Women Get More Bisexual As They Grow Older ?

[JudyJ]

I wasn't sure where to post this since it seems more general in nature but on the other hand it could be bisexual women could be more open with their opinions and draw on actual experience on this board.

"A new study reveals that women's sexual preferences tend to be a gray area ). In fact, researchers at Boise State University found that in a group of heterosexual women, 60 percent were physically interested in other women, 45 percent made out with a woman in the past, and 50 percent had fantasies about the same sex." "

http://www.yourtango.com/2011104439/study-average-woman-bisexual

I hope it's not against the rules to reference other sites.

 

[jenjen777]

i believe this. i can relate.

when i was 21 i was a bartender in a small town. it was mostly men, older men. just a quiet, beer and whiskey kind of place. i loved that job.

there was one woman that came in and said that the older i got, the more open i would be with being with other women. at that time, i had no interest in women at all. she was a regular for a while. i recognized the way she watched me too. the men watched me that way too.

now that i am older, i regret not letting myself be curious. i may have missed out on something amazing. i think about that a lot.

 

[Stella_Omega]

it seems to me to be very common. And for some women, they go from bisexual to lesbian-- losing all interest in men.

I can think of a dozen reasons why this might be so.

 

[vintagelady]

Interesting thread and a notion I tend to agree with.

Speaking for myself and just myself, when I was younger I never dreamt over exploring my sexuality with another girl. Perhaps I wa afraid but I also think I was SO focused on wanting the "acceptable" thing, a stable relationship, marriage then family. That is something I wanted, got, absolutely love and will never ever have any regrets about.

It's only when I had all that, I finally started to think about a sexual relationship with another woman. It's never physically happened and I doubt very much it will as I am happy with the fantasy but the fantasy has become stronger over the past couple of years and I have become braver by chatting and even writing on the forum etc.

I also wonder if I have been dictated by hormones because months go by and the desire just isn't there and then suddenly out of nowhere it hits me like a ton of bricks.

I think age and experience just changes your outlook on so many things and your sexuality is just one of them.

 

[MrsCCfromRC]

Interesting thread and a notion I tend to agree with.

Speaking for myself and just myself, when I was younger I never dreamt over exploring my sexuality with another girl. Perhaps I wa afraid but I also think I was SO focused on wanting the "acceptable" thing, a stable relationship, marriage then family. That is something I wanted, got, absolutely love and will never ever have any regrets about.

It's only when I had all that, I finally started to think about a sexual relationship with another woman. It's never physically happened and I doubt very much it will as I am happy with the fantasy but the fantasy has become stronger over the past couple of years and I have become braver by chatting and even writing on the forum etc.

I also wonder if I have been dictated by hormones because months go by and the desire just isn't there and then suddenly out of nowhere it hits me like a ton of bricks.

I think age and experience just changes your outlook on so many things and your sexuality is just one of them.

Yes, well said.I feel the same way as I didn't have my first experience until 2 years ago. My interest really has come forward in the last 4 or 5 years.

 

[zipz32]

Very interesting, but

I don't believe this is purely a female phenomenon. I speak with so many males that have and are going through exactly what you all describe, I know I did.

 

[Freckleface]

I'm only speaking from my experience, but I have definitely been increasingly interested in women.

 

[Safe_Bet]

" researchers at Boise State University found that in a group of heterosexual women, 60 percent were physically interested in other women, 45 percent made out with a woman in the past, and 50 percent had fantasies about the same sex."

When I read the results of this study two thoughts immediately leapt to mind:

• Boise, Idaho is prolly in the top 10 Most Homophobic Cities in the US so I'm wondering how many of these "heterosexual" women really "ain't heterosexual" but just said they are.

And

• I'd be seriously curious as to how the "bi's and lesbians" surveyed responded. (something is telling me there weren't any).


EDIT: I spent about 30 minutes trying to find the actual study and found nothing. Sure there are a TON of blogs talking about the alleged results, but none of them had a link to the actual study. (which I also find interesting, but not surprising).

 

[JudyJ]

I definitively fantasize more about women as I grow older but I just passed it off as being more comfortable with my general sexuality the older I get. The hubby and I are much more adventurous and not as inhibited as we were when we were younger and I think this helps one expand their fantasies. To satisfy some of this we watch much more lesbian porn today. I think the hubby knows It kinda gets me wet.

 

[PermanentMarks]

I don't believe this is purely a female phenomenon. I speak with so many males that have and are going through exactly what you all describe, I know I did.

I think you are essentially correct. It may be that we live long enough that we feel less constrained by the fear that it will go "On our permanent record". That human sexuality isn't all that well defined in the first place, so why not feel free to at least consider alternatives.

I'm thinking that maybe as we age, we discover that the dark places in our souls aren't really all that dark. That we grow enough to know that our sexuality is really a pretty small part of who we are, overall.