Women.....AAARRRgGGg (rant)

[SnoopDog]

What's the deal with women?
You tell her you love her, she tells you she doesn't.
She wants to stay friends. You have to get over it and don't see her for quite a time.
Then she approaches you, wanting to talk and get a 'second chance' to stay friends because she realised that the way she behaved was pretty rough.
You meet her for dinner, but she doesn't talk about it at all, just small talk.
You part and after a couple of weeks tell her now you want to talk and have another chance.
But she says she's not sure about it and it probably won't work out. And she want's to not decide yet whether you stay friends or lose contact at all.
ARRRGGGGHHH

This doesn't make any sense to you???? Well, it doesn't to me either.
Why do women have to chnge their minds every fifteen minutes?
Why are women so cruel, much more cruel than any man could ever be?
Sometimes women just sicken me and make me wanna give up.

Snoopy, end of rant.

 

[cloudy]

What's the deal with women?
You tell her you love her, she tells you she doesn't.
She wants to stay friends. You have to get over it and don't see her for quite a time.
Then she approaches you, wanting to talk and get a 'second chance' to stay friends because she realised that the way she behaved was pretty rough.
You meet her for dinner, but she doesn't talk about it at all, just small talk.
You part and after a couple of weeks tell her now you want to talk and have another chance.
But she says she's not sure about it and it probably won't work out. And she want's to not decide yet whether you stay friends or lose contact at all.
ARRRGGGGHHH

This doesn't make any sense to you???? Well, it doesn't to me either.
Why do women have to chnge their minds every fifteen minutes?
Why are women so cruel, much more cruel than any man could ever be?
Sometimes women just sicken me and make me wanna give up.

Snoopy, end of rant.

Don't give up, baby. There are many, many good women out there.

Sounds like she doesn't know what she wants. If you do, and it's her, give her the time she needs. If not, I know there's one out there that will appreciate you.

 

[Guest]

Women are complicated, men are simple.

Ok, that was a very crude generalization, but true, all the same.

Most men know whether or not they want someone (something), they think, on the whole, in terms of black and white. Women, for the most part, are never completely certain, they think too much about a variety of different things. But, once a woman has made up her mind, God help anyone who gets in her way.

I doubt that helped much. Give her time and space, hon. Chill, try and find something to distract your mind. She'll come back to you when she finally realises she does want you.

Lou

P.S. I wish you'd added "present company excluded" at the end of your post. Not that I'm completely innocent.

 

[Guest]

 

[Colleen Thomas]

*HUGS the Snoop*


-Colly

 

[Carl East]

What's the deal with women?
You tell her you love her, she tells you she doesn't.
She wants to stay friends. You have to get over it and don't see her for quite a time.
Then she approaches you, wanting to talk and get a 'second chance' to stay friends because she realised that the way she behaved was pretty rough.
You meet her for dinner, but she doesn't talk about it at all, just small talk.
You part and after a couple of weeks tell her now you want to talk and have another chance.
But she says she's not sure about it and it probably won't work out. And she want's to not decide yet whether you stay friends or lose contact at all.
ARRRGGGGHHH

This doesn't make any sense to you???? Well, it doesn't to me either.
Why do women have to chnge their minds every fifteen minutes?
Why are women so cruel, much more cruel than any man could ever be?
Sometimes women just sicken me and make me wanna give up.

Snoopy, end of rant.

There are no good reason's why women are like this Snoop, I think they just enjoy the chase. Some play the game for too long however, making the man lose interest. Women are great, but a mystery. You can't live with them and you can't live without them. You simply have to roll with the punches.

I do know one thing, if you find the right one, it makes life worth living.

Carl

 

[dirtylover]

What's the deal with women?
You tell her you love her, she tells you she doesn't.
She wants to stay friends. You have to get over it and don't see her for quite a time.
Then she approaches you, wanting to talk and get a 'second chance' to stay friends because she realised that the way she behaved was pretty rough.
You meet her for dinner, but she doesn't talk about it at all, just small talk.
You part and after a couple of weeks tell her now you want to talk and have another chance.
But she says she's not sure about it and it probably won't work out. And she want's to not decide yet whether you stay friends or lose contact at all.
ARRRGGGGHHH

This doesn't make any sense to you???? Well, it doesn't to me either.
Why do women have to chnge their minds every fifteen minutes?
Why are women so cruel, much more cruel than any man could ever be?
Sometimes women just sicken me and make me wanna give up.

Snoopy, end of rant.

Solution - Eat some ice-cream, hang out with mates, go to a strip joint, screw a beautiful woman in all the dirty ways that girl wouldn't let you et voila! - you feel fine

(Why this works - you're always going to enjoy conversations more with your mate, cos you can talk about important stuff like football, shagging women, cars, whatever really...And, if you get sex too, then you no longer have the desire for a girlfriend)

(The icecream's just cos it's nice)

 

[Guest]

Re: Re: Women.....AAARRRgGGg (rant)

 

[Virtual_Burlesque]

... I do know one thing, if you find the right one, it makes life worth living...

And even the wrong one can keep you from rustification.

 

[oggbashan]

And finding out which ones are wrong, and which one is right makes life worth living.

Og

 

[dr_mabeuse]

Beware, be-fucking-ware of the girl who wants to "stay friends". This is the kiss of death.

Just like perfection is the enemy of the good, friendship is the enemy of love. If she's already a friend then she doesn't have to propose it. And if you've ever been in love with her, it'll be impossible to be her friend. You'll always be looking for some sign of a love that isn't there.

You need to have a girl-ectomy, have it cauterized, and move on.


---dr.M.

 

[Carl East]

And even the wrong one can keep you from rustification.

Give me no sex any day over the wrong one, for they only know how to rip out your heart and spit on the fucker.

Carl

 

[Guest]

Why are women so cruel, much more cruel than any man could ever be?

A broken heart's a broken heart, Dog. It's not to compare what body it's in or the sex of the creature that tore it up. The most innocent, beautiful angelwisp of a boy did mine in once and it really nearly killed me, but it had naught to do with his 'cultural construct'.

I've had too many men tell me they don't want to hurt me, which I always take as pre-defensive tactics. I always tell them, "You can only break my heart if I let you."

Lots of good advice above, but don't make it about differences.

best, Perdita

 

[Guest]

I was just thinking much the same as Perdita: women hurt, too. For every woman that has broken a man's heart, there is a man that has done the same thing to a woman. Believe me.

Also, most people do not set out to hurt the other. People change, circumstances change and it is incredibly painful, yes, but it is possible to move on.

I know this isn't at all comforting, but I guess what I'm trying to say is: don't get bitter towards women, there are angels out there, just as there are knights in shining armour (ok, so that's soppy and overly idealistic romantic drivel, but it happens).

Lou

 

[rgraham666]

I think the problem, Snoop, is the woman doesn't know what she wants.

And despite the belief that women talk more than men, they often aren't that good at communicating.

I've had that happen twice in the last year.

One woman, when we meet, sends me all kinds of signals. But she never calls, e-mails or any other method of speaking when we're apart.

The other woman I've been working on a relationship with for two years. We even set ground rules that: a) we communicate clearly with each other. And: b) we forgive one another when we fuck up.

She didn't and I haven't.

You could take my route on this, Snoop. Give up. I have now put having a relationship in the same category as winning the lottery. A nice fantasy, but not something I plan my life around.

I just write porn instead. Much cheaper both fiscally and emotionally, and I've had some success with it.

 

[minsue]

Beware, be-fucking-ware of the girl who wants to "stay friends". This is the kiss of death.

Just like perfection is the enemy of the good, friendship is the enemy of love. If she's already a friend then she doesn't have to propose it. And if you've ever been in love with her, it'll be impossible to be her friend. You'll always be looking for some sign of a love that isn't there.

You need to have a girl-ectomy, have it cauterized, and move on.


---dr.M.

I was about to say the same, but nicer. Your way was better.

 

[SnoopDog]

Thnx to all of you. You people are great. Actually I just had to rant about this and you guys really cheered me up.
Well, I have written her an e-mail now and asked her to actually tell me what's going on. But honestly I think it's over.
And those who said it isn't possible to be friends when there is love around.....I suppose you're right. I think I have to give it up completely.
It just ain't easy to loose something like that you know.

Snoopy

 

[gauchecritic]

It just ain't easy to loose something like that you know.

Snoopy

Nothing about relationships is easy, it's tension all the way and even though it's become trite and over used it really is true that "this too, shall pass."

Other useful trite things to remember include: "No pain, no gain." : "How can we know love without hate." : "Love never dies, it only fades." : "Women; can't live with 'em, can't kill 'em."

The most comforting one (I think) is from T. Pratchett at the bottom of my sig.

Gauche

 

[Guest]

Or, my husband's favourite: "Life's a bitch, then you marry one."



Lou

 

[bg23]

...*sigh*...

 

[raphy]

Nothing about relationships is easy, it's tension all the way and even though it's become trite and over used it really is true that "this too, shall pass."

Other useful trite things to remember include: "No pain, no gain." : "How can we know love without hate." : "Love never dies, it only fades." : "Women; can't live with 'em, can't kill 'em."

The most comforting one (I think) is from T. Pratchett at the bottom of my sig.

Gauche

Sorry Gauche, I don't believe in any of that.

If a partner starts messing you around emotionally, drop 'em like yesterday's bad news. The right one won't do that to you. And yes, these are totally my opinions, and I've lived (or tried to live) my romantic life by them for most of my adult life.

I hate it when people say you have to work at a relationship. I hate it when people say 'We fight, but we make sure we never go to bed angry at one another'. I hate it when people say if it's worth it, you'll work at it.

Bullshit.

There's 6 billion people in the world. You have to hold out for the one that you mesh with, so perfectly, so completely that you *don't* fight, you don't have anything to forgive, and you don't find yourself all tied up in emotional knots.

Utopia? Not at all. Everyone disagrees. You want to see movie A at the theatre, she wants to see movie B.

But that's a different kind of disagreement than one that leaves you feeling empty and hollow inside. That's a different kind of disagreement than one that ends with you slamming the front door off its hinges as you storm out.

Y'all don't think my kind of relationship can happen? My parents are living proof that it can. Before the far-too-early death of my mother, they were married for 28 years. From the very earliest time I can remember, I have zero recollections of any fights. They never argued. They never yelled at each other. They never made each other cry.

I never walked into the living room into an uncomfortable silence.

I never overheard voices raised in anger from behind closed doors - Not even the hissing whisper that people use when they're angry and want to stay quiet.

Never. Not once. Not a single time.

Every single day of my parents' marriage was happy, fulfilled and contented.

And I said to myself a long time ago that if that kind of relationship was possible, I would not settle for anything less for myself. I've seen the whole loaf of bread. I grew up in it. I'd rather have no loaf than half a loaf.

So, you see. I have proof that you don't have to 'work through things and put them behind you.' You don't have to 'forgive and forget'. You don't have to work at relationships.

You just have to work at finding the right person. It's my opinion that a lot of people don't want to wait that long, and end up with the wrong person. Because it ain't easy, finding that right person. I know this - But that said, going through the wrong ones can be a lot of fun while you waiting for the right one to come along.....

 

[English Lady]

That is really beautiful Raphy and I have to say you're probably right but sometimes your own insecurities blind you to the perfect other person.

I dumped my husband for an internet person (possibly a female as it turns out) o matter of weeks after we got together because I got scared by the intensity of it all. Mind you we stayed friends and well kept er hmm "at it" as it were and I soon realised my mistake and we've been together happily ever since.

Maybe its not 100% happy all the time.....but I think it is close.


Anyway Snoop.....don't torture yourself love...make the break. Not as simple as that i know..but you get the gist*L*

 

[SnoopDog]

"Women; can't live with 'em, can't kill 'em."

Gauche

Lol, I remember that from the movie 'U-Turn'
'' Women, can't live with 'em - can't shoot 'em ''

That's actually pretty mean. I just received an sms from her saying she wants to get rid off all the misunderstandings. *sigh*
I just don't know what's going on anymore.

Snoopy

 

[Madame Manga]

That girl probably knows perfectly well what she wants, or in this case, doesn't want, if she can admit it to herself. She certainly can't bring herself to say it, because she was raised, as most girls are, to be "nice" above all other considerations, including one's one personal safety.

Most men do not understand this principle of niceness, and there is no reason that they should; it's asinine. But it exists. Don't believe me? I have heard too many horror stories from ordinarily intelligent women who could not manage to extricate themselves from dangerous situations because BE NICE TO EVERYONE and DON'T MAKE A SPECTACLE IN PUBLIC was so goddamned ground and pounded into their brains from earliest childhood. Rapists know this perfectly well and take advantage of it at every opportunity.

Since they will not scream, curse and kick even in self-defense, it is almost impossible to get many well-bred females to say flat out what they mean if they think it might hurt someone's feelings. Not in the long run, because of course evasiveness is usually a bad thing for everyone's feelings in the long run, but in the immediate present as they are speaking to you. You are unlikely to hear hurtful truths from such lips, except possibly after the wedding ceremony.

MM

 

[raphy]

Mme Manga is, of course, correct. Although I think it goes for both genders. People are generally brought up to be nice, not make spectacles in public places, etc etc (and all the stuff that she said earlier)..

Snoop, my advice to you remains the same. Kick her to the kerb, find a woman that doesn't confuse and upset you. Trust me, she's out there. Somewhere - And she's probably looking for you, too.

Don't settle for a second-class relationship merely because it's right in front of you. It's more trouble than it's worth.