Why

[Shadowsdream]

Do you repeat yourself?
When is enough enough?
Does repetition make your point more or less valid?
Anyone care for a new conversation of introspection?

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

What did you have in mind?

 

[Shadowsdream]

Ahhh well now an incident that particularly comes to mind for Myself today has been what I call ICQ hell...when My ICQ goes mad with new subs (NOT) coming in with one question after another...when My answer is not what is wanted the same question will come in a new guise...barely vieled (sp)...My boredom is assured...contact is ended...the conversation is over...Now for Me..if I were to continue to play their questions game for their amusement I would weaken My reality and simply become their entertainment of the moment...
I can get a certain amount of amusement reading each new pathetic attempt to re-engage Me but it is only silence he/she/they receive in return.
Boring out those who have no opinion but ask for many seems to be a valid way to stop the converstation.

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

Why is it that people add me randomly to their Yahoo, and then never chat with me? I don't exist for teh convenience of others.

 

[Shadowsdream]

Already today I have typed a single word....19 times..and it is only ten to six in the evening!
...can i be your slave mistress?
...i wanna be ur slave mistress?
arghhhhhh...~~grin~~~
of course NO is not enough..then I have to get the ^why^

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

Already today I have typed a single word....19 times..and it is only ten to six in the evening!
...can i be your slave mistress?
...i wanna be ur slave mistress?
arghhhhhh...~~grin~~~
of course NO is not enough..then I have to get the ^why^

LOL
Don't you ever want to play with them first? Offer them a glass of warm urine as a sign of your 'new relationship'?

 

[Shadowsdream]

LOL
Don't you ever want to play with them first? Offer them a glass of warm urine as a sign of your 'new relationship'?

Ha Ha Ha...NO...O O that is 20 times!

I always wonder what they have in mind when they ask what they can do for Me?
Soooo today I took a moment and asked...of course since it is Me they wish will do something for/to them...it takes a long time to get the reply...~~anything mistess...i am a good servant~~

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

You know what? Sometimes it surely must be flattering, but 20 times in one day? Jeez! I would want them to come over so I could slap them hard and send them on their way.






Except, of course, who wants those people to know where you live?

 

[Shadowsdream]

Truthfully? It is never flattering...anyone that would make those kinds of statements to Me in a first or even second or third message is making the same statements to every Mistress they see online.
These people are looking to be entertained...

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

Truthfully? It is never flattering...anyone that would make those kinds of statements to Me in a first or even second or third message is making the same statements to every Mistress they see online.
These people are looking to be entertained...

This is why I have such a hard time approaching people online...I always feel like I'm guy #21, you know? If I do make the first move, it is very casual, not 'Submit to me, my sweet little cumwhore.' That sort of thing is so cliche, and makes me feel almost as stupid as it makes me look.

 

[Shadowsdream]

This is why I have such a hard time approaching people online...I always feel like I'm guy #21, you know? If I do make the first move, it is very casual, not 'Submit to me, my sweet little cumwhore.' That sort of thing is so cliche, and makes me feel almost as stupid as it makes me look.

I have met and ended up owning or training many from online.The ones that get and keep My interest are the ones that come to Me as one human being to another.
ANYONE that asks to submit to Me (the Mistress) without taking the time to get to know Me (the person) only sees the title and I am no more important to them than the last one they sent a message to or the next one they will send a message to.
I would think that Dominants are seen in the same way by submissives...there are so many honest ways to approach online if someone is looking for a connection.

 

[Ms_Lilith]

No one asks to be my slave, but people approach me online asking to cyber. I say no. Okay then, they say, let me see your tits. No. Your pussy? No. Well what good are you?


I was put on this planet to frustrate you, you little cretin. Move along.

 

[Goddess Helena]

I agree, Shadowsdream.

I don't think a relationship can start with 'Hi, I want to worship You.' Or whatever line they are using this week.
I would never take anyone who approached Me like that seriously. Because I do not want to be bothered, I do not list any information in My profile. It cuts down on contact with people who are looking for an afternoon playmate or whatever it is they are looking for.


Helena

 

[Richard49]

Truthfully? It is never flattering...anyone that would make those kinds of statements to Me in a first or even second or third message is making the same statements to every Mistress they see online.
These people are looking to be entertained...

or have no self esteem

 

[MissTaken]

I have met and ended up owning or training many from online.The ones that get and keep My interest are the ones that come to Me as one human being to another.
ANYONE that asks to submit to Me (the Mistress) without taking the time to get to know Me (the person) only sees the title and I am no more important to them than the last one they sent a message to or the next one they will send a message to.
I would think that Dominants are seen in the same way by submissives...there are so many honest ways to approach online if someone is looking for a connection.

Good post and I can say the same is true for me.

Well, on the flip side of the coin.

First, repetition is boring and when I feel that an introductory message or conversation is repetitious, chances are that the Dominant and I aren't going to be corresponding for very long!

Then, the Dominant who expects the word "Sir" or submission after a few days correspondance is also getting the polite "shove off" message from me.

The Dominant who is interested in me as a person, respects what I know about current events, literature, social awareness, movies, etc...is likely to be welcome to my buddy list. And who knows? Mayhaps there will be more than the internet to bring us closer in time?

 

[SierraMoon]

i agree..... i have gone into chat rooms where i am "expected" to address Doms as "Sir" or "Master".... i don't waste my time!

For someone to be called Sir by me, he needs to open up to me, just as much as i open up to him. Build a respectful, trusting relationship as people first, then go onto the task of endearments. Because that's what i feel the term "Sir" is to me, and endearment... meant for only 1 person.

 

[lark sparrow]

Do you repeat yourself?
When is enough enough?
Does repetition make your point more or less valid?
Anyone care for a new conversation of introspection?

It depends, sometimes I can't be bothered to argue anything, and sometimes I love it in a spirit of playfulness or challenge. In the case of a troll usually it goes ignored, but if I find it entertaining I will engage them for as long as it amuses, then end the conversation when I'm done. Often my amusement in this way comes from overriding their intentions, and making a game of it - usually I have a point to make, but I do enjoy the simple chase and humor as well. lol I can't help it. my nature is sometimes rather contrary and smart butt... when the answer or angle pops into your head without thinking, it's sometimes hard to resist. In college I absolutely loathed speech class (public speaking is not my gig), but they wanted me on the debate team. Perhaps I missed my calling as a contentious attorney, but if I am expected to be contentious of course the contrary instinct would be in not being contentious, but I did get into marketing so there's a more persuasive outlet.

It's probably no coincidence that Mistress is also a Leo like me, and has a law degree. We learned long ago that getting into an argument of points usually does not work well for us as it might not stop for hours and in the end it may be difficult to even remember what the original point was after jousting. In a heated debate stubborn and slippery had met their match and of course She always holds the trump card (and I must admit I like it that way). In conflict, we now tend to get down to the most simple of truths, which usually involve wishing to continue a harmonious, trusting and open D/s relationship (as cliched as that sounds).

If it's someone and something I sincerely care about, and we are trying to work something out, I will repeat myself for the benefit of communication, but if it's not helping matters sometimes it's better to give it a rest with a 'to be continued...' or god forbide, shut up and really listen.

 

[Shadowsdream]

I see this conversation is going to have many dynamics just as I had hoped it would.
Now..who would like to tell Me how you would have answered the last ICQ I recieved while in the do not bug Me mode?

...hello...I am interested in meeting a friendly+single woman that would like to join me on a holiday to the Greek Islands!

 

[lark sparrow]

Ha Ha Ha...NO...O O that is 20 times!

I always wonder what they have in mind when they ask what they can do for Me?
Soooo today I took a moment and asked...of course since it is Me they wish will do something for/to them...it takes a long time to get the reply...~~anything mistess...i am a good servant~~

lol that is classic. It could be a troll looking for a quick fix or someone who feels they cannot be themselves yet and is still trying to live up to an assumed role which they feel will be desirable.

It can be really intimidating to introduce yourself, especially to a Domiant when new though. Do you think simple honesty about wanting to make a connection and not knowing exactly what you're doing, even though somewhat dorky, is the most genuine and compelling introduction or answer?

 

[Shadowsdream]

lol that is classic. It could be a troll looking for a quick fix or someone who feels they cannot be themselves yet and is still trying to live up to an assumed role which they feel will be desirable.

It can be really intimidating to introduce yourself, especially to a Domiant when new though. Do you think simple honesty about wanting to make a connection and not knowing exactly what you're doing, even though somewhat dorky, is the most genuine and compelling introduction or answer?

I absolutely think the best approach...is to introduce yourself...explain a little about who you are and why you have contacted ME in particular..be honest..if I was the first Domme online..say so...but OMG do not ask Me what I like to do...

 

[lark sparrow]

I see this conversation is going to have many dynamics just as I had hoped it would.
Now..who would like to tell Me how you would have answered the last ICQ I recieved while in the do not bug Me mode?

...hello...I am interested in meeting a friendly+single woman that would like to join me on a holiday to the Greek Islands!

Wonderful! I have a special running this month as a match-making travel agent. Will that be Mastercard, visa or paypal?

lol sorry, that was the best I could on short notice.

 

[Goddess Helena]

I see this conversation is going to have many dynamics just as I had hoped it would.
Now..who would like to tell Me how you would have answered the last ICQ I recieved while in the do not bug Me mode?

...hello...I am interested in meeting a friendly+single woman that would like to join me on a holiday to the Greek Islands!

I am not single. Nor am I friendly.





Helena

 

[SierraMoon]

I am not single. Nor am I friendly.





Helena

How perfect! That would certainly stop me dead in my tracks!!

 

[Goddess Helena]

How perfect! That would certainly stop me dead in my tracks!!

* giggles *

It does seem to work.


Helena

 

[Richard49]

I see this conversation is going to have many dynamics just as I had hoped it would.
Now..who would like to tell Me how you would have answered the last ICQ I recieved while in the do not bug Me mode?

...hello...I am interested in meeting a friendly+single woman that would like to join me on a holiday to the Greek Islands!

why, are you falling apart?