Will straight women...

[SEVERUSMAX]

You're a pushover!

He's probably just getting out of denial. As I did. I went through the "hard-core, all the way straight" phase, too.

If I had to guess, I'd say that maybe a quarter of the populace is hetero (just a random number, but it makes sense to me). Another quarter is probably gay. The rest is bi, with degrees in a continuum, probably very close to Kinsey's scale. Works for me, anyway. So it's not shocking that many bi people with a heavy hetero bent realize that there is that small aspect of their sexuality that isn't hetero.

 

[SEVERUSMAX]

I said 'most'.

And I know.

Glad we are clear about both issues.

 

[OhMissScarlett]

To be honest, I think most of the bi people are gay. There's still such pressure to be 'normal' a lot won't face their sexuality still.

On the other hand, my data is limited so I could easily be wrong.

See, I do disagree. There are a lot of bi and gay people out there who would tell you they are straight. But, putting yourself out there as being bi is just as difficult for some as coming out as gay. So, why wouldn't one just take the plunge? Unless, for some people, saying they're bi is just a transitional stage to soften the blow for coming out as gay. It's not at all that way for me, though, or most of the other truly bi people I know. We want it all.

OMG, there could be so many bad puns in the above statement. Trust me, it was not intentional.

 

[OhMissScarlett]

Speaking from experience, even I am having doubts about my sexuality, and I thought that I was hetero as they come. Something about transgendered women and androgynous or effeminate young men (by young, I mean young adult men, not that young).

Hard to say about me, anymore. Who knows.

I think you're just a trysexual.

*snuggles you*

 

[rgraham666]

See, I do disagree. There are a lot of bi and gay people out there who would tell you they are straight. But, putting yourself out there as being bi is just as difficult for some as coming out as gay. So, why wouldn't one just take the plunge? Unless, for some people, saying they're bi is just a transitional stage to soften the blow for coming out as gay. It's not at all that way for me, though, or most of the other truly bi people I know. We want it all.

OMG, there could be so many bad puns in the above statement. Trust me, it was not intentional.

That's pretty much what I was trying to say.

Although to be honest, most of my experience with people's sexuality is here on Lit, where we speak about it openly.

And a fair number of people who listed themselves as bi now list themselves as gay. So my opinion is drawn from a probably too small data set and could very easily be wrong.

 

[OhMissScarlett]

That's pretty much what I was trying to say.

Although to be honest, most of my experience with people's sexuality is here on Lit, where we speak about it openly.

And a fair number of people who listed themselves as bi now list themselves as gay. So my opinion is drawn from a probably too small data set and could very easily be wrong.

well, judging from Lit, it would be entirely possible to think everyone's gone gay.

 

[rgraham666]

well, judging from Lit, it would be entirely possible to think everyone's gone gay.

Not me. I don't like my gender as a very general rule. Testosterone addled jackasses most of them.

For sexual partners or relationships? Uh, no.

 

[SEVERUSMAX]

See, I do disagree. There are a lot of bi and gay people out there who would tell you they are straight. But, putting yourself out there as being bi is just as difficult for some as coming out as gay. So, why wouldn't one just take the plunge? Unless, for some people, saying they're bi is just a transitional stage to soften the blow for coming out as gay. It's not at all that way for me, though, or most of the other truly bi people I know. We want it all.

OMG, there could be so many bad puns in the above statement. Trust me, it was not intentional.

For many, in fact, there is the old myth that there are no bisexuals and that we should just "pick a team". Grrrr....My landlady buys into that rubbish, as do some otherwise intelligent people. So there is pressure NOT to be bi, as much as it is popular and faddish to be bi in some circles. With both pressures, they cancel each other out, and I think that most people who call themselves bi, truly are bi. I know that I like women far too much to give them up, and I also find the occasional man attractive. I'd say that I am bi with a definite leaning toward the hetero side. I'd call myself a 2 on the Kinsey scale.

It's interesting, because I think that there have been bisexuals who leaned more toward the gay end, as well. Alexander the Great comes to mind, for instance. He'd be a 4 or 5 on the scale, in my opinion.

 

[OhMissScarlett]

For many, in fact, there is the old myth that there are no bisexuals and that we should just "pick a team". Grrrr....My landlady buys into that rubbish, as do some otherwise intelligent people. So there is pressure NOT to be bi, as much as it is popular and faddish to be bi in some circles. With both pressures, they cancel each other out, and I think that most people who call themselves bi, truly are bi. I know that I like women far too much to give them up, and I also find the occasional man attractive. I'd say that I am bi with a definite leaning toward the hetero side. I'd call myself a 2 on the Kinsey scale.

It's interesting, because I think that there have been bisexuals who leaned more toward the gay end, as well. Alexander the Great comes to mind, for instance. He'd be a 4 or 5 on the scale, in my opinion.

It's very interesting to be a bisexual person in the dating world. I had all sorts of experiences with people(gay and straight) trying to tell me what I "really" was. It's difficult for people to understand that we're not experimenting or going through some phase. I happen to be in a straight relationship, but I don't consider myself straight. The same would be true if I was in a relationship with another woman. I guess I'm a free agent who has a hard time picking a team.

 

[yevkassem72]

I think you're just a trysexual.

*snuggles you*

As in "try anything"? Well, to some extent, that's probably true. In the wake of my divorce, I'm certainly eager to use my new freedom to explore things. Things that wouldn't exactly appeal to my wife.

Snuggles back.

I just didn't think that questioning my own sexuality would be a consequence of this.