lavender
Cautiously Optimistic
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We all hear it constantly that women love assholes. We know that women like the "bad boys" and this myth is perpetuated by movies, books, advertisements, as well as the daily interactions that we view.
I have heard many women say that they like the assholes because when they are nice, compassionate, sensitive, or generally wonderful to them as individuals they believe it to be more sincere - and less of a ploy. Some women like to think that an asshole, a bad boy, is just that way to other people but treat the particular woman in a relationship "special."
I'm very young, but in my limited experience I have learned a few things. At the end of the day, a man who is an asshole to other women and to others as a whole will eventually bite even their companion, their friends in the ass.
I'm not talking about those who are sarcastic or have an acerbic wit. I'm not talking about those who are stubborn or have a mean streak. I'm talking about the true asshole - the one you watch treat people in a miserable fashion but treat certain women as if they are queens. These men praise these women, build up their egos, give them all sorts of attention and show so much compassion.
But, when the going gets tough in a relationship - all that compassion flies through the wind. This women, this friend, this companion will face the wrath of this man in almost the same manner as he treated all those unnamed people.
From my lessons in the past and the present, I'm going to look at these men with great scrutiny. Why is it that this man treats me differently? Is he truly a different person? One, that only a few get to see? Or is he putting on a facade that masks his true character in order to get somewhere with me?
I think it's a lesson that is hard to learn. I realize that this is not always the case - but I've watched it happen too many times.
How many times have you heard: "But he treats me like a queen," or "He really is so sweet if you only get to know him." Granted, this can be true in many cases, but often times these phrases are something that should send a red light off in our minds.
I have heard many women say that they like the assholes because when they are nice, compassionate, sensitive, or generally wonderful to them as individuals they believe it to be more sincere - and less of a ploy. Some women like to think that an asshole, a bad boy, is just that way to other people but treat the particular woman in a relationship "special."
I'm very young, but in my limited experience I have learned a few things. At the end of the day, a man who is an asshole to other women and to others as a whole will eventually bite even their companion, their friends in the ass.
I'm not talking about those who are sarcastic or have an acerbic wit. I'm not talking about those who are stubborn or have a mean streak. I'm talking about the true asshole - the one you watch treat people in a miserable fashion but treat certain women as if they are queens. These men praise these women, build up their egos, give them all sorts of attention and show so much compassion.
But, when the going gets tough in a relationship - all that compassion flies through the wind. This women, this friend, this companion will face the wrath of this man in almost the same manner as he treated all those unnamed people.
From my lessons in the past and the present, I'm going to look at these men with great scrutiny. Why is it that this man treats me differently? Is he truly a different person? One, that only a few get to see? Or is he putting on a facade that masks his true character in order to get somewhere with me?
I think it's a lesson that is hard to learn. I realize that this is not always the case - but I've watched it happen too many times.
How many times have you heard: "But he treats me like a queen," or "He really is so sweet if you only get to know him." Granted, this can be true in many cases, but often times these phrases are something that should send a red light off in our minds.
