Wives and dildos...

[Blue_Duck]

Guys, I'm trying to spice up the sex life in my marriage. Currently, I have sex with my wife about once a month...and then it is pretty vanilla when it happens. Recently, I have been trying to incorporate some of her sex toys (dildos) into our play. Typically, I watch as she uses her favorite dildo (a vibrating rabbit I think it is called) which penetrates and stimulates her clit. I often use a cock shaped dildo to penetrate her after she comes using the rabbit. My question is how can i better use these tools to make things more interesting? I enjoy sucking on the dildo combined with some dirty talk. She has not/will not open up to me with any real fantasies. I do enjoy talking about threesomes and watching her pleasure other men when toying with the dildos. Anyway, sex between us is often seldom and does not always include the above stimulation (often it is just missionary and that is it). Do you guys have any recommendations to better use the resources at hand? Thanks much.
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[LindsayRae]

Hi. Have you tried posting in the How To board? I'm sure there's a wealth of amateur "advice columnist" that could help you.

 

[Blue_Duck]

The thought crossed my mind, I guess this is more of a how to question. I wonder if a mod can move it?

 

[Stella_Omega]

I can think of a handful of reasons why she won't tell you her fantasies. I am NOT saying that any of these reasons are good ones, okay-- just some of the things that i know women think about;

1) she's afraid that you won't like what she's thinking. That her secret desires are too wierd or too out there for you to even understand...

2) She feels that they are one of the things that belong to her all by herself that she doesn't have to share with anyone.

3)She might be fantasizing about a specific man-- Johnny Depp, or George Clooney or Snoop Dogg or Justin Timberlake or whoever... and feel that she's being disloyal to you.

4) she's afraid that if you know about them, you will want to act them out, and she might not trust you to do a perfect mindreader's job in doing so. In which case,

4a) it will ruin the fantasy forever for her, or
4b)it will hurt your male ego and she'll have to soothe you and assure you that it's okay​

5) the things you have said are so far from her own choices that she just doesn't even want to start-- do you know, for instance, if she actually LIKES to hear about herself fucking other men? She may have said yes, but there seems to be some disconnect there from what you're saying.

(eta) yes indeed, check the how to forums!

 

[LindsayRae]

I know this little post is no help, but FYI, this board is unmoderated.

Now, if you want to discuss your fetish for using dildos on your partner, you're in the right board! lol

 

[Blue_Duck]

Stella, thanks much for those thoughts. Those are some great points to think about....all but one of them never crossed my mind, thanks much!

 

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