why?

[kittykattlove]

why is it when someone like me, who wants to find some one to be dominated by, looks but can't find? i want so badly to enjoy this life and experiance everything, yet no one wshes to show me the way. hell to give you an indication of ny non-existant sex life i'm a 21 year old virgin!

 

[Mizz_Erotica]

why is it when someone like me, who wants to find some one to be dominated by, looks but can't find? i want so badly to enjoy this life and experiance everything, yet no one wshes to show me the way. hell to give you an indication of ny non-existant sex life i'm a 21 year old virgin!

Doll theres hope for you yet...I was a 25 yr old virgin till recently...*fingers crossed* Your gonna get you some no worries

 

[Stiffy Says...]

patience sucks!

But trust me, it is worth it. I was 22 when I finally had sex, 24 before it got good, 27 before it was REALLY good.

If I lived closer, I would gladly try to connect, and see if we clicked, and could trade fantasy fulfillment.

Good luck, and don't lose faith or hope, my dear!

 

[harry johnson]

all in good time love...

patience is a virtue....some things just cant be rushed......a fine wine, a painting, an ice sculpture to name but a few.....when you least expect it, your body will shiver....

 

[styxitnu]

I wish

I wish I was close to you I would be happy to help you out.
I dream of being a Dom but just as you re having a hard time so am I you are not alone.
I suspect you will be getting alot of PM's soon so cheer - up.
I would caution you to be very careful and not rush into anything there are a lot of creeps on the net.
Once you have found someone, For at least the first time make this person take you to a hotel/motel they will have to show ID to check in and it will make it hard for someone to hurt you, There will be witnesses, Under NO instance go to someone's home or any place else.
If the person freaks out or gets mad or tells you he/she is the Dom and you must obey, And will not go to a public place (Hotel)
RUN FOR YOUR LIFE (Or you may lose it) this person is not worth it just because you are a Sub does not mean you have to be afraid.

Good Luck.
Styx

 

[LorriLove]

hiya kid

you've got plenty of time sweetheart, no need to rush it, don't do anything silly, there's some weird bastards about this here internet, you take care,

i lost my virginity long before i was old enough by law, i don't regret it, but i don't recommend it these days.
for one thing when i started out there weren't any incurable sex diseases about, aids hadn't been invented.


lorri xxxxxxxxx

 

[kittykattlove]

question

i am so happy to see others read what i had to say, and i thank all of you for your words of wisdom and encuragement. i have another question. my friend feels you can't have some one dominate you if you don't have sex. yet i feel the comlete oppisite. i feel you can be dominated and have sexual tention and feel sexual but sex isn't the main goal. to me the domination is. to have that person dominate me is what my goal is. now am i right? domination dosen't have to end in sex? or is my friend corect?

 

[LorriLove]

hiya again lovey

domination and sex are different items if you want them to be, sexual arousal will occur during dom activity, but it can be restricted to masturbation if the need is so high. you don't have to fuck to be dominated.

i know peeps into bdsm in a big way who never fuck during their play, only afterwards if they feel the need.


lorri xxxxxxxxx

 

[dcsatx29]

Re: question

i am so happy to see others read what i had to say, and i thank all of you for your words of wisdom and encuragement. i have another question. my friend feels you can't have some one dominate you if you don't have sex. yet i feel the comlete oppisite. i feel you can be dominated and have sexual tention and feel sexual but sex isn't the main goal. to me the domination is. to have that person dominate me is what my goal is. now am i right? domination dosen't have to end in sex? or is my friend corect?

I agree with Lorrie, I feel sex is not what I am looking for when I dominate. It is the feeling of the power over the person that satisfies me.

I also agree with you, it is hard to find someone who is into the lifestyle, especially when you are a single male...people think you are only out for their women, and that is not what I am after.

Dc

 

[Marklar]

why do you feel that you want to be dominated?

I wondered when posting this if it is like asking someone whether or not they are sure they are gay, or, is it just that if you were dominated someone else would be responsible/in charge (of course, ultimately, YOU are still responsible...)

Somewhat like I have fantasies of sex with older/experienced women that linger in my mind from my youth - partly from the few select experiences with older women, and partly for unfulfilled wildness/loosing control to a strong personality (not necessarily domme).

Do you seperate sex and domination?

Do/Can you visualize yourself in a role of equal "power"?

I'm not saying you should or shouldn't be able to, but it is interesting.

Good luck, take your time, and as said above, be very careful, not everyone will have your best interests at heart.

 

[Hexiegirl]

Awww. Hi KittyKat! I know of what you speak~ Good luck!

 

[Speakeasy]

Don't worry about virginity. You'll forget all about it once it's gone. It doesn't even come up in conversation!

I'm sure you'll find someone who'd love to dominate you. Just be sure to get some kind of recommendation from a woman [maybe on Lit] who knows he's not an axe murderer, or worse, unemployed!

I have had... uh... "part time" subs who are married or otherwise attached women who just need some... er... diversity in their portfolio.

Your being unattached opens whole new vistas of possibilty... maybe even... hold tight... a real relationship with a dom.

There's a "Dom seeking sub" and a "Sub seeking Dom" discussion group here. Try it out.

Good luck!

Kisses,

S