends a lot of lubed time just rubbing softly while you do other things together that feel good. Judge whether or not to penetrate with that finger tip based on her reactions. If you do go for it, barely do it and go back to that slow sensual massage.

Take each additional step slowly, possibly over days or even longer. Work up from a fingertip, to the first knuckle, and so on. Don't worry about getting more in there until she's comfortable and hopefully enjoying the finger first. Consider toys, such as a graduated set of anal plugs that you can use like a dildo and take as long with the small one as you need to. Above all, try as hard as you can to make every time you touch her there as pleasurable as you can.

Hopefully she will learn that it actually feels good and start to actually want more and more to get that full, stretched feeling. But if not, at least you've tried and even if she never wants anal sex per se, maybe you'll find a happy medium with anal play that satisfies your urges and makes her happy too.


Good luck.

That was very beautifully written.
Words that every couple should read and understand.

 

[NHBear]

I am a woman, so here's my take on it.

You want anal play to be fulfilled ... is your current lover long term? If she is, you will want to see if she can be brought around to your way of thinking or not. If she's not, and you think you may be finding someone else in the near future, ascertain their thoughts on anal *before* you get involved. Make it a goal that next time, you will find someone who likes it, or is at least willing to try it, before you get into a relationship.

Assuming your partner is longer term, the best thing I can suggest is slow. Go as slow as you possibly can, then think about it and go even slower. Don't even think about 8" being there yet. Think... fingertip. A slow, sensual fingertip that spends a lot of lubed time just rubbing softly while you do other things together that feel good. Judge whether or not to penetrate with that finger tip based on her reactions. If you do go for it, barely do it and go back to that slow sensual massage.

Take each additional step slowly, possibly over days or even longer. Work up from a fingertip, to the first knuckle, and so on. Don't worry about getting more in there until she's comfortable and hopefully enjoying the finger first. Consider toys, such as a graduated set of anal plugs that you can use like a dildo and take as long with the small one as you need to. Above all, try as hard as you can to make every time you touch her there as pleasurable as you can.

Hopefully she will learn that it actually feels good and start to actually want more and more to get that full, stretched feeling. But if not, at least you've tried and even if she never wants anal sex per se, maybe you'll find a happy medium with anal play that satisfies your urges and makes her happy too.


Good luck.

Amen...I love the graduated plugs....maybe my lover would like a set of these...she loves to feel full.....

 

[vinyllover]

I am a woman, so here's my take on it.

You want anal play to be fulfilled ... is your current lover long term? If she is, you will want to see if she can be brought around to your way of thinking or not. If she's not, and you think you may be finding someone else in the near future, ascertain their thoughts on anal *before* you get involved. Make it a goal that next time, you will find someone who likes it, or is at least willing to try it, before you get into a relationship.

Assuming your partner is longer term, the best thing I can suggest is slow. Go as slow as you possibly can, then think about it and go even slower. Don't even think about 8" being there yet. Think... fingertip. A slow, sensual fingertip that spends a lot of lubed time just rubbing softly while you do other things together that feel good. Judge whether or not to penetrate with that finger tip based on her reactions. If you do go for it, barely do it and go back to that slow sensual massage.

Take each additional step slowly, possibly over days or even longer. Work up from a fingertip, to the first knuckle, and so on. Don't worry about getting more in there until she's comfortable and hopefully enjoying the finger first. Consider toys, such as a graduated set of anal plugs that you can use like a dildo and take as long with the small one as you need to. Above all, try as hard as you can to make every time you touch her there as pleasurable as you can.

Hopefully she will learn that it actually feels good and start to actually want more and more to get that full, stretched feeling. But if not, at least you've tried and even if she never wants anal sex per se, maybe you'll find a happy medium with anal play that satisfies your urges and makes her happy too.


Good luck.

That is great advice. She is long term, so we will go slowly. I think she is willing to take it gradually. She is certainly willing to indulge me by wearing boy shorts, thongs, teasing, and letting me slide my cock between her cheeks kinda like a titty wank but with her ass. Just no actual penetration. I just didn't want to push her away or make her uncomfortable by being more aggressive. It's very helpful having your feedback.

 

[Verycurious18]

I have never had anal sex but if I'm really turned on things go in my ass and I love it. It's like past a point I just want a nice ass ramming.

 

[MyRubiLips]

Seriously?
A lot of views, no advice...not even a PM. was hoping someone could help me out...

Maybe a thread in the advice Q&A board would help? Good luck!

 

[COCK_STAR]

Another one percenter with eight inches. Lol

 

[f15]

Current Girlfriend and I are going through the same motions. The funny part is she always considered herself kinky until she met me Lol.....

I am a true ass man plain and simple. She has been very apprehensive about anything anal mainly because of the potential mess factor or as she says "no poop on the stick." Past that she has tried anal with one other person and he was totally clueless and it was painful and no fun for her so it has put any efforts on my part in extremely slow motion.

If there is an interest of exploring you need to take everything slow and not rush it. We have only had anal sex once and that was a few months ago and it went good. We have not tried it again but I also have not asked for it either. If she can get a mindset that this could feel really good then you are on your way. If she has no interest, well you have to make your own decisions about the relationship and no forum can help you with that.

It is definitely somewhat of a lifestyle. If you hate it, you hate it. But if you like it, then wow you really figured out something good in life...

Good luck