Women getting themselves off - the fascination?

[newhere2learn]

This is an open query and Sunday morning pondering. The fwb/GF and I won't see each other for a few days, and this morning she's messaged me saying she's wet and absolutely horny as hell.

My response: "get yourself off and tell me about it"

Her reply: "I don't get men's fascination with watching women do that"

I've explained that for me it's because I want to see and understand what the lady in question enjoys. No one knows how to get her off, better than her. So to watch either in the same bed or via video is hot, and a huge learning curve. I can then replicate next time we're together.

I also explained that I know guys who enjoy the voyeuristic aspect.


So;

* Guys * why do you enjoy watching?

*Girls* why do you enjoy showing off?

 

[mjolnir_1]

Guy here..

I have always liked to watch. But I like to watch her face and chest primarily, and not just be focused on insertion.

Watching the face and hand play with her chest sells it for me, also it's kind of instruction guide to a guy to pick up on visual and audible clues as to what a woman likes. I'm someone that does a lot of watching and observation of people in all types of situations.

 

[klippert]

simply put...This was my first fetish, before I knew what a fetish was. I don't know your ladies age. Men are visual, and have always been. We need the image. Why do you think lit and every porn site is populated by men 10-1...

 

[vizio]

I've always thought there was something very arousing about watching a woman slowly getting her self off. My ex and I enjoyed sitting on opposite ends of the couch and watching each other please ourselves.

 

[cuck72]

We've been together over 40 years, and my wife has told me she has never masturbated herself. I think that is weird, you would think if any woman started rubbing herself she would really enjoy it. You think my wife might be lying, keeping it a secret?

 

[newhere2learn]

I have always liked to watch. But I like to watch her face and chest primarily, and not just be focused on insertion.

Watching the face and hand play with her chest sells it for me, also it's kind of instruction guide to a guy to pick up on visual and audible clues as to what a woman likes. I'm someone that does a lot of watching and observation of people in all types of situations.

I can understand all of that, I'm the same. When we're having sex, watching her face and body when she cums, is exquisite.

 

[newhere2learn]

I've always thought there was something very arousing about watching a woman slowly getting her self off. My ex and I enjoyed sitting on opposite ends of the couch and watching each other please ourselves.

Only ever had one play partner who'd do that. Was amazing.

 

[newhere2learn]

We've been together over 40 years, and my wife has told me she has never masturbated herself. I think that is weird, you would think if any woman started rubbing herself she would really enjoy it. You think my wife might be lying, keeping it a secret?

Yes, most women I've known will never admit it.

 

[newhere2learn]

simply put...This was my first fetish, before I knew what a fetish was. I don't know your ladies age. Men are visual, and have always been. We need the image. Why do you think lit and every porn site is populated by men 10-1...

Late 20s. For me it's less about the visual and more about her showing me, what she likes.

 

[HoldYouDown]

It's a turn on because you're witnessing a moment of near-pure personal ecstasy. I say near-pure because if she is aware she's being watched, it can never be the same as if she's truly alone (or spied upon). But if she can let go and lose herself in that moment, it's just really hot. I don't need her to show off per se, just lose herself. Plus it unleashes for me all the thoughts of her doing it in solitude, in different places, at different ages, etc. For instance one ex told me the first time she jilled she watched porn of a woman playing with herself, while lying on her parents' living room couch, and she and the video woman came together. Hot story.

 

[newhere2learn]

It's a turn on because you're witnessing a moment of near-pure personal ecstasy. I say near-pure because if she is aware she's being watched, it can never be the same as if she's truly alone (or spied upon). But if she can let go and lose herself in that moment, it's just really hot. I don't need her to show off per se, just lose herself. Plus it unleashes for me all the thoughts of her doing it in solitude, in different places, at different ages, etc. For instance one ex told me the first time she jilled she watched porn of a woman playing with herself, while lying on her parents' living room couch, and she and the video woman came together. Hot story.

That's very hot. Also like the way you succinctly put it.

As you say, very few women who'd be confident enough to do it with a witness how they would solo.

 

[Bigaug]

I have been addicted to seeing a woman get herself off as long as I can remember, I can't get enough of my wife masturbating. I especially like it when she doesn't know I am watching. I have a couple of sneaky videos. I remember sneaking into a drive in when I was about 14 with my friends. I watched a movie about a frustrated house wife, and the first scene is her masturbating in bed while her husband snored next to her, I was addicted after that. Wish i could find that flick,

 

[newhere2learn]

. I remember sneaking into a drive in when I was about 14 with my friends. I watched a movie about a frustrated house wife, and the first scene is her masturbating in bed while her husband snored next to her, I was addicted after that. Wish i could find that flick,

I've know a couple of women who did this, and told me about it at the time or later... The image is very, very hot.

 

[FL30]

I agree with watching her masturbate shows me how she likes to be touched and what actually gets her off. How hard or soft she likes to be caressed or penetrated, etc.

I also LOVE to watch herself bring herself to orgasmic bliss.

My last ex and I talked about not only how often we masturbated, but when we first started, where, what, any aids, etc. It was really hot and interesting to learn about what she liked, how often she did it and especially when she first started (pre-teen).

Needless to say that we not only had mutual masturbation sessions, there were a lot of sessions where one did it for the other one to just watch.

 

[newhere2learn]

I agree with watching her masturbate shows me how she likes to be touched and what actually gets her off. How hard or soft she likes to be caressed or penetrated, etc.

I also LOVE to watch herself bring herself to orgasmic bliss.

My last ex and I talked about not only how often we masturbated, but when we first started, where, what, any aids, etc. It was really hot and interesting to learn about what she liked, how often she did it and especially when she first started (pre-teen).

Needless to say that we not only had mutual masturbation sessions, there were a lot of sessions where one did it for the other one to just watch.

That's hot, this girl will discuss our previous partners. But not self play

 

[Bigboobbabe]

I am not ashamed to admit I love to masturbate.
Hubby and I have mutually masturbated as part of our sexual menu for decades.
Recently had some phone sex and my FB loves to hear me when I cum. If we can't coordinate timing, and I use his pictures to cum, I record the audio and send it to him. He loves it.
Recently met in person and he wanted to see what he had been hearing.
No shame. I showed him and had fun doing it.
It's just another intimacy that shows how open you can be together.

Ladies, be proud to be sexual. Love yourself, then you can love others and receive love back.

 

[newhere2learn]

I am not ashamed to admit I love to masturbate.
Hubby and I have mutually masturbated as part of our sexual menu for decades.
Recently had some phone sex and my FB loves to hear me when I cum. If we can't coordinate timing, and I use his pictures to cum, I record the audio and send it to him. He loves it.
Recently met in person and he wanted to see what he had been hearing.
No shame. I showed him and had fun doing it.
It's just another intimacy that shows how open you can be together.

Ladies, be proud to be sexual. Love yourself, then you can love others and receive love back.

You're a rarity, why are more women not like you?

 

[Chillygirl]

I think for must of us women it’s a huge insecurity.

I’m a grown ass woman and can admit I masturbate...and do it often, but the second I’m asked to show I completely clam up and lose it.

It suddenly feels clinical...like there’s a spotlight shining and I’m being critiqued. However if it happens naturally....in the heat of the moment I’m fine.

Honestly I wish I wasn’t so uptight about it.

 

[MatureChattyMann]

I am not ashamed to admit I love to masturbate.
Hubby and I have mutually masturbated as part of our sexual menu for decades.
Recently had some phone sex and my FB loves to hear me when I cum. If we can't coordinate timing, and I use his pictures to cum, I record the audio and send it to him. He loves it.
Recently met in person and he wanted to see what he had been hearing.
No shame. I showed him and had fun doing it.
It's just another intimacy that shows how open you can be together.

Ladies, be proud to be sexual. Love yourself, then you can love others and receive love back.

That is healthily open and highly erotic.

 

[MatureChattyMann]

I think for must of us women it’s a huge insecurity.

I’m a grown ass woman and can admit I masturbate...and do it often, but the second I’m asked to show I completely clam up and lose it.

It suddenly feels clinical...like there’s a spotlight shining and I’m being critiqued. However if it happens naturally....in the heat of the moment I’m fine.

Honestly I wish I wasn’t so uptight about it.

I guess you have to go with what feels right for you.

 

[Jada59]

Long ago, I was nude sunbathing. The sun always makes me very horny. I began playing with myself and noticed that I was being watched. I pretended that I didn't know that I was being watched. I was very much turned on by knowing that I was being watched.

Fast forward to the man I ended up marrying. I attempted to masturbate in front of him. He was disgusted.

I haven't tried it since.

I would try it again for real. Never on cam. Not into that.

 

[zach20092]

Long ago, I was nude sunbathing. The sun always makes me very horny. I began playing with myself and noticed that I was being watched. I pretended that I didn't know that I was being watched. I was very much turned on by knowing that I was being watched.

Fast forward to the man I ended up marrying. I attempted to masturbate in front of him. He was disgusted.

I haven't tried it since.

I would try it again for real. Never on cam. Not into that.

Would love to be the voyeur

 

[LauraJane008]

Many men like to see this. I like doing it because I like turning them on. The knowledge that they get excited by seeing me down there is a real turn on.

 

[Smoothshavendad]

Many men like to see this. I like doing it because I like turning them on. The knowledge that they get excited by seeing me down there is a real turn on.

I definitely find it very arousing to watch. Especially seeing her getting mire arouesd as she sees my arousal. I usually can’t help stroking along with her.

 

[candysweet81]

I'm not exactly shy I've often put on a show for a bf Tell him to sit back, leave himself alone and enjoy the display, with any luck I get to watch his cock twitch and jump all by itself I've never had anyone decline this offer and if the speed they get out of their chair, on top of and inside of me after I have come is a good guide, then they've been very turned on indeed by watching me fingering myself