Women, Can You Please Enlighten Me?

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Dear Women:

I’m looking for some blunt, blunt honesty here, about women’s (lesbian, straight, bi, Dom, sub, . . .) gut level reactions to male humiliation.

First, here is a brief bio. to give you a rough idea of where I’m coming from:

I’m 48, my fantasy (and on occasion actual) life has naturally revolved around me being sexually humiliated—by a woman, or by a man at a dominant woman’s request (and in practice, frequently by a man where the woman involved was solely a fantasy creation in my mind—for me, sucking a cock when ordered to by a woman is incredible—sucking a cock without a woman’s direction is just, well, boring.) Originally pretty tame, over the years my fantasies have of course expanded and intensified: e.g. cuckoldry, forced cock and pussy worship, verbal humiliation, crème pies, incest, mom-dom, mom-in-law-dom, sissification, some pain . . . I’m sure you get the general idea. But, the humiliation stemming from some type of emasculation has always been the one constant. And just for the record: I’m not complaining; I don’t have the slightest idea where this proclivity of mine came from, and am / always have been at ease with it, and willing and able to enjoy it. We are who we are indeed.


Now I have always assumed that 99.9% of women would be disgusted and repulsed by a man who harbored such desires, let alone one who actually requested her to help bring them to life (and trust me, cuckold / humiliation fetishists learn early that these desires can and usually do provoke intense hostility and intolerance in an awful lot of folks—so, not surprisingly, we are a naturally secretive lot.) And, I have also assumed that women who actually did get involved in such, were either doing it for love—not lust (a bit like pinching your nose when taking cough syrup), or else were doing it for money. I’m not knocking either motive—to each her own. But since discovering the forums here at Literotica, I’ve begun to re-think some of my assumptions, and that perhaps the numbers of women who would (or at least could) genuinely get turned on by such male-humiliation themes (or actual scenes) might be higher than I’ve been thinking.

So ladies, please, please educate me. Is your instinctive reaction to this theme one of disgust? Confusion? Arousal? Contempt? Curiosity? Indifference . . . ?

Archer
(or occasionally: ‘Missy’)
 
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Fuck off you dirty hit and go suck a cock I order you to get on your knees and beg me not to make you kiss a mans feet for your little failed attempt at being a man


Lol nope don't work for me
 
Love The Candor!

Fuck off you dirty hit and go suck a cock I order you to get on your knees and beg me not to make you kiss a mans feet for your little failed attempt at being a man


Lol nope don't work for me

OK, just for that, I'm putting you on my Christmas card list.
 
Mostly indifferent - just don't understand the appeal of humiliation in general. If I were going to play at being a domme what I would want from a male sub would be more along the lines of bringing me presents and always being concerned to make sure I am happy and entertained and feel cherished &etc.
 
Some women like humiliating their partner, I just never felt like it. Don't think I would be good at it either because I respect men too much. I'm almost a misogynist sometimes. LOL.
 
You can create a poll on this forum. Maybe you could use that to see the breakdown of how many Lit women are into it. Normally I wouldn't post just to tell someone I'm not into what they like...but you did ask.

I'm on the sexually submissive side and like confident men. Submissive men actively turn me off. I don't think I could ever manage to dominate or humiliate a guy. The idea of even trying makes me uncomfortable. I might be able to play that way with a girl (especially if a guy was watching) but probably just in small doses.
 
Good Advice

You can create a poll on this forum. Maybe you could use that to see the breakdown of how many Lit women are into it. Normally I wouldn't post just to tell someone I'm not into what they like...but you did ask.

I'm on the sexually submissive side and like confident men. Submissive men actively turn me off. I don't think I could ever manage to dominate or humiliate a guy. The idea of even trying makes me uncomfortable. I might be able to play that way with a girl (especially if a guy was watching) but probably just in small doses.

Thanks Positivetension:

I'm still new here, so didn't consider using a poll; probably would have been a better approach. Next time (once I learn how to set one up) I think I'll give it a try.

Thanks for the response
MDW
 
I am one of those people who is turned on seeing my lover being turned on, so if he was into it, I would be turned on, because... he is. I don't think if I would say this is the same as your 'love' concept, that I was doing it without gaining anything myself. But as long as it didn't actually involve drawing blood or causing lasting pain, I would be up for it.

The reason I haven't? My husband isn't into domination of this flavour. I do think a lot of fetishes often start out from exposer, once you're introduced to a concept, it grows in attraction the more you actively become involved in it. I know for myself that is the case. So its not beyond conceiving that it would be the same with this.

Hope this helps with your fact finding :)
 
So ladies, please, please educate me. Is your instinctive reaction to this theme one of disgust? Confusion? Arousal? Contempt? Curiosity? Indifference . . . ?

Indifference. Not my cup of tea, but I'm a live-and-let-live kinda girl.

If a potential partner was into this, I would politely let them know that I would not be able to fulfill their desires in that regard. My fetishes are much more tame (massage, masturbation), and fairly typical, to be honest. :) I could also never see myself (getting off on) being a dom.
 
Got it

I am one of those people who is turned on seeing my lover being turned on, so if he was into it, I would be turned on, because... he is. I don't think if I would say this is the same as your 'love' concept, that I was doing it without gaining anything myself. But as long as it didn't actually involve drawing blood or causing lasting pain, I would be up for it.

The reason I haven't? My husband isn't into domination of this flavour. I do think a lot of fetishes often start out from exposer, once you're introduced to a concept, it grows in attraction the more you actively become involved in it. I know for myself that is the case. So its not beyond conceiving that it would be the same with this.

Hope this helps with your fact finding :)


Yeah Cherry Rose, and it makes a lot of sense to me. I have often found that the biggest aphrodisiac, and I'm thinking men or women, but especially women, is the level of desire their partner is feeling / showing. If someone is just over the top with sexual desire, I think it is just plain infectious (in a good way). And if you're just not feeling it, all the technique in the world ani't gonna make a whole lot of difference.


No doubt, if I had to chose between a very experienced, but moderatly turned on lover, and an over the top, eye rolling, babbling horniness lover who did not have a clue about what the hell they were doing, I'd take the second one every time.

Thanks for responding
 
Indifference. Not my cup of tea, but I'm a live-and-let-live kinda girl.

If a potential partner was into this, I would politely let them know that I would not be able to fulfill their desires in that regard. My fetishes are much more tame (massage, masturbation), and fairly typical, to be honest. :) I could also never see myself (getting off on) being a dom.


Thanks Jenibee,

Maybe someday I'll figure out why the whole world can't be the "live-and-live" kind
 
Hmmm...

Lots of people think that because of my height (6'3) I'm automatically a dominant, man-hating bitch-queen.
I'm not, actually.
The truth is, I'm happily married to a dominant man, I'm quite on the submissive side personality-wise although I do have a backbone and am no one's 'doormat'.
I like Men, so humiliating a Man just isn't in my personality, although I'll try it in pure-fiction roleplay if it pleases someone. But I don't think I'm very good at it.
No I'm not accepting applications right now...got too much to handle as things are and can't really give proper attention.
Hubby has the Flu now, I expected it to nail him first as usual, but this time around it ambushed me instead. Anyways, he's really sick with a very high fever and he's my First Priority.
I've met 'submissive' men, as some of my friends are involved in the BDSM lifestyle and have their men as slaves, and they're very nice, but I have some trouble relating to them as they're so...docile. It kinda blows my mind apart a little bit seeing them get treated the way they do, and they obviously crave it so I can not judge, and will not...but it's something I'm still learning about anyways.
They're very helpful though. But the tamed docility, it's gonna take some getting-used-to.
My husband Martin, he's not a submissive type in any form or manner, which is a main reason I married him.
I enjoy the company of submissive humiliation-craving men, but I don't think I could have a relationship with one. It's all hypothetical for me anyways, as I mentioned I'm married and hubby's definitely Dominant. ;)
 
Dear Women:

I’m looking for some blunt, blunt honesty here, about women’s (lesbian, straight, bi, Dom, sub, . . .) gut level reactions to male humiliation.

First, here is a brief bio. to give you a rough idea of where I’m coming from:

I’m 48, my fantasy (and on occasion actual) life has naturally revolved around me being sexually humiliated—by a woman, or by a man at a dominant woman’s request (and in practice, frequently by a man where the woman involved was solely a fantasy creation in my mind—for me, sucking a cock when ordered to by a woman is incredible—sucking a cock without a woman’s direction is just, well, boring.) Originally pretty tame, over the years my fantasies have of course expanded and intensified: e.g. cuckoldry, forced cock and pussy worship, verbal humiliation, crème pies, incest, mom-dom, mom-in-law-dom, sissification, some pain . . . I’m sure you get the general idea. But, the humiliation stemming from some type of emasculation has always been the one constant. And just for the record: I’m not complaining; I don’t have the slightest idea where this proclivity of mine came from, and am / always have been at ease with it, and willing and able to enjoy it. We are who we are indeed.


Now I have always assumed that 99.9% of women would be disgusted and repulsed by a man who harbored such desires, let alone one who actually requested her to help bring them to life (and trust me, cuckold / humiliation fetishists learn early that these desires can and usually do provoke intense hostility and intolerance in an awful lot of folks—so, not surprisingly, we are a naturally secretive lot.) And, I have also assumed that women who actually did get involved in such, were either doing it for love—not lust (a bit like pinching your nose when taking cough syrup), or else were doing it for money. I’m not knocking either motive—to each her own. But since discovering the forums here at Literotica, I’ve begun to re-think some of my assumptions, and that perhaps the numbers of women who would (or at least could) genuinely get turned on by such male-humiliation themes (or actual scenes) might be higher than I’ve been thinking.

So ladies, please, please educate me. Is your instinctive reaction to this theme one of disgust? Confusion? Arousal? Contempt? Curiosity? Indifference . . . ?

Archer
(or occasionally: ‘Missy’)

It would depend If you pissed me off... If I am angry at the man in question I have no problem getting off on his humiliation and pain emotional or otherwise... on the other hand If i like the guy or love the guy then Im just not into it.

I have some interesting work involving graphic and detailed explicit humiliation and torture of child molesters and rapist... they all end in death so since Im not sure of the rules on that I wont post them here but I am willing to bet it is way more then most could handle I have a real hatred of child predators!

I am more into the domination where I can sexually explore and manipulate a man until he is begging and writhing for release.
 
I am one of those people who is turned on seeing my lover being turned on, so if he was into it, I would be turned on, because... he is. I don't think if I would say this is the same as your 'love' concept, that I was doing it without gaining anything myself. But as long as it didn't actually involve drawing blood or causing lasting pain, I would be up for it.

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I really like this. It's quite close to Dan Savage's concept of "Good, Game, Giving." (which is a concept that can work, or can be abused, but overall not too bad)
 
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