WOMEN CAN DO THE WEIRDEST THINGS FOR WHATEVER REASON

GuyJD

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A gracious good day to all of my fellow Literoticans. (Here's an update for you, Siren) Please allow me to be serious for a moment.....A couple of months ago, you may remember me often mentioning of my Mexican coworker/girlfriend. (Yeah, I know..big mistake to date at work). We have since split up and, rather discuss any matter of the break up with me, she chose to discuss it with her department manager. Quite frankly, she took a statement that I made as a joke (which it was), but her manager made it an issue, and the store manager used it as an offense and I was fired. Neither managers cared to hear the fact that it was a boyfriend/girlfriend matter. Now the fact of the matter is that my Mex ex knew it to be a joke but did not defend the matter and it was used as a sexual harrassment statement against me, which led to my getting fired.
I have since long gotten over her and moved on to a much better paying job with great benefits. But one day after completing the orientation to a new job that I am to start next week, I decided to stop at the store where I worked just to see a few former co-workers and see how the hell they were doing. Needless to say, my Mex ex was not one of them whom I wanted to see. But I was curious to see what her reaction would be if or when notice me in the store. Unfortunately, everyone whom I went there to see were either off or did not report for work until later. So I was there for about an hour saying hi to all of the others and they in return were telling me how boring it was there without me. (I always kept them laughing.) I noticed that throughout my stay, my Mex ex was no where around to be found and one of her coworkers were used as a "look out" near the front of the store. Curiously, I went to look for her in her department and another coworker claimed that she was at lunch when in fact she had just gotten in for work minutes ago and no one, including myself, saw her leave out of the front door of the store. So I laughed in their face and said, "Yeah, right. Whatever."
The fact was that this sexy 25 year old woman was literally hiding in their department fitting room all of the time I was in the store. Many of the department managers and workers who knew of this have all said that she was very immature for doing that. My idea is that she either feared facing me for what she did to me (getting me fired, that is) or she felt guilty for what she did and could not face me. Either way, I was pissed and felt that the bitch (forgive me for this is a word that seldom escape my lips) got me fired, the least she could have done was to hear what I had to say.
Since my departure: 1) the store was cited for something that I would have normally been responsible for if still there at the time; 2) My Mex ex, who has been a 2 time Employee of the Month, has gotten written up for breaking store policy; 3) Her department manager injured her foot at work and the company doctor felt that she could continue working; and the latest & greatest 4) The store manager was transferred this week to another store against her wishes.
Many of my former coworkers told me to take revenge. But my idea was to put it in God's hand. Apparently, I did and he treated all of whom were involved as he saw fit. Are there any Literoticans in this BB who could analyse this matter? Even you, Siren, for you know to whom I'm referring.
 
GuyJD...

Sorry...to hear of your experience! But...am glad they got theirs so to speak!! Life does have it's way of completing the circle! What goes around comes around!


But, if it was a messy break up or if she felt slighted. Some people don't handle breakups well not...that they're ever rosy!! But, you've heard the saying "Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned?"

I know I didn't get the quote word for word but...you get my drift...right? This type of person is not someone you would want around. In the long run she did you a favor...didn't you say you got a better paying job with better benefits! So...maybe you should send a thank you card but...on second thought she'd probably report you to the police for harrassement!! Trust me...you coming back in the store happy and doing better...you got to her!! And I suspect she couldn't face you for the guilt she was feeling!!


That's my opinion for whatever it's worth....;)
 
She may feel embarrassed, or guilty, or just afraid that you are really angry.

She may also just not want to see you again, period.

In the matter of maturity, I have to say hanging around for over an hour to see someone who caused you such grief, for the sole purpose of confronting her, doesn't seem to be wise. The truly mature thing would be to let it go, and get on with your life.

MUCH easier said than done.
 
ALL OF YOUR OPINIONS ARE GOLD TO ME

FORGETUNOME: You are very right. I remember an old saying that goes...."LIVING WELL IS THE BEST REVENGE". You may have hit the right note there.

CREAMYLADY: Please don't misunderstand, I didn't stay around to see her. I was waiting for a couple of others to get in for work but the wait was too long. In fact, I only went to her department when I was bored. I had no idea that she would act as she did. I couldn't believe ALL of the former coworkers who had stopped what they were doing to say HI to me and ask of my present job and life matters, etc. One guy, whom I often spoke to when employed there, came right out and said that what happened to me was BULLSHIT and he hopes that my Mex ex gets what she deserves for it. This was said before I made any comments to the matter. Still in all, CL, I value your opinion and I thank you for it.
 
Since you asked...

GuyJD said:
I have since long gotten over her ...

I don't believe you, GuyJD. If you had gotten over her, you wouldn't be calling her a bitch, and delighting in people's troubles. If you need to do this in order to get over her, I can understand that. But you're not there yet.
 
NOT ENTIRELY TRUE, EASYBOY

On the last day of work, when I was told to go home, I came home and cried. Yes, a grown man cried. But not for the lost of her or the job but the fact that the woman who often claimed to love me had betrayed me. She never, to this day, spoke to me in reference to the break up. The break up came from a letter that she gave to a coworker to give to me. But I ended up getting over it and seeking and finding work the next day. Sure, it hurt for about a week and I often wonder will I ever get over the betrayal. This is why I called her the "B" word in my thread. What she did was cowardly and, in Mexican as well as American culture, disrespectful. For that & to my surprise, she's made a few enermies at that job, mostly from the Mexican coworkers.
I'll admit, I gloated over their misfortunes that occurred within the few weeks after my firing. But the fact is, if I was not over it, I would have done some sort of vengences rather than put it in God's hands. I really laugh, to be honest, EasyBoy. I believe that while they were "cursed" with misfortunes, I was blessed with the opposite. More jobs than I could bear just 3 weeks after, including a government job. It had been almost 2 months since the day of my termination. The truth is that I went there to see another coworker who I had a crush on (she looks alot like Salma Hayyak) but we never did or could date. Unfortunately, she was off.
Please, don't misunderstand Easy. I can see why you said what you said. It may even appear that I might have been "stalking" her but about 25 or more coworkers at the store would argue that story since I stopped to speak to many of them, including 3 department managers.
 
Irony

Best said I think is what comes around goes around...I think this woman need to realize people do have feelings..Also It will end up happening to her one day and she will know what it was she done to you! ...Not all women are like this one but take you time and date and have fun too...

THE WIFE
 
well, as for analysing the situation, i personally hate confrontation and especially once something has ended, i hate seeing any evidence of it ever having happened. i don't like being reminded of it, or having to bring it up again, you also said "the least she could have done was to hear what I had to say." i personally would not want tohear what you had to say, i wouldn't want that kind of scene at work, especially if you two had never talked about the breakup.

aside from that, ya, i think she was cowardly and shouldn't have purposely gotten you fired, (more cowardice) and it was probably a bogus job termination, but you got yours, right? don't sweat it, she was being herself, obviously she hasn't changed since your breakup, eh?

anyhow, you're fine, you'll keep being fine,... enjoy your better job!
 
AS IT STANDS...........

So far, the feedback that I have received about her latest action (hiding out in the fitting room) was that she didn't have the "chi-chi's" to face me. Much to my assumption, of course.
 
THE ONE THING THAT HASN'T BEEN MENTIONED

Much like GuyJD, I worked with that woman. What GJD failed to mention is that, prior to him dating this Mexican cutie, she spoke NO English. The couple of months they dated, he was learning Spanish and teaching her English. While communication got better as they dated, it was still limited. So it is possible that the breakup was due to a failure to communicate.
 
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