My wife passed away from cancer a little over a year ago. This past April, not even a year since her death, a friend from college came back into my life.
Nothing felt rushed, but stepping back, and putting a calendar's perspective into the scene, a quick rebound is what it looked like. But our time together has nver felt rushed.
She was at the end of a divorce process, so there was mutual ground in the sense of looking beyond.
Sex happened surprising fast. Our first night together, which seemed too fast to both of us in conversation, but felt right in our actual time together. We listened to each other, and made sure if there were any complex emotions, or uncertain feelings of any kind, that we would listen to each other and stop. Amazingly that has not happened.
What has happened for both of us has been completely unexpected. We are both 47, and suddenly find ourselves having the best sex in our lives. We are both able to have longer sex sessions now than when we were twenty. Whatever it is that has taken us over sexually does not seem to be normal. At the same time there is nothing that feels out of place, or anything less than normal.
Our third time together, i had a three orgasm night. The last time I had that, I was 27. Twenty years ago. The last time I lasted for over an hour erect, I was twenty two.. The last time she had a multiple orgasm night, was nineteen years ago. Before she was married.
There is literally nothing new, or extraordinary, or highly kinky in what we do. Missionary with her legs up, while she pushes my knees, and doggystyle with her over the coffee table. She greatly prefers that to being on all fours on the bed. Full disclosure, she suggested this position, in fact recommended it to me, and not something I tried to get her to do.
We are all about consent, respect, kissing, cuddling, and love. If it's not right, no questions needed. We stop and try another position, or do something else together.
I have asked her about anal three times, and it is not something she wants, or is interested in. I would like to be in future conversations, but in truth, there is no reason for me to press if it is really not something she wants. I love giving her oral, but there are times, I'm not totally into it, so we both work to listen to each other.
We are not as good as Prince in how many positions we try. We have tried scissors, backwards, on top facing and backwards, but we really do come back to the basics. Most amazing is before this relationship, I had never tried doggystyle. She described it as a great "finishing position".
I was nervous the first time we tried it. She asked, "why". Because I've never done it that way, and always understood women to like it less than me.
I have never been a noise or "moan" guy. Not thirty seconds into our first doggystyle exploration, and we were both moaning. We lasted about five minutes, and ended up with us collapsing in a mutual orgasm. She had me take my condom off and wanted to see my cum, which seemed weird, until I noticed the goofy smile on her face. Like we had snuck cookies from the kitchen. Her interest became my interest. We quickly found a bond in being naked and trusting one another.
Our whole relationship is definitely calendar fast, but as long as we feel truthful, and mutual in our passion and enjoyment of one another, it seems like somehow we have discovered better sex than when we were adolescent, or even our sex active twenties.
Maybe forty seven is the new thirty five. Likely not, but there is not doubt we both get up for sex more now than anytime over the last ten years for either of us.
Nothing felt rushed, but stepping back, and putting a calendar's perspective into the scene, a quick rebound is what it looked like. But our time together has nver felt rushed.
She was at the end of a divorce process, so there was mutual ground in the sense of looking beyond.
Sex happened surprising fast. Our first night together, which seemed too fast to both of us in conversation, but felt right in our actual time together. We listened to each other, and made sure if there were any complex emotions, or uncertain feelings of any kind, that we would listen to each other and stop. Amazingly that has not happened.
What has happened for both of us has been completely unexpected. We are both 47, and suddenly find ourselves having the best sex in our lives. We are both able to have longer sex sessions now than when we were twenty. Whatever it is that has taken us over sexually does not seem to be normal. At the same time there is nothing that feels out of place, or anything less than normal.
Our third time together, i had a three orgasm night. The last time I had that, I was 27. Twenty years ago. The last time I lasted for over an hour erect, I was twenty two.. The last time she had a multiple orgasm night, was nineteen years ago. Before she was married.
There is literally nothing new, or extraordinary, or highly kinky in what we do. Missionary with her legs up, while she pushes my knees, and doggystyle with her over the coffee table. She greatly prefers that to being on all fours on the bed. Full disclosure, she suggested this position, in fact recommended it to me, and not something I tried to get her to do.
We are all about consent, respect, kissing, cuddling, and love. If it's not right, no questions needed. We stop and try another position, or do something else together.
I have asked her about anal three times, and it is not something she wants, or is interested in. I would like to be in future conversations, but in truth, there is no reason for me to press if it is really not something she wants. I love giving her oral, but there are times, I'm not totally into it, so we both work to listen to each other.
We are not as good as Prince in how many positions we try. We have tried scissors, backwards, on top facing and backwards, but we really do come back to the basics. Most amazing is before this relationship, I had never tried doggystyle. She described it as a great "finishing position".
I was nervous the first time we tried it. She asked, "why". Because I've never done it that way, and always understood women to like it less than me.
I have never been a noise or "moan" guy. Not thirty seconds into our first doggystyle exploration, and we were both moaning. We lasted about five minutes, and ended up with us collapsing in a mutual orgasm. She had me take my condom off and wanted to see my cum, which seemed weird, until I noticed the goofy smile on her face. Like we had snuck cookies from the kitchen. Her interest became my interest. We quickly found a bond in being naked and trusting one another.
Our whole relationship is definitely calendar fast, but as long as we feel truthful, and mutual in our passion and enjoyment of one another, it seems like somehow we have discovered better sex than when we were adolescent, or even our sex active twenties.
Maybe forty seven is the new thirty five. Likely not, but there is not doubt we both get up for sex more now than anytime over the last ten years for either of us.
