wives taking lovers...

[wildwesty]

So in seeing some of the personals, as well as reading some of the stories, I find myself wondering how husbands and wives enjoy taking lovers with the other knowing about to other person? I also wondered why husbands enjoy watching their wives getting plowed by strange guys too. My other question is how I could find a wife whose husband wished for her to take a young lover. I'll admit, there is something kinky about being that other guy not that it would ever actually happen but there is something about it. Hope my questions get answered.

 

[DirtyJJ]

My husband gets really turned on at the idea of me with another guy. I am still trying to learn why - I think he just likes to imagine me as some sort of wild nymph - the fantasy can be fun and I don't know that it would ever happen in real life, but I will never say never...

JJ

 

[wildwesty]

Your husband seems to be very similar to the stories and things I have read. I would never think that seeing my wife getting fucked by some guy would be a turn on, in fact I think it would really piss me off..but if you in to that sort of thing, then more power to you!

 

[phoenix1224]

Your husband seems to be very similar to the stories and things I have read. I would never think that seeing my wife getting fucked by some guy would be a turn on, in fact I think it would really piss me off..but if you in to that sort of thing, then more power to you!

Agreed... I'd probably kill the guy...

I guess I'm just selfish...

 

[wildwesty]

Agreed... I'd probably kill the guy...

I guess I'm just selfish...

Not selfish, just not into it I guess. It would be different if that was your thing though. What I wonder is how you get hooked up with a wife whose husband is into that. I do find it kinky to screw some guys wife because he wants her to be fucked and then return to him but I would never be the guy that she goes back to.

 

[DirtyJJ]

Not selfish, just not into it I guess. It would be different if that was your thing though. What I wonder is how you get hooked up with a wife whose husband is into that. I do find it kinky to screw some guys wife because he wants her to be fucked and then return to him but I would never be the guy that she goes back to.

I know what you mean- I think there are some guys who are absolutely not into it, and others who think it's the hottest thing ever. I am still trying to figure my hubby out - I mean, it's nice on one hand because I can be open with him and talk with him about other guys without him getting jealous, but still I wonder what the fascination is. I don't know if I could ever be the wife that does that, but for now it adds some fun on a fantasy level for us.
JJ

 

[SlvrTongueDevil]

No desire to see another guy fuck my wife. I guess I'm a contrarian ... I would let her watch while I fucked another woman.

 

[wildwesty]

No desire to see another guy fuck my wife. I guess I'm a contrarian ... I would let her watch while I fucked another woman.

Well see now this adds a whole new mix. I am in the category of not wanting to see my wife get fucked however, the thought of my wife/gf with another girl is very interesting. I figure having another woman going down on my significant other would be very interesting to see, or even just hear about. I don't know though. I wouldn't want to fuck another woman either so it is all just sttrange and different but certainly not bad. It wouldn't be bad to be that other guy though because that just sounds like fun to me. I'd hate to ruin a relationship though.

 

[SlvrTongueDevil]

Well see now this adds a whole new mix. I am in the category of not wanting to see my wife get fucked however, the thought of my wife/gf with another girl is very interesting. I figure having another woman going down on my significant other would be very interesting to see, or even just hear about. I don't know though. I wouldn't want to fuck another woman either so it is all just sttrange and different but certainly not bad. It wouldn't be bad to be that other guy though because that just sounds like fun to me. I'd hate to ruin a relationship though.

And not sure if I'd want to be the one who puts on the show. Although ... guess it would depend on if the woman was good enough to make me forget there was an audience!! Now if it was to loosen my load so someone could lick it out of her, well then I might just be willing.

 

[wildwesty]

I'm not into putting on a show, but I think that being the guy she screws before going back to her husband would be different, and is pretty kinky. How is everyone doing this fine evening?

 

[SweetErika]

I asked a guy why he wanted to see his woman with another man one time because I was curious about this too, and according to him, there were two facets that turned him on:
1) The idea that his woman was horny and naughty enough to have sex with another man...like her libido was so high, she couldn't get enough.

2) The idea that the woman was so hot and irresistible that another guy would fuck her, even with him present. "If another guy wants her that much, it must mean she's damn hot, and I'm a very lucky man to have her come home to me every night."

I'm not sure if this is a common perspective, but it seems to make some kind of sense.

 

[wildwesty]

Hello sweet erika! It is about time we ran into each other on a thread again! That is truly an intresting take. Would you be into watching your husband with another woman?

 

[SweetErika]

Hello sweet erika! It is about time we ran into each other on a thread again! That is truly an intresting take. Would you be into watching your husband with another woman?

Hi back! Well, that was a friend's opinion, not the hubby's. And no, I do not want to see my man with another woman. I can't rule out the idea of it turning me on, but I just can't get past the jealousy to enjoy even thinking about it.

 

[wildwesty]

Ahh yes, jealousy rears its ugly head...that would be my problem. As different and fun as it sounds to be that other guy, I wouldn't do it very easily, if at all because I wouldn't stop thinking about how I would feel except that, he is into that sort of thing, so well it gets pretty hazy. BTW, I like that pic in your AV, red is such a great color! lol

 

[Beloved]

Well having been in afew 3-somes, I can tell you that it's not just the joining in part that excites (though making a wife sandwich is one of the best parts of it), but also of watching somebody else fucking your wife and turning her into a wanton slut.

Most importantly though, it's a matter of trust. You trust your SO enough to let them fuck other people, knowing that they'll come back to you in the end.

 

[wildwesty]

Well having been in afew 3-somes, I can tell you that it's not just the joining in part that excites (though making a wife sandwich is one of the best parts of it), but also of watching somebody else fucking your wife and turning her into a wanton slut.

Most importantly though, it's a matter of trust. You trust your SO enough to let them fuck other people, knowing that they'll come back to you in the end.

So what you are saying is that the love and trust is strong enough for said action to take place? That really sort of makes you think that perhaps relationships in which swinging and other things take place are stronger than those that don't, but I would be in the group to argue against that statement myself.

 

[Beloved]

So what you are saying is that the love and trust is strong enough for said action to take place? That really sort of makes you think that perhaps relationships in which swinging and other things take place are stronger than those that don't, but I would be in the group to argue against that statement myself.

No, what I'm saying is that love and trust have to be there for the action to take place. If it's not, then all it will do is lead to bitterness and fighting.

 

[italianhawk]

I am one of those strange dudes who would love to hear that my wife took me up on the other guy offer. Right now, she is not into it, but she is young. I am thinking that maybe when she hits her thirties, things might change. I think it is very hot and we often talk about it during sex. Something about the closet slut/good girl for the family thing, does it to me every time...

 

[bsbrian]

I'm in the "I'd kill the guy" camp. I have no desire to share or be shared. I'm lucky in that my wife has the same attitude. For those who do want to share their SOs more power to 'em. As long as it's what everybody wants I see nothing wrong with it.

 

[Beloved]

So what you are saying is that the love and trust is strong enough for said action to take place? That really sort of makes you think that perhaps relationships in which swinging and other things take place are stronger than those that don't, but I would be in the group to argue against that statement myself.

other half here

alot of where a problem is for many people is that sex with a partner in a committed relationship is and should rightly be about love as well as lust and the idea of having sex simply for sex sake is a foreign concept to many people. Alot of people-and it's suprised me how many of them are men- feel that in order to have sex with another person there needs to be some sort of emotional attachment, especially on the part of a female partner. In other words they assume that their lover must have feelings for this other man otherwise she wouldn't be interested in having sex with him. That's where the problem lays, not in the act of watching a woman have sex with a strange man. If that were the problem the porn industry would die.

For some of us, that's not an issue. I adore my husband and he adores me. We have a life and a history together that nobody could ever duplicate or destroy. We love each other deeply and for us sex between us is a wonderful, deep and loving event. We are also human beings. To say that we, by virtue of loving each other, will never again feel a sexual urge,or desire for another person is foolish. In our opinion it is the suppression of those desires that we feel are natural human urges which leads to lies, adultery and deciet all of which ultimatley kill that relationship you didn't want to give into them to save. We are of the opinion that sex can be enjoyed simply for the sake of pleasure, with no strings attached if you feel strong enough in your relationship to accept that's all it is, physical pleasure. hubby knows I'm not going to leave him because some guy fucked me. I know he's not walking away from our life together over a roll in the hay. There's no clandestine meetings in hotel rooms, no furitive online flirtations, or hidden innuendos. We love, honor and trust each other and therefore we always-like any open couple- make sure the other is ok with anything that happens. It's not a fuck all you want card. There are guidlines and boundaries. That's part of the love and trust and respect for the relationship.Love, trust, commitment those all make your relationship, but in our eyes they can exist seperate and apart from sex.

It's not for everyone. And I say better to acknowledge that. To know what bothers you and be open about it is a wonderful asset to any relationship.
W

 

[mystic_maiden32]

My hubby doesn't mind. I don't know exactly why he gets turned on, and I have no problem seeing him with another woman. We know the difference between having sex and what we have as husband and wife.
It's not for everyone, but we enjoy it when it happens!

 

[AV guy II]

I have been slowley moving towards the wanting to see her with another camp. There is something about seeing my wife climax when we make love. The faces she makes and how she cries with pleasure drives me wild. I guess I'm just curious if she gets that way with others.

 

[DirtyJJ]

I asked a guy why he wanted to see his woman with another man one time because I was curious about this too, and according to him, there were two facets that turned him on:
1) The idea that his woman was horny and naughty enough to have sex with another man...like her libido was so high, she couldn't get enough.

2) The idea that the woman was so hot and irresistible that another guy would fuck her, even with him present. "If another guy wants her that much, it must mean she's damn hot, and I'm a very lucky man to have her come home to me every night."

I'm not sure if this is a common perspective, but it seems to make some kind of sense.

I think you are right on with this SweetErika, and I think this is what my hubby likes about the idea anyway. He has not necessarily said that he wants to watch, but to just hear about it for him would be hot.

Now, it doesn't go both ways because I do not have a fantasy of him being with another woman and I have made that clear. He doesn't even really express wanting to do it, but that's not for me either way!

I also agree with some of the people who talked about being able to have sex with someone and then coming home to your spouse... I think it is do-able if you have a lot of love and trust as was stated earlier. It's not for everyone, but I can see where it could happen if you have two very open minded people who love each other a lot.

JJ

 

[Motu79]

"To say that we, by virtue of loving each other, will never again feel a sexual urge,or desire for another person is foolish. In our opinion it is the suppression of those desires that we feel are natural human urges which leads to lies, adultery and deciet all of which ultimatley kill that relationship you didn't want to give into them to save."

Entirely my thoughts, Beloved.

 

[DirtyJJ]

I am one of those strange dudes who would love to hear that my wife took me up on the other guy offer. Right now, she is not into it, but she is young. I am thinking that maybe when she hits her thirties, things might change.

You may very well be right on this one, italianhawk. I have considered doing things now in my thirties that I would never have dreamed of before.
JJ