Wife’s Personal Political Correctness Filter fails when she has been drinking.

[akatrex]

My wife’s Personal Political Correctness filter fails when she has been drinking.
Some time ago she said something that really bothered me.

While driving home from a local restaurant and bar she blurted out “I would Do (i.e. Fuck) that Bartender”.

Most recently while driving home from a local restaurant we were talking about the movie “Hang Over 3”. During the credits Mr. Chow (Ken Jeong) is shown naked and sporting a tiny penis.

My wife blurts out I used to do an Asian and his penis was “Exceptional” i.e. Big Dick.

Don’t get me wrong, I may think things like that, but would never blurt out something like that to someone I love.

I have thinking about selectively Turning Off my Personal Political Correctness filter with my wife since nothing seems to get through to her.

Maybe I should drop a couple of Bombs on her once in a while?

You’re Thoughts?

 

[fire_breeze]

I'm personally not a fan of retaliation, but that's just me. If it bothers you - and it is obvious that it does - tell her. Be non-confrontational, something along the lines of "Darling, I noticed that your lock on your inner monologue disengages when you have been drinking; some of the things that you say bothers me. Can we talk about it?"

If she doesn't believe you, record it and then play it back to her when she is sober.

What concerns me that she is drinking to the point of not being able to use her filter. I mean, sure, alcohol loosens you up, and that I get and there's nothing wrong with that. But what's a bit disconcerting is that she is not aware of her environment - or doesn't care. It MAY (and I'm not suggesting it is) be a sign of a drinking problem, but that in itself isn't a cause of worry.

Good luck.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

My wife’s Personal Political Correctness filter fails when she has been drinking.
Some time ago she said something that really bothered me.

While driving home from a local restaurant and bar she blurted out “I would Do (i.e. Fuck) that Bartender”.

Most recently while driving home from a local restaurant we were talking about the movie “Hang Over 3”. During the credits Mr. Chow (Ken Jeong) is shown naked and sporting a tiny penis.

My wife blurts out I used to do an Asian and his penis was “Exceptional” i.e. Big Dick.

Don’t get me wrong, I may think things like that, but would never blurt out something like that to someone I love.

I have thinking about selectively Turning Off my Personal Political Correctness filter with my wife since nothing seems to get through to her.

Maybe I should drop a couple of Bombs on her once in a while?

You’re Thoughts?

You have bigger problems than communication; the communication is fine. Get a divorce and get a good one next time.

 

[akatrex]

"Darling, I noticed that your lock on your inner monologue disengages when you have been drinking; some of the things that you say bothers me. Can we talk about it?"

Fire Breeze,

Thanks for your input and like the ^^^

It goes against everything that I’ve been taught from my childhood on up. I was taught to be courteous and polite and have respect for others and especially the Ladies.




Again, Thank You for your input.


T-Rex

 

[akatrex]

You have bigger problems than communication; the communication is fine. Get a divorce and get a good one next time.

No never again. Been there done that.

I'll go work for Club Med!

 

[COCK_STAR]

If this us the only issue who gives a fuck. just remember, you can't turn a ho into a housewife.

 

[Subjugate_Me]

It seems your wife's filter is failing when there is a sexual element to her outburst, rather than simply an offensive remark about someone. Perhaps next time you could humour her by playing along with the conversation and seeing which way it goes. Is she angry about something? Does she want to push sexual boundaries with you but doesn't know how to broach the subject? There is always a reason for uncharacteristic behavior and it is worth exploring rather than shutting it down.

 

[sr71plt]

This is sort of a silly "problem" to pop up on a porn discussion board. Rather wonder why the OP is reading on Literotica at all to be this bothered by his wife saying this, either sober or drunk.

 

[theslutbunny]

This is sort of a silly "problem" to pop up on a porn discussion board. Rather wonder why the OP is reading on Literotica at all to be this bothered by his wife saying this, either sober or drunk.

Because not everyone thinks the same way you do.

 

[sr71plt]

Because not everyone thinks the same way you do.

Well, think about it. The OP is tooling around on a porn discussion board and upset about his wife being open about sexuality in her remarks to him. At the minimum he's being hypocritical. It sounds most like she's trying to get his briefs out of a twist and to pay at least as much attention to her as he's expending on Internet porn sites.

And it sounds a bit like you are hypocritical too, Bunny. (For one thing, I don't include "slut" in my account name and then go all prissy on a porn discussion board.)

 

[tonguedancer]

My wife’s Personal Political Correctness filter fails when she has been drinking.
Some time ago she said something that really bothered me.

While driving home from a local restaurant and bar she blurted out “I would Do (i.e. Fuck) that Bartender”.

Most recently while driving home from a local restaurant we were talking about the movie “Hang Over 3”. During the credits Mr. Chow (Ken Jeong) is shown naked and sporting a tiny penis.

My wife blurts out I used to do an Asian and his penis was “Exceptional” i.e. Big Dick.

Don’t get me wrong, I may think things like that, but would never blurt out something like that to someone I love.

I have thinking about selectively Turning Off my Personal Political Correctness filter with my wife since nothing seems to get through to her.

Maybe I should drop a couple of Bombs on her once in a while?

You’re Thoughts?

I think my reaction to your wife's comments would depend largely on intent. From what you said, she didn't "blurt" this out in a room full of people, it was just for you. Perhaps, just perhaps, she's trying to open up some sort of more "raw" sexual dialogue with you. You seem up tight about her talking about "doing the bartender" or other men with big cocks. Suppose you blurted out "Wow, that was one hot looking waitress tonight. I would have loved to fuck her or get a nice blowjob from her under the table." Or, "Her tits were not as big as that one girlfriend I had when I was in college." See how she reacts. Maybe she'll realize that her remarks are inappropriate OR maybe she'll love it and is looking for some hot dirty talk and roleplay fantasy about fucking other people you meet in your travels. For some folks, talking about (not necessarily doing) other people can be a turn on if you bring that "slutty" scene to your own bed. You need to find out what her motivations are.

 

[sr71plt]

Bingo.

 

[Loverskitten]

This is sort of a silly "problem" to pop up on a porn discussion board. Rather wonder why the OP is reading on Literotica at all to be this bothered by his wife saying this, either sober or drunk.

Some view this board as much more than "porn discussion" to me it's a writing/reading/learning board. I've seen questions range from growing tomatoes to finding partners for threesomes. There are knowledgeable people here so who cares why he's here?

Now to the OP. I think, first of all, she was drinking. I say all sorts of inappropriate and stupid things when I drink.

Secondly, since it really bothers you, tell your wife. Ask her how she'd feel if you brought up an exes beautiful breasts or tight pussy? She probably didn't mean to hurt you, hopefully next time she'll be more conscious of your feelings.

 

[sr71plt]

Doesn't change the hypocritical nature of the OP one iota. This is a porn board; if you post here, you are floating around on a porn board. The OP is reading and posting on a porn board--and knocking his wife for some private sex talk.

(You are reading and posting to a porn board too, whether or not you'd like to think that. The Internet "porn filters" filter this site out.)

So, maybe your counseling should include the wife--after the OP has said his feelings were hurt--asking him what the hell he thinks he's doing reading and posting to a porn board.

 

[LadyVer]

Doesn't change the hypocritical nature of the OP one iota. This is a porn board; if you post here, you are floating around on a porn board. The OP is reading and posting on a porn board--and knocking his wife for some private sex talk.

This is a porn forum for both men and women. Besides, the OP posted to the How To Forum, not the Personals or the gb. He probably figured he would get more serious and constructive answers here. He's not the first person to ask this kind of question on the HT. And he won't be the last. I didn't see his question as knocking his wife or private sex talk. If it had been private sex talk beteen him and his wife, he would have given different info.

 

[sr71plt]

Of course he's saying he's disturbed by what his wife said. And he saying that while posting to a porn board. Can we all say together "Double Standard"?

This is really quite funny.

 

[Emerson40]

My wife’s Personal Political Correctness filter fails when she has been drinking.
Some time ago she said something that really bothered me.

While driving home from a local restaurant and bar she blurted out “I would Do (i.e. Fuck) that Bartender”.

Most recently while driving home from a local restaurant we were talking about the movie “Hang Over 3”. During the credits Mr. Chow (Ken Jeong) is shown naked and sporting a tiny penis.

My wife blurts out I used to do an Asian and his penis was “Exceptional” i.e. Big Dick.

Don’t get me wrong, I may think things like that, but would never blurt out something like that to someone I love.

I have thinking about selectively Turning Off my Personal Political Correctness filter with my wife since nothing seems to get through to her.

Maybe I should drop a couple of Bombs on her once in a while?

You’re Thoughts?

I agree with FB above - a retaliatory blast from you would probably injure feelings more than it would help her understand, and things would likely escalate or deteriorate before improving.

Curious... Is this something she just does in your company only, or does her potty mouth engage when others are around?

If these type of blurts are coming forth in front of other people, including yourself, then you and your wee tippler need to discuss her behaviors, the inappropriateness of her words, and why you think it is not PC. Maybe agree to and set some boundaries / drink maximums.

If she is only doing this with you (I'm assuming she has had a few drinks in the company of others) when you guys are alone, but is able to bite her tongue when others are present, then you can have a similar discussion, but you will also need to explore what else is going on because it is not so much a filter failure, but her not engaging it in your presence.

 

[LadyVer]

Of course he's saying he's disturbed by what his wife said. And he saying that while posting to a porn board. Can we all say together "Double Standard"?

This is really quite funny.

Where is the double standard, Sr? Maybe his wife is on Lit or some other porn site. Whether she is or not, so what? He wasn't badmouthing her. And this isn't the gb.

 

[sr71plt]

Where is the double standard, Sr? Maybe his wife is on Lit or some other porn site. Whether she is or not, so what? He wasn't badmouthing her. And this isn't the gb.

Just love it that rule #32 of Internet chat rooms is to identify with the position of whoever brought the issue to the board and not consider taking a balanced look at the issue.

I think Tonguedancer nailed the issue already on this thread.

The guy is playing on an Internet porn board and he posts that he's disturbed that his wife talks sex dirty to him in private. Oh, wow. Yes, that's double standard. HE'S PLAYING ON A PORN BOARD FOR CRIMINEY SAKE.

I think Tonguedancer has probably nailed it. The poor woman most likely is trying to jolt him from his pretend sex games to pay some attention to his real wife.

That others here seem disturbed that a wife would talk sex dirty to her husband in private just tells me they are lost puppies by playing on a porn board too.

 

[LadyVer]

Just love it that rule #32 of Internet chat rooms is to identify with the position of whoever brought the issue to the board and not consider taking a balanced look at the issue.

I think Tonguedancer nailed the issue already on this thread.

The guy is playing on an Internet porn board and he posts that he's disturbed that his wife talks sex dirty to him in private. Oh, wow. Yes, that's double standard. HE'S PLAYING ON A PORN BOARD FOR CRIMINEY SAKE.

I think Tonguedancer has probably nailed it. The poor woman is trying to jolt him from his pretend sex games to pay some attention to his real wife.

That others here seem disturbed that a wife would talk sex dirty to her husband in private just tells me they are lost puppies by playing on a porn board too.

Unless you have a cam into their personal and private lives, as well as their minds, you have no idea what either of them are doing, nor do you know what the OP does on Lit. You're taking a legitimate thread on a non-gb forum and acting as if you have the right to judge the OP, and criticize him like a gb'er would.

I don't know the OP, and he has a conservative tendency to annoy the hell out of me on the gb. But this is not the gb, and you are not his priest.

 

[Emerson40]

This is really quite funny.

You may be the only one seeing the joke here.

There have been some fine Christmas baking ideas shared here (far as I know, no one has slipped their peni in any cakes or inserted any sweets in twats. If they have, they have not shared it here) in these forums. Some folks have garnerd tips on growing some fine-ass tomatoes, fix their computer, deal with the death of loved ones, and remove stubborn stains from clothing and rugs.

All done without their cocks (or Hitachi Magic Wands) in one hand, or any secret sexual agenda.

Maybe you're not explaining it well, maybe you're making something out of nothing, or maybe you're being pedantic. But hypocrisy, double standard, and even irony are a stretch here. The guy asked a legit question, in an appropriate fashion, on the board that would be the best place for it.

Would you be pacified had the OP asked about his wife's verbal blurts, while blowing him, while they drove home? Do you only see Lit as merely a porn board, nothing more?

 

[sr71plt]

This to Lady Ver.

Well, yes, I only know what was posted. You're the one who has gone beyond that.

If you can't see that he objected to his wife talking about sex in private--and is upset by her claiming to be aroused by one guy and having had sex before with someone other than her husband, without claiming that it was after they were married, you're pretty dense--and probably much too up tight to be posting to a porn board. Look around at what's being posted to this forum. Geez.

And if he's so sensitive to this, again. WHAT THE HELL IS HE DOING PLAYING ON A PORN BOARD?

Again, I think Tonguedancer nailed it.

And this to the last poster.

Yes, I think I'm the only one seeing the joke here. The OP is upset that his wife talks sex to him in private and he whines about it on a PORN BOARD THAT HE'S PLAYING ON. He is upset about discussing sex with his wife but not on a porn board with a bunch of strangers? You don't see the "funny" in that? You don't see how "Internet world" fucked up that is? No, he's not talking about tomatoes and recipes. He is talking about sex talk.

 

[LadyVer]

Well, yes, I only know what was posted. You're the one who has gone beyond that.

If you can't see that he objected to his wife talking about sex in private--and is upset by her claiming to be aroused by one guy and having had sex before with someone other than her husband, without claiming that it was after they were married, you're pretty dense--and probably much too up tight to be posting to a porn board. Look around at what's being posted to this forum. Geez.

And if he's so sensitive to this, again. WHAT THE HELL IS HE DOING PLAYING ON A PORN BOARD?

Again, I think Tonguedancer nailed it.

Again, you have no idea what the OP does on Lit, and not everyone goes to a porn site to screw around on, or betray, their partner.

 

[sr71plt]

Again, you have no idea what the OP does on Lit, and not everyone goes to a porn site to screw around on, or betray, their partner.

I guess I'll go with the "you're dense" thing then. I am sticking right to what the OP did come here and post. It was about his wife's sex talk. It was not about tomatoes and recipes.

And, yes, I noticed that you've completely ignored the issue that he's up tight about his wife talking sex in private but that HE, HIMSELF, IS PLAYING ON A PORN BOARD. That's double standard. And--by the OP's own posting--it's opting for the Internet world over the real world.

 

[GrrlFriday]

Perhaps you have been putting your wife on a pedestal, and she wants to share her fantasies with you? It sounds like when she has these 'outbursts' that they are for your ears alone. Perhaps drinking disinhibits her to the point where she feels she can blurt out stuff about big cocks to you, her husband. (She may also possibly 'blame it on the alcohol' afterwards - maintaining a 'good girl' facade, if needed).