Women: At what age did you loose your virginity??

[lilminx]

I was 17- Prom Weekend at the shore- what a cliche...
it was my decision, however. The funny thing is, the first night we tried to do it he only had unlubricated condoms. It wouldn't go in! I had to get lubricated condoms from my friend the next day- I still laugh just thinknig about it....

 

[Guest]

Thanks for the idea, GuyJD...

But still...

Posted by me!
Besides, I've never considered any of my sexual experiences to be "worthy enough" of an erotic story. When I write a story, I mix real life experiences with fantasies lurking in my dark mind.

 

[XXplorher]

A little side note:
I have a 13 year old daughter and want to add this to my happy little story: if an adult man touches my girl when she's 15 in the manner i was touched - or in any sexual manner - he's going to jail if i have *anything* to say about it.

What was good for the goose is not necessarily good for the gander.
... and/or...
Do what i say, not what i did. [/B]

Does this mean you’re unhappy with your discovered sexuality? Or do you think your sexuality would be completely DIFFERENT (while still satisfying), if not for this ‘man’?

(Note: I'm not a 'dom'. Nor much interested in 15 year olds. Just curious.)

 

[Mellon Collie]

I feel so left out, I'm one of those "technical virgins", I've done everything but the actual deed.

 

[cymbidia]

Does this mean you’re unhappy with your discovered sexuality? Or do you think your sexuality would be completely DIFFERENT (while still satisfying), if not for this ‘man’?

Nope. It doesn't mean either of those things.

What it means is that i think 15 years old is WAY WAY WAY fucking too young for my daughter to be doing what i was doing when i was 15.

Am i guilty of applying a double standard to the value of my early seuxal experiences vs. what similar experiences might gain her in today's world?
Yep.

Am i maybe even being inconsistent with regard to my own experiences and the resulting pleasure and happiness i've taken from those experiences vs. the kind of experiences with which i hope she begins an exploration of her own sexuality?
Yep.

Am i totally unrepentant about the above?
Yep.

You gotta be a parent to understand this one at the gut level, i think.

 

[Nathon_88]

I don't have to be a parent.

I've got a brother.

And if he does what I think he's going to do soon, he's going to find out just how hard I CAN hit the little fucker.

He ain't going to jail. Not for that little slut, anyway.

 

[Mellon Collie]

You gotta be a parent to understand this one at the gut level, i think.

I have a little sister who is now 12 that I practically raised and let me tell you if I ever found out she was doing or thinking half the things I was when I was her age, I'd probably kill her if I didn't die of a heart attack first.

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

I feel so left out, I'm one of those "technical virgins", I've done everything but the actual deed.

Don't feel left out - loosing your virginity can either be something very special, or not depending on how it happens and with who, but a person shouldn't have sex just for the sake of having sex. You still have your whole life in front of you.

 

[lilfrk]

I lost my virginity exactly one month to the day after my 15th birthday. I did it with the guy I was dating at the time. It certainly wasn't the best sex ever. But I had my reasons for doing it. I wanted my first actual intercourse to be willing and to be with some I at least liked. Not the fat drunk bastard that had chosen my bed, over my mother's bed at the time.

I don't ever regret my decsion.

 

[Debbie]

I was 14, he was 15. I thought he was spunky and he was older than me. My friends were envious.

I feel differently now about it though. I have a son who is 13 next month and there is hope he won't take after me!
No way I would post my story at myfirsttime.com either. I mean in New Zealand age of consent is 16. He would have been up for sex with a minor even though it was consensual.

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

You gotta be a parent to understand this one at the gut level, i think.

I understand, but I don't necessarily agree; when I found out my daughter was sexually active during her teens it was a shock, but OTOH I realized it was just normal human behavior and in a way I was relieved.

I do believe that it is better for people to wait until they are mature to have sex, but I understand that it is just human nature that we become sexually active in our teens. As long as it is consensual, we avoid STDs and pregnancy then we shouldn't be too upset - my daughter was smarter than her mom and dad in this regard. A key part of being a parent is being able to let go of our kids when they need their independence - I was able to do that, but her mom wasn't (and still can't ten years later).

 

[Sephiroth]

It was my 18th birthday and my first lesbian experience with an older woman who I cared about.

 

[ohiobbw]

Still waiting, I'm 19, and I'm going to be 20 in a week.

I complain about it sometimes, but I really don't want to have sex at the moment.

There's one guy I would consider "worthy" of my first time, but I don't think he's interested and even if he came up to me and wanted to, I would not want to unless we were in a relationship.

I don't see myself having sex anytime soon. Because I would want to be in a deep relationship first.

Also I don't feel comfortable with my body, definitely not comfortable enough to let someone else see me naked!

Who knows, I could change my mind tomorrow though
but I doubt it!